I’ve made a post similar to this a couple of months ago, but now I’m admittedly getting MORE worried.
As some know, my best friend of 16 years now got out of the military in March of 2014, and I’ve loved having him back. He and I can talk about literally anything to one another and not worry about the other telling everyone else. Typical buddy stuff. He now lives next door to me, and that’s even better. If I need to talk to him about anything (or vice versa), we’re just a door knock away (literally)…that is, if his girlfriend isn’t home.
If anything, as soon as his girlfriend gets home, he excitedly leaves my place saying “she’s home now, so I’ve gotta go.” I sometimes tell him he doesn’t HAVE to, and he can sit and watch more red pill videos with me (I’m slowly exposing him to them and have been for most of the year…slowly, but surely).
The last time I posted about him, he was talking about marriage and how he’s not sure if he wants to get married after watching Divorce Corp and the MGTOW videos I’ve showed him, but went on about how amazing his girlfriend was. The post I made before talked about how he said “pre-nups are an option.” She gives him sex every day from what I understand (or at least every day that he wants it), and she pays for food and half the rent to his place. He says how great and “different” she is. I’m happy for him, I really am. She doesn’t seem TOO bad, but I don’t want to be blind either. I really do worry.
Just last night, I had him watch Terrence Popp’s video on pre-nups and how they can be a BAD idea. I showed him posts about how they can just as easily be thrown out by courts. He was frustrated by the legal system (for good reason!), but then brought up how he knows men in his former military groups that cheated on their wives while overseas in Korea. Seemed like a deflection of “men do it, too!” This definitely isn’t an attack on him, I just think there’s still some work to be done. He brought up how his girlfriend wants to pay for a trip for them to go on. He was telling me how she pays for things equally and how hard she works.
…Yet, I wonder how long that will last. He’s also stated that they argue over things, but he’s sure it’s “his fault usually because of how he reacts to things.” He puts the blame on himself, and that bothers me a lot. I KNOW it’s not “just him.” I know him by now. He has the same quirks as me, so much so that we can read each other when something is wrong. He’s almost EXACTLY like me personality-wise to a T, and that’s why I want to help him out of this horrible case of Oneitis. He says it bothers him a little when he realizes that a lot of the friends he has through her would probably NOT be his friend anymore if he broke up with this girl he’s seeing. He’s very up and down about the relationship.
I’m not sure what more to tell him at this point. I just don’t want to see him get married and screwed over. She may insist to him that she’s not going to do that to him. She may shower him with gifts and show that she’s just as willing to spend on him as he does for her, but…there’s SOMETHING missing here. There’s something I’m forgetting to mention, and I’m not sure what it is.
Elric Greenstone 4 years, 2 months ago.
