Young guy problem

[MTGMGTOWParticipant 235]

After the s~~~ a woman put me through, the stories I’ve read on here, and all the MGTOW content I’ve seen on YouTube, the Monk lifestyle is something that is VERY appealing to me. However, I am 22 years old, so my sex drive is still strong.

I see blue pill men that went MGTOW like myself as recovering addicts. The chemical reaction known as “love” is probably the most powerful high a human can experience, and it’s that addiction that made me keep coming back to her despite the relations~~~ clearly not being worth it. I fear that if I try hooking up I may relapse. I regret losing my virginity, especially when I was blue pill, because it only made me easier to control.

I know I could watch porn. I used to do it 5-9 times per week. However, I’m trying my best to suppress my sexual urges now, so I’m on day 8 of NoFap. Also, people who have done this for extended periods of time claim to have benefits such as overcoming social anxiety and increased motivation, which are two issues I have.

I am aware of the dangers of pumping and dumping. I know about STDs, false accusations and being tricked into fatherhood. So I am basically in a situation where I am trying to not satisfy my sexual urges in any way, and this seems like an extremely difficult task. Is anyone here in a similar situation, or does anyone in general have some insight into this?

I've had to learn lessons the hard way more times than I should. I've been very fortunate to find MGTOW when I did. Swallowing the Red Pill saved my future.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

So I am basically in a situation where I am trying to not satisfy my sexual urges in any way, and this seems like an extremely difficult task. Is anyone here in a similar situation, or does anyone in general have some insight into this?

Biologically you are programmed to have Sex, and Attempting to go Monk at the age of 22 is going to be challenging to say the least.

Personally, I think you will be more successful on your MGHOW path if you don’t start with such highly restrictive requirements. In other words, I’m concerned that if you can’t go Monk that you may question the fundamentals of MGTOW, and possibly go back to the plantation with the false assumption that MGTOW is not right for you because you can’t go monk.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 54]

Im glad Ive gotten older.
If it makes you feel any better, there is no sex after marrage.
So you havent lost anything there.
The desire can be a curse. But giveing in to it can ruin your life.
How to minimalize your sufferng is the question.

[BoarParticipant]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

Is anyone here in a similar situation, or does anyone in general have some insight into this?

I doubt you will find an age where whimyn are not a problem. If you have testicles and/or resources, you are in their sights….

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Anonymous 3]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

I am aware of the dangers of pumping and dumping. I know about STDs, false accusations and being tricked into fatherhood. So I am basically in a situation where I am trying to not satisfy my sexual urges in any way, and this seems like an extremely difficult task. Is anyone here in a similar situation, or does anyone in general have some insight into this?

It’s neither difficult nor easy. It’s more of a question of are you going to do it, because ultimately, you consciously make your choices. It’s not involuntary. And the urge itself is rather trivial compared to when you really have to poop or extreme hunger.

It may help to start small. Make a decision today, tell yourself, I’m not going to masturbate today. Then over time, you do two days, then three, etc. Or just go cold turkey. Nothing is really stopping you.

Also, learn to forgive and accept, if you do end up having a cheat day and masturbating, take it easy. Acknowledge it, accept it, and move on, don’t stress it or beat it over the head.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

It’s ok to f~~~ them. Just be smart about it. Don’t get all f~~~ing emotional about them. It is merely a transaction.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Nero wrote:

It’s ok to f~~~ them. Just be smart about it. Don’t get all f~~~ing emotional about them. It is merely a transaction.

If you keep your sex within the domain of hiring professionals, Sex can/should be looked at like going to get your hair cut. It’s a service provided by a service provider. It’s safe, satisfying, and has the lowest probability for a SERIOUSLY negative outcome.

Once Emotion gets dragged into it, this is where the problems begin.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[MACHOParticipant]

Totally agree with with Awakened, like everything else in life setting up the bar too high is most likely setting yourself for failure! We’re not superheroes! We have limitations! I had to go through hell back and forth several times before ending up living the monk lifestyle! Now I couldn’t give a s~~~ about women because of all the torture they put me through. Also your hormone changes as you get older which helps a lot seeing women for what they really are! Mere bear traps!

Awakened wrote:

Biologically you are programmed to have Sex, and Attempting to go Monk at the age of 22 is going to be challenging to say the least.
Personally, I think you will be more successful on your MGHOW path if you don’t start with such highly restrictive requirements. In other words, I’m concerned that if you can’t go Monk that you may question the fundamentals of MGTOW, and possibly go back to the plantation

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

I see blue pill men that went MGTOW like myself as recovering addicts

Very good analogy. You will suffer withdrawal from sex due to your biology. Monk is not something to aspire to, it is or is not. I say use your red pill knowledge to your advantage and let the women meet your needs all while knowing you will not fall for the cohabitation or marriage trap.

