What is it like living in a big city? Is it overrated?

[Anonymous 54]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

I lived in the City for 30 years. I loved it. It was 20 minutes to everything.

I live in the country now and while it’s beautiful, it’s deadly boring.

Give the City a try. It doesn’t sound very exciting where you are.

Do it while your young. As you get older a City becomes more difficult.

Exactly. I pick up phsycic energy.There is none out here. Im still trying to adjust. Youve got to be into your home life, and out door activetys.

When I was young I liked iveing in the City, but hated it at the same time.

If your young( to me 50 and under haha) you should give it a try.
But its not easy.

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

There’s a reason why people migrate from cities to suburbs and not the other way around.

[CthulhuParticipant 698]

NYC stinks. Lived in Norwood for a few years, could smell it when the wind shifted.
However, s~~~ tons of stuff to do. No reason to ever be bored. Of course, you’ll always be flat broke, paying rent and such. Mix bag. YOLO

Why vote for a lesser evil? #ICETHEMOUT

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2149]

I live a medium sized city so I have the best of both worlds.

There is always lots to do and lots of jobs.

Real Estate is not as high as in the bigger cities, yet you have at least some ‘elbow room’ and are able to maintain your privacy (unlike small towns).

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[SuggestiusParticipant 3312]

Maverick wrote:

It’s kind of a catch 22

I didn’t see a catch 22. How old are you, what is your occupation, how is big your working experience? Big cities give many possibilities. That’s true. But only a few people are able to gain a benefit out of it. The rests just get low-paid jobs which are buttload.

Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)

[Anonymous 2]

It all depends on what you’re looking for. If you prefer public transportation to get around instead of dealing with the costs of buying and maintaining a car, a city or a suburb next to the city is probably the best choice. People usually think of ghosting as living off the grid, but it’s actually very easy to ghost in cities. You’re just one of a countless number of faces walking around each day. Small towns are very gossipy. Everyone tends to know each other and be in everyone else’s business. Big cities allow you to just blend in with the crowd, and people tend to leave you alone, for the most part.

[SuggestiusParticipant 3312]

Anonymous wrote:

Big cities allow you to just blend in with the crowd, and people tend to leave you alone, for the most part.

Good for you, you have never known Russian old ladies who spend hours and hours sharing rumors with each other while sitting on the benches near porches and discuss every person passing by. They know everything about everyone. No chance to hide your personal life even in the city.

Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

I moved to a big city one….. Big mistake.

It was fun somewhat, but dealing with idiots in traffic, and surrounded by the hive, I had to move back to the country.

Best to be isolated. Trust me.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

The only way to find out, is to try it.

Come-on, Old Heyoka, what are you saying? People say the same thing about marriage!

Puffin Stuff wrote:

I live in the country now and while it’s beautiful, it’s deadly boring.

Puff, I felt the same way for years after moving to the sticks! Now the peace and tranquility (boring) is very healthy for my mental health and good blood pressure! The city is always noisy in every sq inch and every second, night, day, 24/7! 1982 I left the city, psycho bitch, and the hustle’n’bustle! I haven’t seen another person since last Sunday! Just me, my dogs, and the animals. I would be arrested for the way I live now if I tried this lifestyle in the city!

What do mean I can’t have a bonfire with flames 30 ft. high??? Can’t shoot guns? No animals, no garden, and ripping around with unregistered vehicles???

living in the city is to be henpecked by gestapo like tyrants! They FINE you for EVERYTHING and then some!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Small towns are very gossipy.

Only if you allow others to invade your privacy, otherwise nobody knows your business!

Kaido wrote:

dealing with idiots in traffic

OMG! The biggest reason EVER!

It takes me more time to travel to Boston and back (70 mi), several hours stuck in traffic, taking most the day (6+ hr commute).

My place in Vermont (175 miles away) takes 2 1/2 hours one way for a 5 hour commute total!

70 miles in 6+ hours and a nervous wreck vs. 175 miles in 5 hrs., cruise control, no white knuckle driving, no pushing, no shoving!

[Anonymous 54]

Mg Try being married to a sexless woman, and living in Allston..

Oh the humanity….

[SuggestiusParticipant 3312]

Anonymous wrote:

70 miles in 6+ hours and a nervous wreck vs. 175 miles in 5 hrs., cruise control, no white knuckle driving, no pushing, no shoving!

Citizens never understand townsmen.

Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)

[Anonymous 2]

Suggestius wrote:

Murph wrote:

Big cities allow you to just blend in with the crowd, and people tend to leave you alone, for the most part.

Good for you, you have never known Russian old ladies who spend hours and hours sharing rumors with each other while sitting on the benches near porches and discuss every person passing by. They know everything about everyone. No chance to hide your personal life even in the city.

Well, I’m not in Russia. I’m in Ireland. Here, it’s certainly easier to ghost in a big city. If you grow up in a small town here, you know everyone and everyone knows you. Move to Dublin, and people really won’t give a s~~~ what you do. Other than exchanging the usual pleasantries of saying “hello” to your neighbors, there isn’t much interaction unless you initiate it yourself.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24983]

I live in a small community of beach cottages on a picturesque lake north of NYC.

The women around here would love to get involved in my business. I make sure to come and go as little as possible and never loiter outside so I have to say hello to them.

They actually asked my contractor, does Puff still live there?

