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Not much to say really.
Fairly newly married, have a young son to her.
She goes off and starts shouting in front of our son today. I ask her to stop raising her voice and calm down for his sake. After I ask her about 5 or 6 times to stop, I pick up my son and say I’m taking him to his grandmothers (so he didn’t have to listen to that crap).
I didn’t shout once at her. I don’t waste my energy on her anymore.
She picks up the phone and dials 999 (the emergency number, you know for emergencies…) and continues to shout down the phone and tells the operator that I’m abducting our son.
Police arrive, tell her to calm down and that I’m allowed to take my son anywhere I want. They suggest one of us leaves the home – which is exactly what I was trying to do before she called them.
Cop says he has to fill in a report and it will go to social services.
I was embarrassed the cops had to come to my quiet street and now just numb at what insanity happened this afternoon.
I want her gone but I want custody of my son.
Hang in there brother. Things are looking grim. You did good staying calm. Really good. Remember, you are not alone. Seek legal advice asap
Get a lawyer asap, trust me… Make sure your son is on your side so he can vouch for you. File a case that you’re more financially stable, and capable of taking care of your son so the court will have to grant you your sons custody. Make sure you state your wife is verbally abusive and it may turn into a physical matter.
Oof. So sorry to hear this.
I hate to cut my sympathy expression short but you need a game plan immediately. At this very moment, your wife and her best friends are plotting to take you down, take your assets, and your son.
Here’s what I would do if my girlfriend tried this with me (granted I don’t have a kid but still):
1. Start documenting all future interactions. This marriage is running on fumes now. Communicate via e-mail, text. When you talk via Skype, have a screen recorder/audio recorder on. When things are getting heated at home, have a pocket recorder. In many states, it’s legal to record if you’re a party to the conversation and you give consent to being recorded (i.e. you don’t need her consent). In states that it isn’t legal, it’ll still prove useful in trying to get her out quickly and quietly. When sending e-mails, express your maturity and nurturing capabilities. Say stuff like “Dear Wife, I took away the son because your words were hurting him a lot” etc. Make her send acknowledge and apologize via e-mail. This will help in court.
2. Start sharing your condition with your own friends. Right now, she’s building a sizable witness list. You need to do the same. Take your son with you to your friends and share what happened. Show that you’re a nurturing/caring/protective father.
3. Install hidden cameras. At this moment, you and your wife are in verbal confrontation. This has a high potential to escalate to her hitting you. She can hit you, and then claim you hit her when you call the cops. You need solid evidence to keep you from being imprisoned. If it’s just her word against yours, you ARE going to jail. Instead, what you want to do is this: record her hitting or otherwise being aggressive. Wait for her to call the cops. When she does, pull all the footage from the hidden cameras and show it to them. Then, charge her with falsification/harassment.
4. Separate financially. I mean it. Take out your share of cash from the joint accounts if you have them and put it aside. Deactivate credit cards that you’re sharing with her.
5. Start building some quality time with your son. You want your son to not be coachable by your wife and her attorney. Take him out on some amazing trips where you two can bond: fishing, biking, etc. Take pictures of you guys having fun. One night, sit him down and explain what is happening in simple terms. Tell him to not be afraid to tell the truth about what’s going on between mommy and daddy if anyone asks, and tell him that if anyone threatens him, he should say who did so in the court of law.
6. Get an Attorney. Explain everything and tell him that you want a strong case built before you file for divorce. Ask him what evidence would help build your case, protect your assets, and grant you custody.
7. Build your case over a few weeks/months.
8. File for Divorce.
9. Live happily ever after.
PS- Your wife WILL call and say she is sorry. Have a recorder ready. She may abuse you on the phone. This is all good evidence.
Best of luck.
Fairly newly married, have a young son to her.
I don’t want to sound like a jerk or anything like that but…. are you listening to any of this @The Road Warrior ?
more throttle ..... less brakes.....
Needless to say your wife is yet another worthless c~~~. I applaud your composer and also deem it wise to keep your son away from such erratic behavior unworthy of being alive.
