The Universe Speaking

[Wildwalker57Participant 107]

Sometimes I feel like the universe is talking to me.
So, I live up in the mountains, play hermit 99% of the week, stay away from everyone, except the odd fisherman, and only go down into town once a week to shop. I literally have some days I do not speak to a soul, and those are great days.

Anyway, so I went down to the store yesterday at the wrong time, a little after 5pm. I’m standing in the grocery store, in a long Friday-after-work line, and listening to these two women in the line next to me talking about how Dr. Phil is the ‘moral compass’ of our society. As this is all unfolding, and I’m reminding myself never to come down after 5pm again, I look in front of me and there is this spunky little blonde standing right in front of me in line.

Now, I’m in my early 40s, single, never married, no kids, athletic build, and I haven’t been on a date in years, but I have women approach me from time to time. I always say the same thing- No. I have peace in my life, don’t need their expectations, facebook narcissism, and artificial love.
All that said, I’m still a man, and I take notice of good-looking women. It doesn’t mean I want their madness, just consider it window shopping.

Anyway, so I see this spunky little blonde in front of me. She’s in her power-girl black suit, and her hair is straight and is so white it is almost like snow. She is slim, a little shorter than me, and looks pretty good from behind. So, I’m thinking to myself, I want to see what she looks like.

Just as I think this, like ESP, she turns around and stares right into my face. I was standing right behind her, and I looked right into her eyes. I see her eyes get that dreamy, far away look for a sec, but then she immediately turns back around. I think to myself- Oh, she likes me.

Just as I think this, she turns back around and does a double-take, as I’m smiling, and she smiles right back at me and starts with- Do you work out at the X gym? I’ve seen you around.

I certainly hadn’t seen her before, and the only gym I work out in is the mountain trail gym. So I start talking to her, and we chat back and forth for a bit. She is there for the taking, smiling, laughing, all that. I’m thinking of how long it has been since I’ve dipped my stick in something, and this young power real estate agent is right there for the taking. Alas, I do what I always do. I think of my peaceful life, drama free, and I walk on by.

I walk out the store and decide I’m hungry, so I go to the Taco Bell in the same shopping plaza. I walk into the Taco Bell, and there is a family in front of me in line, a husband, wife, and three children (all girls). The husband is a slim, muscular, construction worker in his early 30s. He’s wearing the heavy boots, dirty clothes like he’s been out grinding all day, and just has wiry muscular look of a hard-working man. I did roofing for a while when I was a younger man, so I got respect for any man who grinds out physical labor every day.

After the wife gives her order and the girls order, she walks away with the kids, and the husband gives his order and pays. I then step up and give my order, which was much smaller than theirs.

As I am filling my drink, I can hear the wife- I told you we shouldn’t have come here! Thirty dollars to eat at Taco Bell? This is outrageous! This was a stupid idea, blah, blah, blah, blah…
She has that I’m-a-raging-bitch sound to her voice too, and it just grates on my nerves. I look over and the guy doesn’t say a single word to her.

Then, the daughter has to use the restroom, and wife transitions-
Well, you just going to sit there? You better follow her to the bathroom and stand outside it.
With this comment, I actually thought she was talking to one of the other kids, but she was talking to her husband. The next second, I watched the daughter and husband go walking by me, and he dutifully stood there outside the ladies restroom while his daughter used it.

When he returns with his daughter, they call my number, and I get my food before they do. Now, my order was a lot less food than theirs, but the wife goes ape-s~~~.
Look at that! We are never coming here again! That guy was in line after us, and he got his food first. You better step up and be a man and talk to the manager. If you can’t be a man and handle this, I will.

I’m hearing this as I’m walking away, and I just can’t believe it.
If I hadn’t heard the guy give his order, I wouldn’t know what his voice sounds like because he wasn’t saying anything to his tyrannosaurus-rex wife, and I’m not talking about how she looked.

Needless to say, this continues, and I can just hear the octaves of her voice rising and falling, but I sit clear on the other side of the restaurant so I don’t have to listen to her words. As I’m sitting there, I think to myself- This hard-working man goes to work every day with other men, and I bet he’d not let any of them talk to him like she was talking to him. In fact, I bet if I told him that his wife was a bitch, he’d probably try to defend her honor- not that I think she has any honor, but just taking it from his point of view. Yet, he lets this woman just belittle him and talk down to him in front of everyone, like he is little better than a child that doesn’t know what he’s doing.

