Then I realized I was losing something…..

[Remove me!Participant]

I had no clue a year ago that I would meet such a great woman three years after my divorce! I had sworn off women after what my ex put me through, and I had to reinvent myself. So, I became a better father, a better man, and became an alpha male. But then I met HER!

She was great. Not only nice, respectful, and fun, but she was great looking too! Wow, I hit the jackpot! I was falling in love for the first time in well over a decade. Yet, something didn’t feel right. While I was falling in love, I was losing something inside me. Something inside me was going to have to die for me to keep going on with this woman. Maybe it was my autonomy, or maybe something else. But I wrestled with this for three months or more. I tried to fight it, because I’m supposed to find the woman of my dreams and marry her, right? But at the same time, I would have to compromise who I have become. Was I ready?

Nope. I knew that she wanted to start a family, and I didn’t want to waste her time. So I let her go. I know she will make some lucky guy very happy (I’m being serious). But I can’t be the man/father I am right now by being with her. It’s bittersweet, but it had to be done.

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[HitmanParticipant]

Can’t share your self with too many people.
Being a father is a full time job.
Good desicion.

[WallyParticipant]

I understand where you are coming from, a woman I broke up with several years ago wanted kids, I didn’t. She was a successful author and had a wonderful career, came from a prominent family. There was no chance I would marry her or have kids, I didn’t want to waste her time, so I broke it off.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.

Now apply it backwards. If you’re in a relationship, and you don’t feel free, what does that tell you?

She doesn’t really love you.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Sorry but I just can’t believe in woman love.
AWALT. In best case scenario EWALT.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 18]

Most of your illusions would dissolve if you read:

-Her text message/phone call to her mother or best friend about you after she was shown the door. Not necessarily to belittle you but the cold calculation with which she describes/analyzes the transaction that was denied

-Who she went on a date with within days and more importantly the cycle of identical manipulative behavior to trap 2nd tier beta; provided you weren’t that already, in which case she moves further down her preference list in declining order. Until she secures resources.

As said already she never loved you.

[ZoidbergParticipant 965]

Remove me! wrote:

I know she will make some lucky guy very happy (I’m being serious).

Stop it, you are killing me.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

During my blue pill era, there were a couple of women that I was with that wanted to have children.

I had a vasectomy but never told them that I had one. I also never broke things off so that either one could find the right guy and get pregnant.

Amazingly though, in each situation, despite the fact that neither one knew I had a vasectomy and they both claimed to be monogamous:

Both got pregnant during their relationships with me.

They all cheat.

AWALT

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Remove me! wrote:

I had no clue a year ago that I would meet such a great woman three years after my divorce! I had sworn off women after what my ex put me through, and I had to reinvent myself. So, I became a better father, a better man, and became an alpha male. But then I met HER!

She was great. Not only nice, respectful, and fun, but she was great looking too! Wow, I hit the jackpot! I was falling in love for the first time in well over a decade. Yet, something didn’t feel right. While I was falling in love, I was losing something inside me. Something inside me was going to have to die for me to keep going on with this woman. Maybe it was my autonomy, or maybe something else. But I wrestled with this for three months or more. I tried to fight it, because I’m supposed to find the woman of my dreams and marry her, right? But at the same time, I would have to compromise who I have become. Was I ready?

Nope. I knew that she wanted to start a family, and I didn’t want to waste her time. So I let her go. I know she will make some lucky guy very happy (I’m being serious). But I can’t be the man/father I am right now by being with her. It’s bittersweet, but it had to be done.

There are no special unicorns young man. All women appear to be such unicorns at one time or another, but their true nature and behavior comes out eventually. I suggest since you’re relatively new here, you start with some reading material. Start with The Myth of Male Power, The War Against Boys, and The Manipulated Man. Read them all. Cover to cover. And then read the 2nd edition of Manipulated Man. Most of these books are written by women detailing what women do to men, how they perceive men, and explaining their nature. Come back here when your homework is done.

[Remove me!Participant]

You know I don’t have any illusions that she is still pining for me. She is back on those dating websites, and she is looking for a donor. I knew when the kid thing came up, I was being looked at as a donor. If she really loved me, she would have accepted not to have kids, that I was more important than somebody who doesn’t even exist yet. But I am no longer playing the donor role. The only reason I haven’t gotten a vasecomy yet is because of fear. But I will “nut up” soon and be investing $700 very wisely on that.

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

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