Women Sorry but not Sorry

[narwhalParticipant]

My theory…when you apologize for something, if the apology is sincere it should accompany some sort of restitution. A reconciliation, a debt to be paid.

Years ago, I was moving and getting help from friends. A friend of mine was eager to help out and did. Unfortunately, he dropped one of my chairs and scrapped it up pretty good. He apologized profusely and offered to buy me a new chair. I didn’t accept his offer as it was relatively fixable, and the guy was barely making it and supporting two kids. Plus, he volunteered to help.

Now, if it had been a woman, she would never had offered to pay for damages. If she apologized, she would not have meant it. She would blame the chair being too awkward to hold, the ground was slippery, the door frame wasn’t wide enough. No attempt at resolution.

So a woman will quickly apologize for minor things, where no restitution is possible/necessary. However, if it’s actually going to cost her, cause her to change behavior, be in debt to someone…forget about it.

The same hold true on thankfulness. Say for example a man risks his life to save another man. The saved man will consider himself in debt to his savior. It’s a common theme in movies. Weak boy gets protected by bigger friend from bullies. Now they’re adults and former weak boy is constantly bailing out his friend due to his debt. Do you ever see that with women?

Ok. Then do it.

[boisdevieParticipant 257]

You know, if I had £1 for every time a woman had said sorry to me I’d have £0.

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