Remember your plan? Asset invisibility? Get going.
DON’T LEAVE THE HOUSE. MAKE HER GO.
Keep your son in the house as that is what he is used to.
Don’t give any ground unless court ordered.
Record, film, keep ALL communications.
Get lawyer … but NOT a woman.
Get a bulldog lawyer that will rip her up.
We’re here.
Anonymous42<scratchy deep old Indian voice chanting and rain dancing> Thisis whyIhoppa, sothe, lightningstrika f~~~inbitcha!
Not much to say really.
Fairly newly married, have a young son to her.
She goes off and starts shouting in front of our son today. I ask her to stop raising her voice and calm down for his sake. After I ask her about 5 or 6 times to stop, I pick up my son and say I’m taking him to his grandmothers (so he didn’t have to listen to that crap).
I didn’t shout once at her. I don’t waste my energy on her anymore.
She picks up the phone and dials 999 (the emergency number, you know for emergencies…) and continues to shout down the phone and tells the operator that I’m abducting our son.
Police arrive, tell her to calm down and that I’m allowed to take my son anywhere I want. They suggest one of us leaves the home – which is exactly what I was trying to do before she called them.
Cop says he has to fill in a report and it will go to social services.
I was embarrassed the cops had to come to my quiet street and now just numb at what insanity happened this afternoon.
I want her gone but I want custody of my son.
Its imperative you get a police incident report ASAP. They need to file one, it may just be a few sentences but you need it. That document will show you’re not some abuser, since she will make that claim if you want your son after a divorce.
She called the cops because she knows how woman act and she thinks you’re doing what a woman does, abduct kids.
"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power."
Abraham Lincolnsame s~~~ bro..listen to the advice given , the marriage is over when law enforcement enters the scene . sorry man..look forward to better days coming !
This is why having a gopro is handy it makes people behave all of a sudden. If you can’t get one you can use your cell phone to record what she says.
"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle
I was in the similar situation, only she was taking our daughter somewhere, and I couldn’t take it. Took the phone away and bumped her to the couch. She missed the couch, went ballistic and called the cops. I made myself a sandwich and took my daughter to a swing in the backyard. Result – domestic assault charge, no contact order. Pled guilty of disorderly conduct, two years later marriage was over.
This was the event that exposed me to MRAs and later MGTOWproud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome
Remember your plan? Asset invisibility? Get going. DON’T LEAVE THE HOUSE. MAKE HER GO. Keep your son in the house as that is what he is used to. Don’t give any ground unless court ordered. Record, film, keep ALL communications. Get lawyer … but NOT a woman. Get a bulldog lawyer that will rip her up. We’re here.
Most assets hidden but I have some money in a UK account – how to make that disappear? A gift or loan to one of my friends? Or my family? Do I need a paper trail?
Can I ask her to leave the house? It’s in my name, I bought it before she even knew me. I want her to leave my son here but I know she won’t go without him. If she moves out and takes my son that looks bad for me?
Thanks everyone.
I’m going to get legal advice as soon as I can. I have the police officers details and will call him and ask for him to include a statement on my behalf in his report.
Anonymous25Can I ask her to leave the house? It’s in my name, I bought it before she even knew me. I want her to leave my son here but I know she won’t go without him. If she moves out and takes my son that looks bad for me?
Take legal advice about changing the locks while she is out and you have the kid. She has made a false allegation to the police so that’s harassment as she was the one shouting at you. That’s domestic abuse against you. I strongly recommend you contact a charity called Mankind Initiative for advice. http://www.mankind.org.uk/
Get some legal advice about getting a non molestation order.
The police lie and will be captain save a hoe, make sure you record every conversation with them.
Hi Progenitor. I’m saddened to see another family destroyed but even sadder to know what you have to go through. Been there done that.
Read over Oneforfreedom’s reply, lots of good advice there.
Sorry I have no advice for you, believe me you don’t wanna do what I’d suggest.
Save your son!
Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!Oof. So sorry to hear this. I hate to cut my sympathy expression short but you need a game plan immediately. At this very moment, your wife and her best friends are plotting to take you down, take your assets, and your son. Here’s what I would do if my girlfriend tried this with me (granted I don’t have a kid but still): 1. Start documenting all future interactions. This marriage is running on fumes now. Communicate via e-mail, text. When you talk via Skype, have a screen recorder/audio recorder on. When things are getting heated at home, have a pocket recorder. In many states, it’s legal to record if you’re a party to the conversation and you give consent to being recorded (i.e. you don’t need her consent). In states that it isn’t legal, it’ll still prove useful in trying to get her out quickly and quietly. When sending e-mails, express your maturity and nurturing capabilities. Say stuff like “Dear Wife, I took away the son because your words were hurting him a lot” etc. Make her send acknowledge and apologize via e-mail. This will help in court. 2. Start sharing your condition with your own friends. Right now, she’s building a sizable witness list. You need to do the same. Take your son with you to your friends and share what happened. Show that you’re a nurturing/caring/protective father. 3. Install hidden cameras. At this moment, you and your wife are in verbal confrontation. This has a high potential to escalate to her hitting you. She can hit you, and then claim you hit her when you call the cops. You need solid evidence to keep you from being imprisoned. If it’s just her word against yours, you ARE going to jail. Instead, what you want to do is this: record her hitting or otherwise being aggressive. Wait for her to call the cops. When she does, pull all the footage from the hidden cameras and show it to them. Then, charge her with falsification/harassment. 4. Separate financially. I mean it. Take out your share of cash from the joint accounts if you have them and put it aside. Deactivate credit cards that you’re sharing with her. 5. Start building some quality time with your son. You want your son to not be coachable by your wife and her attorney. Take him out on some amazing trips where you two can bond: fishing, biking, etc. Take pictures of you guys having fun. One night, sit him down and explain what is happening in simple terms. Tell him to not be afraid to tell the truth about what’s going on between mommy and daddy if anyone asks, and tell him that if anyone threatens him, he should say who did so in the court of law. 6. Get an Attorney. Explain everything and tell him that you want a strong case built before you file for divorce. Ask him what evidence would help build your case, protect your assets, and grant you custody. 7. Build your case over a few weeks/months. 8. File for Divorce. 9. Live happily ever after. PS- Your wife WILL call and say she is sorry. Have a recorder ready. She may abuse you on the phone. This is all good evidence. Best of luck.
Thank you for this detailed reply. I’m trying to take it all in and decide what to do first. I’ve just started a new job and its pretty full on. I can’t take anytime off to get my head straight just yet.
Next stop is legal advice and the cop who came to visit us.
I’m very interested in hearing if it is possible / legal to ask her to leave my house, and I keep my son at home with me?
I knew this insanity would come one day, but still wasn’t expecting it to be as insane as it is right now. Can’t I just get her sanctioned for being clinically insane?? That would apply to 99.9% to women I’m guessing.
Gosh, I remember this happening to me in 2012 with my ex who was leaving me for a “woman.”
She lived with me in my apartment. I invited her to sit with me and watch a movie while I cooked us a nice dinner that included steak. I won’t forget her looking at me and saying “I don’t even like steak…” (which was a lie). She then said she was just going to go out and needed some “time alone.” I was still a serious blue piller at the time and even THEN I had a feeling she was going out to see that woman she was slowly leaving me for. I knew her. She wasn’t the type that liked to be “alone.” It wasn’t her.
When she dismissed all of my attempts, she left the apartment. I stood in disappointment and angrily pounded the wall once in frustration. She came back into the apartment and saw the slight dent in the wall that I caused. She knew I wasn’t a violent person, and I’ve never laid an intentionally harmful hand on anyone, but she called the police on me anyway. The policeman AND my ex’s girlfriend showed up at the same time (imagine that!), and he talked with all three of us (why he needed to talk to the girlfriend’s girlfriend, I have no idea). After learning that my ex’s girlfriend was a previously convicted felon, he didn’t take much of what she said into consideration afterward. He told me I was in a situation I needed to get out of, and FAST…but that I needed to leave the premises to cool down the situation, even though it was MY apartment.