[ABParticipant 762]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

The chemical reaction known as “love” is probably the most powerful high a human can experience

Cocaine is a pretty good alternative. Less expensive and damaging too.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[ABParticipant 762]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

I am aware of the dangers of pumping and dumping. I know about STDs, false accusations and being tricked into fatherhood. So I am basically in a situation where I am trying to not satisfy my sexual urges in any way, and this seems like an extremely difficult task. Is anyone here in a similar situation, or does anyone in general have some insight into this?

Try looking into #NoFap for guidance.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

So I am basically in a situation where I am trying to not satisfy my sexual urges in any way, and this seems like an extremely difficult task.

Sure is, brother. You’re going against your basic biological programming, NOT that there’s anything wrong with that. However, that suppressed sexual energy needs to be channeled somehow, so make sure you have a hobby/passion to divert yourself with, or you’ll go crazy.

I’m a very busy man, which makes it easy not to get distracted by sex, but when I have free time, I make sure to engage in activities that take up 100% of my attention. For me, that’s reading, writing, exercising, gaming, and sometimes watching movies, though that’s a pretty passive activity, and if there are hot chicks in it, you might end up right where you started. 🙂

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Set up a date night. Only watch porn, jerk off on one night per week. A reward if you will.

Also, accept it. It is what it is. No shame, no big deal.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Freedom Not SlaveryParticipant 508]

I wouldn’t suggest giving up sex or masturbation at all, what you can do is keep masturbating and use escorts/hookers when you want sex so your not emotionally involved and she leaves when you are done.

There is no reason to deny yourself enjoyment, or sexual pleasure when there are safe alternatives that are cheaper, not going to mess with your head, and will not drive you insane because you are sacrificing for no reason.

[Red KnightParticipant 720]

MTGMGTOW wrote:

After the s~~~ a woman put me through, the stories I’ve read on here, and all the MGTOW content I’ve seen on YouTube, the Monk lifestyle is something that is VERY appealing to me. However, I am 22 years old, so my sex drive is still strong.

I see blue pill men that went MGTOW like myself as recovering addicts. The chemical reaction known as “love” is probably the most powerful high a human can experience, and it’s that addiction that made me keep coming back to her despite the relations~~~ clearly not being worth it. I fear that if I try hooking up I may relapse. I regret losing my virginity, especially when I was blue pill, because it only made me easier to control.

I know I could watch porn. I used to do it 5-9 times per week. However, I’m trying my best to suppress my sexual urges now, so I’m on day 8 of NoFap. Also, people who have done this for extended periods of time claim to have benefits such as overcoming social anxiety and increased motivation, which are two issues I have.

I am aware of the dangers of pumping and dumping. I know about STDs, false accusations and being tricked into fatherhood. So I am basically in a situation where I am trying to not satisfy my sexual urges in any way, and this seems like an extremely difficult task. Is anyone here in a similar situation, or does anyone in general have some insight into this?

I don’t really buy into the whole NoFap thing, but it might be a good test of your ability to subvert your urges. When I was in my early 20s, I also dealt with social anxiety/shyness and lack of motivation. For me, the only thing that helped me with these was life experience.

Social anxiety/shyness comes from giving too much credibility to other people. The more you are around people and see how full of s~~~ they are, how stupid they are, the less you begin to care about their opinion. Like I said previously, the one thing that curbed my shyness was working in retail pharmacy. In this setting, you will undoubtedly confront customers directly about insurance problems, not being able to fill medications, or not having medications ready. You will see the ugly side of people here and you will learn to gain a healthy disrespect for them. So if you want to kick social anxiety, try getting a job where you directly interact with the public. Being a waiter at a restaurant would be good.

And in my opinion, a lack of motivation means you have not felt the consequences of having no motivation yet. To me, I gained my motivation when I realized I was in my early 20s, living at home with my parents playing video games all day, no good job prospects, and nearly got kicked out of college. I knew I was going straight to hell if I didn’t do something. And so I did.

I am 30 years old, I have kicked my social anxiety, and have a good paying job. The balance on my bank account is looking good, because no woman has sucked it away from me. My sex drive is still powerful at times, but fapping occasionally takes care of it. Whatever you do, just don’t ACT on your sex drive. Talking to women when you’re horny is akin to grocery shopping when you’re hungry.

Formerly MoneyOverBitches

[Anonymous 1]

Red Knight wrote:

Social anxiety/shyness comes from giving too much credibility to other people. The more you are around people and see how full of s~~~ they are, how stupid they are, the less you begin to care about their opinion.

this. double.

Once you realise other people’s opinions don’t matter, there’s no reason to worry about looking like a fool in front of them.

Practice DGAF. Its liberating.

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