What to do with kindness and being vulnerable?

[GrotesqueRogueParticipant 116]

I suddenly looked at my personality from another perspective.
I consider myself really kind and caring. I can feel the pain of the others and it can hurt me really badly. As a result, I had to develop some kind of a coping mechanism – otherwise, I would not be able to function properly.
That was also one of the reasons why almost all of my relationships were doomed – I would find a broken girl, help her get to another level, and then everything would turn to crazy situations.

How to deal with it? Those feelings leave me really vulnerable to the open world and manipulations.

I think that finding a mission would help me, but… it seems like a workaround to me, it doesn’t deal with the actual problem – me being unable to control my feelings and getting hurt because of it.

P.S. Right now, I started thinking – is it some kind of white-knighting? It seems to me so. Mister Save a Damsell in Distress. At least that’s who I used to be.

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

Snap out of it ffs! Either that or you will stay a door mat for the rest of your life. Have you anytime ever seen anyone wiping their feet and giving a single “thanks” to the textile used?

[Anonymous 9]

I don’t care for sluts.

The type of women who put themselves in positions to be used and abused, and then cry victim?

If you haven’t read The 48 Laws of Power then you need to check out law # 10.

Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky.

To not follow this law is to your own peril.

Really there are only a few laws that I agree with, but that’s one in which I firmly believe in.

[Anonymous 3]

I don’t consider kindness and empathy to be bad things at all. I mean, that’s what sets a lot of men apart from women and their sociopathic ways. It’s not your fault that women can’t handle being in the presence of a good, kind human being, you know.

Try to perhaps redirect a part of your outward kindness and love to yourself. You can’t love others when you’re not in a position that allows you to, and definitely not if you’re hurt or dead.

[GrotesqueRogueParticipant 116]

Yeah, I need to become stronger.
I don’t want to find myself in bad situations that I could’ve avoided.

I guess I just need to control my emotions properly.

[WolveParticipant 191]

Kindness should be reserved for those you can trust, being kind is great and feeling for others is awesome but only to those who deserve it.
I am also a very kind person in the past I used to help people although I wasn’t quite as invested into helping random people though but I would help them if they asked me or if I saw that they needed it nonetheless. It is simply not a good idea to do so.
You should instead learn to simply not pay attention to those who you aren’t sure of would do the same for you. So just make sure the people you show kindness to are those friends who have stuck with you through heaven and hell with you supporting you and you supporting them.
You can still help strangers just don’t get too invested in it cause that is what places a big sale sign out there saying “COME GET YOURSELF A SLAVE OVER HERE, FREE OF CHARGE!” to all the manipulative people around you. I started reading a book about that recently I just started so I don’t know how good it will be but maybe you might want to try it. It is called: “Whose pulling your strings” I couldn’t buy it over here so I’m reading it here ftp://all-electric.com/stats/Whos.Pulling.Your.Strings.pdf which was posted in another thread on mgtow.com I forgot where though but I digress put in some effort and I hope it all works out for you.

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