Winning.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[FrankOneParticipant 1442]

I’m in the ‘burbs of a major Midwest Rust Belt S~~~ty. I actually SELECTED an employer based on DISTANCE from me a couple years back. In my chosen career, there are few employers spaced widely in this region, as it’s specialized.

Sounds strange, but now I have a job which is under TEN minutes from my house as a result. That, to me, is a huge advantage, as previously I drove 30-90 minutes to work one way. So it’s akin to adding an hour to my day. I’m really just done with the driving, I’d probably retire rather than drive 60 or even 45 min to work one day at this point in my life.

I like living in the suburbs as it’s a compromise between higher costs in the city and fewer things to do in rural areas–and I still have some land, a nice yard for the dog. In my case, I’m nearly 50 years old, and have no interest in clubs or night life, so the central city has little charm. It’s less time to drive into it in 20 min once or twice a week for leisure if I should want to, then to face a 30 min commute to work every day. I probably only drive downtown once a month.

[Anonymous 1]

I lived in the Big S~~~ty of Detoilet (Detroit) when I was in my early twenties. The Clubs and the Night Life was so exciting (LoL). Trance Music and skinny heroin whores dancing in cages. Coked up sleaze bags selling Ecstasy to suburban kids. Crooked cops, doing crooked things, man it was a great time!

<sarcasm>The other thing I miss was the incredibly polluted air and water. Left a great taste in the mouth. </sarcasm

Seriously, the crime was unbelievable. I still have PTS from all the break-ins, robberies, shootings etc. I don’t miss having to push broom the used needles off of my sidewalk every morning.

F~~~ the City. Get in the sticks with the hicks.

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

having to push broom the used needles off of my sidewalk every morning.

I know those kind of neighborhoods, that’s just about every liberal indoctrinated city throughout the nation! Epidemic levels of people, both men and women destroying themselves!

Looks like the war on men unexpectedly crossed over to include women and children!

Collateral damage at unheard of levels!

Trying to handle modern women is like kicking your way barefoot and blindfolded down a side walk covered with AIDS infected needles!

[MaverickParticipant 811]

SH3LLZ wrote:

I’ve personally gotten used to the commute. Been doing it for over 10 years now.. Lol

Geez I’m getting old. Lol

Being on the trains isn’t so bad. You just need to be aware and not a zombie stuck in your phone.

It is tiring but so is driving. I had to do that too. Traffic weather issues.. Commuting sucks no matter how you do it.

I know what you mean. I have done it so long that I’m used to it although I would love to have some of that time back.
Podcasts help when in a car. At least you can read and surf the net on the train.

SH3LLZ wrote:

I just want to make one more point about commuting.

BREAKDOWNS.. If a train breaks down, Youre stuck. Thats it. Youre just stuck. If youre underground, You cant call anyone and if you had plans, or had to pick up your kid… NOPE. Which is a shame because China has cell service in their subways and you never know what kind of claustrophobic nut might freak out on your train car.

If your car breaks down on the side of the road, you can call for help true. Yet, you’re waiting and your going to be paying and arm and leg for towing and repairs depending on your circumstance. If its raining or snowing or anything like that, the situation is that much more miserable… Ive been through BOTH.

Choose wisely… LoL

My car broke down not too long ago. It was frustrating as hell but a tow truck was there within 20 minutes.

[MaverickParticipant 811]

Suggestius wrote:

Maverick wrote:

It’s kind of a catch 22

I didn’t see a catch 22. How old are you, what is your occupation, how is big your working experience? Big cities give many possibilities. That’s true. But only a few people are able to gain a benefit out of it. The rests just get low-paid jobs which are buttload.

I work in IT/technology. Over 15 years experience. Lots of experience is not always a good thing in this field as there aren’t too many job ads that require more than 10 years experience let alone 15.

[MaverickParticipant 811]

Anonymous wrote:

It all depends on what you’re looking for. If you prefer public transportation to get around instead of dealing with the costs of buying and maintaining a car, a city or a suburb next to the city is probably the best choice. People usually think of ghosting as living off the grid, but it’s actually very easy to ghost in cities. You’re just one of a countless number of faces walking around each day. Small towns are very gossipy. Everyone tends to know each other and be in everyone else’s business. Big cities allow you to just blend in with the crowd, and people tend to leave you alone, for the most part.

Good points.

Cars are a hassle but I think I would prefer a car over public transportation on a daily basis. I’m thinking that the best places for a MGHOW are either a big city or rural but I could be wrong. I couldn’t imagine living in a subdivision in a suburb. Maybe a condo

[MaverickParticipant 811]

FrankOne wrote:

Sounds strange, but now I have a job which is under TEN minutes from my house as a result. That, to me, is a huge advantage, as previously I drove 30-90 minutes to work one way.

That would be awesome to have such a short commute.

FrankOne wrote:

I like living in the suburbs as it’s a compromise between higher costs in the city and fewer things to do in rural areas–and I still have some land, a nice yard for the dog. In my case, I’m nearly 50 years old, and have no interest in clubs or night life, so the central city has little charm. It’s less time to drive into it in 20 min once or twice a week for leisure if I should want to, then to face a 30 min commute to work every day. I probably only drive downtown once a month.

I can see where could work as well as long as you are able to avoid nosy neighbors.

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