I went back to my apartment that morning (thinking that they stayed at my ex’s girlfriend’s house instead of mine), only to find that they were sleeping together on my couch-bed. My ex tried threatening the police on me while the ex’s girlfriend was threatening ME and calling me all kinds of names. I tried getting the police on the threatening “other woman,” but was told they couldn’t do anything unless she actually laid a hand on me.
So, they’ll send someone over if a guy sounds potentially threatening, but they won’t do much if it’s a woman, even if she’s a previously convicted felon. I learned my lesson that day. Thankfully, I had no kids, though.
I’m agreeing with everyone here. Save your son…AND your stuff if you can. It’s all rightfully your stuff in the first place.
Anonymous42the marriage is over when law enforcement enters the scene .
Zone’s correct, when they call the “authorities” you’re no longer the “head” of YOUR HOUSE! You’ve been decapitated or castrated at the least! It’s another misconception bread into women by feminism that man are best subservient to the gyno-worshiping law, as they are. They have no idea whatsoever just how TOXIC their mindset is on society’s men, women, and children. It’s one of many driving forces that fertilize the endless fields of MGTOW.
She came back into the apartment and saw the slight dent in the wall that I caused. She knew I wasn’t a violent person, and I’ve never laid an intentionally harmful hand on anyone, but she called the police on me anyway.
You too Megachris! It seems women have endlessly abused the 911 “emergency system” to tie up operators with their lies for the sole purpose to spiritually castrate men!
When this system f~~~s the glory hole, and 911 is history, we’ll see who’s willing to tolerate a little yelling and wall pounding or be dismissed into the wild to FEND AND DEFEND FOR HERSELF!
I never endorse or commit violence, or even yelling at a woman, but under a deceased 911 society women would be more than willing to be abused just for a little food.
Pride goes before the fall, and as of now, feminism couldn’t be more proud of their accomplishment that now plague this society with utter evil and man destruction. I can’t say it enough; WOMEN HAVE BECOME
TOXICDEADLY to a mans security, happiness, sanity, health, longevity, and destiny.These rot bags that pass themselves of as
womenladies, should be every mans concern more than anything else. Why? Bacause they can KILL YOU from the inside out, until you’re nothing but an empty shell void of security, happiness, sanity, health, longevity, and destiny. You become another “man sacrificed” on the evil alter of feminism.@ Progenitor, Sorry too hear you have that to deal with that, I still have the Police called on me from time to time (never with merit though). Still they can’t be trusted as a whole as they are part of this gender biased system. They still go by the teachings of the known paedophile Jorge Corsi (as seen on ‘erasing Dad’) whose teachings include the notion that domestic violence/emotional abuse etc to men doesn’t exist (sure. it may be given lip service recognition here and there but that’s all), so if your wife decides to get even more vindictive, she will have the system on her side and not be treated as the guilty party.
I have absolutely no record of being a perpetrator of DV, rather I’m a victim of it, still I have been recommended to be considered for it by Social Services, which would be laughable if it wasn’t causing so much stress and making my legal battle drag on so long. Messengerrising also was a victim but had to go on a DV course. Something to keep in mind now that that gate has been opened by her calling the police on you.
I don't need pussy
@ Progenitor, Sorry too hear you have that to deal with. I still have the Police called on me from time to time (never with merit though). Still they can’t be trusted as a whole as they are part of this gender biased system. They still go by the teachings of the known paedophile Jorge Corsi (as seen on ‘erasing Dad’) whose teachings include the notion that domestic violence/emotional abuse etc to men doesn’t exist (sure. it may be given lip service recognition here and there but that’s all), so if your wife decides to get even more vindictive, she will have the system on her side and not be treated as the guilty party.
I have absolutely no record of being a perpetrator of DV, rather I’m a victim of it, still I have been recommended to be considered for it by Social Services, which would be laughable if it wasn’t causing so much stress and making my legal battle drag on so long. Messengerrising also was a victim but had to go on a DV course. Something to keep in mind now that that gate has been opened by her calling the police on you.
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