It doesn’t matter if you have been with a woman for 10 weeks or 10 years, it seems to be one of their bizarre flaws.

W: (7:00 am) “We are meeting for dinner tonight. What time should we tell her we will be there 5:15?”

M: “That is too tight of a schedule to make it there on time.”

W: “Well she says the buffet is best if you get there before 5:30 on Wednesdays.”

M: “Why should we rush for her?  She ALWAYS is late, or flat out cancels.  Tell her 6-ish.”

W: “Well, OK. I but I would rather get there sooner. So we will say 5:30-ish.”

M: “Uh-huh. Go ahead and rush, so you can feel foolish when you get there and she cancels.”

W: :annoyed as f*ck:

M: :completely ignores her and walks out of room:

W: (4:00pm) “She cancelled…”

M: “SHOCKER!!! Not!”

W: “Well I don’t really feel like going out tonight anyhow.” :starts changing to completely unrelated subject in true AWALT form:

M:  >:/

Almost all women have this flaw, I have seen it my whole life – all of them regardless of age.  The problem I have is when I know the REAL scenario, and give her the LOGICAL and CORRECT answer, and she is consciously aware that the friend cancels 50% of the time – yet she chooses to ignore it as if the friend hasn’t already been late or blew her off countless times.

As always, the core issues are forms of Validation.  She really wants to be validated that she is right.  When she is wrong she is still validated to some degree, by having someone to intelligent to consult.  In the end it also may come down to the simple validation of just having the pathetic need to “hear herself talk” in front of an audience, even though she is really just having a conversation with herself.  I don’t think there are many women out there who understands how frustrating this is to men. “Validate MEEEEEEEEE!”

It is a no-win situation.  Even when I try to rise above, and just remain neutral, it infuriates them in a different way.  My new tactic is a revised version of past failed ones.

W: “So I am thinking 5:15…”

M: “Perfect!”

W: “But you didn’t even listen to the rest!”

M: “5:15 is good.”

W: “But I wanted your input…”.

M: “Why, so you can ignore it like always?”

W: ………………….

If she gets the message great, I win.  If she gets p~~~ed, then I see her true colors – still a win.

Experiences?

Whatever comes out their mouth…it’s usually defensive techniques to fool you.

Example: “I do NOT want a sugar daddy”

bulls~~~, why wouldn’t she?

This is a real world example. I was sent one extensive text message to a woman that included a bunch of information…paragraphs, tons of my thoughts on her and my speculations…just throwing things out there. And out of all that I said, her 3 statement reply included the need to ‘defend’ herself by replying specifically to one silly statement I made jokingly about her needing a sugar daddy. I was just shootin’ the s~~~, and gets all direct and straight forward about her NOT wanting something I was f~~~ing joking about.

I could only speculate on her true thought processes.  If I actually had an intimate and truthful understanding of feminine logic, then I would be either insanely rich or richly insane.

1.  As you said.  She wanted validation that she is correct.

2.  I am or she thinks (more likely) I am an IDIOT and therefore anything I say is the wrong answer so doing the opposite is the best thing to do.

3.  She is an idiot.  She knows it.  Can’t stand it.  Feels inadequate, so yin yangs everything I say.

I stopped giving a s~~~ as to how women think nine years ago.  What they need to fully understand is the word ‘No’.

“It’s OK… I forgive you.”

great fun

Why do women ask for a man’s advice, and then do the opposite?

I’ve never figured that one out. It’s been happening all my life. I suppose I might as well ask, “why do moths chase after flames?”

As always, the core issues are forms of Validation.  She really wants to be validated that she is right.  When she is wrong she is still validated to some degree, by having someone to intelligent to consult.  In the end it also may come down to the simple validation of just having the pathetic need to “hear herself talk” in front of an audience, even though she is really just having a conversation with herself.  I don’t think there are many women out there who understands how frustrating this is to men. “Validate MEEEEEEEEE!”

This reason has my vote. It is a common tactic with narcissists. It’s called narcissistic supply.

They operate out of default preconception that you are wrong and they are right. If they don’t know what’s right – they take what’s wrong and try the opposite. The whole idea is the hope to make a fool out of you and then rub your face in it: “I told you so”.

This is by the way a pretty strong strategy. And instead of discounting it as “stupid” – try it for yourself and see the miracles you will achieve. Listen to a woman and do the opposite