Time to Change

[anaverageguyParticipant 14]

Well, my overall story on how I got to this point is a very depressing one for me emotionally to tell, but I will attempt to in brief. Two years ago I was more or less the typical “beta” male. I was fairly well known as the slightly strange nice guy, who would help with homework, provide a shoulder to cry on, or help out during times of hardship, especially to those of the female gender. I was taken advantage of frequently in hindsight, having walked numerous girls (as well as a few guys) through very difficult classes, though I made very few friends. I was the guy you’d ask to help you study for a test before going to a party or someone who you would call to work on your car if it was having mechanical problems. I was not, however, the type of guy someone (especially a girl) would be seen out with, though I didn’t care, I figured if I continued to be friendly and helpful to everyone I met, things would work out. Hah.

Well, about 18 months ago, things certainly did not work out for me. I was known to many of the more promiscuous females as being someone who wasn’t interested in sex for pleasure and generally wasn’t interested in sexual advances outside of a relationship. Not being particularly ugly, I was of some interest to some of the females in my classes, not as a permanent partner, but as someone to satisfy their temporary urges on. Of course, I was quick to turn down the occasional request I did get, though that didn’t stop someone from taking advantage of me while I was under the influence of alcohol one night.

During my life I had been taught wrong. It was my belief that it was only men who forced themselves upon other involuntarily. I am not a particularly large or strong individual (though I am larger now than I was then) and felt powerless in the situation. I only have vague memories of it, though I was quite clear in protesting earlier and stating that I did not want to have sex with her, though my problems with alcohol were also well known to her. The next day I was more depressed than I ever had been. She was gone, though I’d talk to her that evening and engaged in a conversation in which she boasted about taking my ‘virtue’ and showing me the pleasures of sex. I was disgusted, bruised, and ashamed.

I won’t deny that I had part of the fault, I let her into my house and drank far too much, but being the smaller of the two people, I felt as though I had been violated. I talked to a female ‘friend’ whom I trusted about it and she informed me that I was fully in the wrong, as a female cannot force herself upon a male, even if she is physically stronger. Not remembering the exact details of the situation, and only having bruises to show for it, I felt like a fool. I sank into a deep depression for about a year, drinking more than I already had been, picking up smoking, and gaining about 30 pounds.

I realized that being the nice guy had ruined my life. I lost all interest in sex period after this, which was my first experience. I had no real friends to turn to and never talked about the incident again until today. As I have said, I do admit fault in it, as it could have been avoided had I used common sense, which I lacked back then. Regardless, it, along with many other small incidents with the opposite gender, have caused me to swear off relationships and my concepts of love. I, in a sense, am broken. I only hope that I can find purpose in my future, having spent so much of my past seeking to fulfill society’s expectations.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings AverageGuy,
Look on the bright side, you made it to MGTOW. This is a good place to learn from other men and create a good future. Cheers.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

welcome pal!
great post.
i’m glad you found the path to freedom.

anaverageguy wrote:

I realized that being the nice guy had ruined my life. I lost all interest in sex period after this, which was my first experience. I had no real friends to turn to and never talked about the incident again until today.

being the nice guy has ruined the past few years of your life…..but it has not ruined your entire life. it sounds like you are learning from your past experiences and won’t make the same mistakes again. you’ve got a bright future ahead of you buddy. stay strong. stay Mgtow.

enjoy the website and the forums
cheers.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Honorable_Juice_BoxParticipant 591]

Welcome brother, you will find much wisdom within these forums.

I am sorry to hear what happened to you; though it in turn has started you on the path to the light.

anaverageguy wrote:

she informed me that I was fully in the wrong, as a female cannot force herself upon a male, even if she is physically stronger.

I am sure you have realized the hypocrisy of such a view; sadly it is held commonplace in our society.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Brother,
You have identified the problem.
You have sought for and found the right place.
You know that women don’t want nice guys.
You have already started on the path.
See what’s happening.
You have taken control of your life.
Keep posting. The men hear understand and we have all been victimized by women in the past.

[LeoYourKingParticipant 225]

Welcome Brother, now you are awake. Keep in this path.
Start going to the gym and also start reading, better yourself in all aspects of your life. Do not let someone else to take away your happiness and your health.
Listen or look for The Tom Leykis show,Messenger Rising, Bar Bar (Barbarossa) and Sandman.
“Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.” -unknown

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

Well, my friend, youre not alone.
Everyone at mgtow has been brutalized by women in the past, one way or another.

Just hang on, and read the posts on this forum.
They help a lot.
And keep asking questions, that is how you learn.

[Anonymous 42]

anaverageguy wrote:

I, in a sense, am broken. I only hope that I can find purpose in my future, having spent so much of my past seeking to fulfill society’s expectations.

@anaverageguy, examine the quotation above^^^
You’re two turns of wrench, and a little penetrating oil from being “FIXED”.

First of all, you’re not broken, they are!

Purpose is not “found”, it’s “seen”, your focus is in the wrong place! This society is sick and programming men to fail.

Your life is your own, you owe nothing to anyone, Self approval is the only approval!

We’re good at breaking the mental chains that bind men to failure! Step right up and don’t fear the spark showers from our mental oxy/acetylene torch! We melt down all the locks and chains for castings to build the WALL®

You’re gonna love the way we think!

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