I wanted to sit the guy down across from me and ask him- Is it REALLY worth it? Really?

While I don’t think there is such thing as heaven on earth, I do believe there are versions of hell here.

As I sat there eating, I thought of the pretty blonde in the grocery store. She was pretty, might have been a good time, but I’m honestly happy already. A bird in the hand is worth more than two in the bush. Later, I drove back up into my mountains where there is peace, tranquility, and no drama, and stared up into the stars in the sky that night free and happy.

"It's a trap!" Admiral Ackbar.

[DocParticipant]

I think it’s either a form of mental paralysis on the mans part or It’s the boiled frog.

He didn’t anticipate his world looking like it does. He’s simply ended up there.

He met what was once probably an easy going chick who he married and discovered that -like all women- she needs to control everything.

Now both of them are overwhelmed at the task of raising three kids and instead of keeping a cool head and looking at her husband for support she demands that support. Both are struggling but his struggles are harder because he has to cope with her aswell as manage the 3 kids together.

He is either oaralysed and doesn’t know what to do. Knowing he will be raped in the divorce courts if he bails, or he is the boiled frog who has no insight into how wrecked his mind is through his wife’s constant bitching. A lonely man right there.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3759]

Great stories, WildWalker. Thanks for sharing !

Since I’ve opened my eyes to the s~~~-testing and such that women do, I notice it even more now.

Like you, I appreciate my own company even more.

Good for you, man !

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Your story makes my own day much sweeter knowing how wonderful peace is, thanks.

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Poor frog.

Well walker enjoy your mountains. I’m hoping I can have my own someday.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

He is either paralyzed and doesn’t know what to do. Knowing he will be raped in the divorce courts if he bails

It’s NOT a matter of paralysis, but knowing his lil cupcake, and knowing the divorce courts, he has pretty much given up.

No need nor desire to say a f~~~in word, just sit down, block her out, enjoy a BETTER Dinner then ANYTHING she could prepare, and maybe share a few laughs with his kids before he goes home and collapses on the couch from a LONG TIRING DAY/LIFE/MARRIAGE.

Is there any wonder why marriage of people in their 50’s is INCREASING ??

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[DocParticipant]

It may not be paralysis in the guy the op described but I beleive that paralysis does set in for many men in that type of situation.
Cyclical thinking. Pros and cons of staying with bitch versus pros and cons of leaving.
Indecision indecision. Nothing happens accept blocking her out as much as possible and enjoying time with his kids.

I might be wrong. I don’t know any men who are ‘Happily’ married.

Married – yes. Happy – no.
None.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[JVBParticipant]

It wasn’t ESP that made her turn around…… it was your hard on nudging her left but cheek. Nothing wrong with hitting that down the road bro, but each to their own. Respect.

Peace is > piece.

[Wildwalker57Participant 107]

Doc wrote:

Nothing happens accept blocking her out as much as possible and enjoying time with his kids.

Great response DocJ and lots of good insight there on both posts. You are are right about this. I didn’t include this in the story, but the only time I did hear him speak up at the table is when I went to get a drink- they were sitting by the fountain dispenser- and one of his daughters said- Thank you, Daddy. Then magic happened, and he spoke. He is doing it for the kids, but damn…

JVB wrote:

It wasn’t ESP that made her turn around…… it was your hard on nudging her left but cheek. Nothing wrong with hitting that down the road bro, but each to their own. Respect.

HA! I laughed when I read this one. I have found over the last few years as I have become more of a recluse, I am happier. Not looking to add new adventures in that area of my life. My adventures are in the woods and mountains now. I had a handsome male buck the other day walk right up to me. I just stood real still and watched him eat around me for 20 minutes. Now THAT was cool. That little hot real estate agent is something my corporate self five years ago might have pursued, but now that I live the way I do, I’m more driven to being alone and in nature now. I love nature. It is just the way it is, life, death and all.

Good responses all around on this, gents.

"It's a trap!" Admiral Ackbar.

[AttonParticipant]

Someone sure has embraced the power of the darkside.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

It took me a long time to get where I am at. To be fully over them. And FULLY OVER THEM! I trust the universe like you brother.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

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