UPDATE: Nearing 2.5yr Mark Off The Plantation

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

I thought I’d share an update. The holidays are a time of reflection for me – where I’ve been, where I’m going and how will I get there.

Made it through divorce after getting some tough love from some peeps here and God, I can’t thank you enough!

While I divested myself of the Selfish One and 1/2 of my 401(k) in the process, my happy quotient has skyrocketed. My health has never been better. I was never sedentary, but I’ve literally transformed the way I look. I shifted my workouts from pushing weights around a little bit to running…. when I say running, I mean like Forrest F~~~ing Gump.

I’d never run much when on the plantation – but since I left I’ve run numerous 50ks, lots of 30ks, 25ks, halfs, yadda yadda. Then 3 weeks ago I qualified for Boston with a 3:18 marathon.

Work has had some challenges, but I have them ironed out. My relationship with my son is incredible – he gets it. My teen daughter and I have a s~~~ty relationship b/c her Selfish Bitch Mom has turned her against me. I DGAF – if she wants to be a bitch I just tell her she is spoiled and turn my back and walk away. I’m not saying I’ve given up on any relationship with her, but I won’t expend any energy kissing a snotty teen’s ass. Maybe she will come around and if she doesn’t, I’ll leave her $500 and my son will get the lion share of the estate.

I’m digging myself out of the financial hole my ex put me in with lawyer bills, buying her out of the house, giving her half my other assets. It is going to be slow going, but I’ll get there. If there is one focus for 2020 it is to have a better budget and knock these bills out.

One interesting thing I’ve noticed is unlike when I was married, I’ve stopped buying silly stupid things b/c I’m not trying to fill a void of misery with material things. In fact, I’ve been throwing s~~~ away to simplify and make things less cluttered so when I cash out and sell my house I won’t have a load of useless crap to move. Also, getting rid of stuff makes me feel less stressed.

Having started a new job, another focus is work – to increase commissions and accelerate getting bills paid off, all while maxing out 401(k) to back fill what Selfish One took from me.

While I’ve been working on bills, I have set aside time and money for some cool travel. Nothing extravagant, but local overnighters with my buddies and a trip out West a few months ago, etc. You have to make time for what you love.

I hope that someone reading this sees that there is a great life off The Plantation. That a miserable man who is being treated like s~~~ and feels he is trapped will realize he can do it. He can free himself and be much better off.

Don’t wait. I waited too long… for the kids, or I thought she would get better, or I thought if I did something different.
It. Never. Gets. Better.

Thanks to you guys for support in an otherwise ‘male hating’ world. I wish you all the best as the holidays approach and that each and very one of you gets to a point of happiness if you haven’t found it yet.

Godspeed!

[Anonymous 3]

Congratulations.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Awesome to hear CR. Let me tell you from someone who is 5 years off the plantation and about to make his final support payment next month, you’ll get there. In spite of giving away half my retirement 5 years ago, I’m back and better than ever. I don’t spend money nearly like she does. In spite of getting half my retirement (she hadn’t saved a dime) and getting several thousand dollars a month from me, she still hasn’t managed to save anything more. I’ve paid off all of the “divorce debt” and am now maxing out my 401k and have a five figure savings that I’m looking to grow a little more and then maybe buy a rental property.

I just hope your relationship with your daughter improves. But you’re doing the right thing. She needs to see what a “real man” acts like, one that doesn’t worship the almighty vagina and forces her to prove her worth in real ways. She’ll be a way better person for it in the long run.

Good luck in the new job and keep us posted on how it’s going. I do think it’s important for men to see that there is life beyond the plantation, and frankly it’s pretty awesome. While I applaud the guys here who managed to escape going to prison you can’t really appreciate getting out of prison unless you’ve been there.

Get busy livin’ or get busy dyin’. That phrase means a lot more to a guy who was busy dyin’.

Happy Monday morning gentlemen.

Order the good wine

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

Congrats bro. The plantation sucks. Run free. MGTOW.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10908]

Stories like this is why I keep active on these forums!
CONGRATULATIONS!

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

CombatRoll that’s awesome.. great to hear positive stories.. sounds like your are “going your OWN way”! Congrats to you ! Men can do it all – whatever they choose to do ! Peace and God Bless.

Feminism was funded by bankers/politicians to create more taxpayers. MGTOW IS FREEDOM https://archive.org/details/mgtowisfreedomblurayready

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2727]

Oh man, favorite post of year. Very motivational for me. My second divorce finalized in 2012. Last support payment 2016. Unemployed for a year. Last six years had a parasite living with me.

But finally free past 4 months. Feel like I am just now starting life again as a MGHOW. Still working through a lot of emotions and figuring out my priorities going forward.

I am also ironing out the finances, but got things under control now without a woman to entertain and shower with gifts.

Anyway, I feel like I just got out of prison. Reading your post gives me a broader view of future and realize there is so much potential now.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Much to the consternation of women everywhere the pain of divorce does have an end. I was in a contested custody fight. She didn’t want me to have anything to do with my son. Her first move was to move 8 hrs away to Northern California from LA. I won the custody fight but she never really cooperated. She kept fighting me in court.

Despite having my son in my life I wouldn’t do it again. I should have walked away from my son and waited until he was in his 20’s and came looking for me.

That’s what I would recommend especially in cases like your daughter who is being systematically estranged from you.

Now the only thing to be afraid of is a really good blow job throwing you off the mgtow path.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Beautiful.

I’ll see you in two and a half years, brother.

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