The story how I was lied on not being in the friends zone

[freedomParticipant 5129]

I think that since the beginning of my 20’s, I started to figure out the friends-zone scheme, a girl uses you as her own personal psychiatrist and you keep it on because you are hoping that she will see you in a different way one of these days.
Well, when I was 28, and eager to have a blue pill life style, I met this woman who really reminded me of the only woman I’ve ever loved and things went very well at first.
Unfortunately, she started lying a lot, tried to avoid me, yet also pulled me back in when I tried to accept everything as a lie it truly was.

Surely, as I mentioned earlier, I knew that being friends with a woman is bulls~~~, so I made sure she knows my intention and I was very clear about them, so she kept lying to me that things are crapy at home and she is not emotionally available but maybe one day when things calm, little did I know that it meant she is f~~~ing again with her ex-boyfriend, she even married him and hid his existence for 4 months, in the mean while she kept calling and messing up with my mind.

When I found out that she is married, it was like a punch in my face, think about it guys? you don’t want to be friends with a woman, you tell her that, and you still have to go through that charade! and for what?
The worst thing of all, is that during the month she got married, MY MOM ALMOST DIED, and of course she didn’t care, she cared only about herself… she even told me later on “you have to understand, I don’t know if I want him” – F~~~ her, what does it have to do with me? I nearly lost my mother and she was f~~~ing up with my mind during the worst of times.. even though she knew what’s going on with me.

On that day, The red pill rage burnt within me, but I told myself “never mind calm down, it’s just her and few others you’ve met before”

but then again and again and again, lies and more lies, fraud, a red pill after another, until I said NO F~~~ING MORE!

[BoarParticipant]

Experiences are frequently bitter, much like the red pill. If your experiences lead to freedom and wisdom, then life becomes much sweeter.

Give them nothing. Not your time, energy or thoughts…

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[The man in the mountainParticipant 4102]

She used you and dumped you, that’s what all females do now days, i was in your shoes with a Peruvian Girl i fell in love on and off from my high school years.

She didn’t like i was independent emotionally, she also wanted me to make more money to get her everything that she wants, eventually the relationship became a strain on me, didn’t have even money to go to work or buy clothes, i didn’t buy clothes for like 7 months.

I called it off, she cried and cried to me that i was the most perfect man she ever met, but i knew it was all just theater, lies upon lies, she cheated on me a bunch of times and pretended it never happened.

No matter the race or pedigree they are all AWALT.

Walk away, the past is gone and is no more, so why think about it? just ask yourself humbly that question, if you are hurt that means you WILL grow.

[joetechParticipant]

Think about the guy she’s married to. I doubt he knows about you at all, or any of her other orbiters.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[freedomParticipant 5129]

joetech wrote:

Think about the guy she’s married to. I doubt he knows about you at all, or any of her other orbiters.

the guy earns s~~~ load of money at google, that’s why she married him, even though she dumped him before, but because she a greedy slut and didn’t find anyone better earning she decided to go back to him.

she told me that he has personality issues and s~~~, and she wasn’t sure about marrying him, for me it’s a confession of her being greedy

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I’m 50 now. I got friend zoned about a half dozen times in my teens and 20’s. While it was happening, I was pursuing medical school, internship, residency, etc. They were pursuing the next ride on the carousel. In my early 30’s, my pursuit was done. I finally had what I wanted: education, money, job, status, house, toys.

And then, like some magical R-rated conga line, each of them found their way back to me. They’d “grown up”. They’d been “treated like s~~~ by those other guys”. They’d realized they “should have been with me all along…”. They wanted to “give it another chance”.

Each of them thought that she was the only one doing this. As if this was completely original genius plan that only she could have dreamed up. For me, it was like reading the same book over and over again.

My response: I had zero that I was willing to give them or share. So I put them all in the friend zone. They can see the house on Zillow. They can see the vacation pictures I post. They can see the pics of the toys I post.

I can see them struggle in single mother quicksand: dead end jobs, maladjusted kids, dead end pump and dump relationships, marriages that blow up… But mostly, I just continue to do the things that got us all to this point.

1) Focus on me and what benefits me
2) Play the long game
3) Win

The sooner you start, the harder you work, the bigger the payoff.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[freedomParticipant 5129]

BrainPilot wrote:

I can see them struggle in single mother quicksand: dead end jobs, maladjusted kids, dead end pump and dump relationships, marriages that blow up… But mostly, I just continue to do the things that got us all to this point.

It’s funny how those single moms think it’s the same game as when they were younger, I see all kinds of actually hot single moms trying to get with me, and then when they get the NO , they are shocked”

[Anonymous 2]

Bitches can’t handle NO! I live on the Free Zone. Where no hoe dwells. Peace and quiet with no stresses from an entitled bitch to worry about.

[MonkParticipant 17078]

freedom wrote:

she told me that he has personality issues and s~~~, and she wasn’t sure about marrying him …

The ‘my ex is a psycho’ schtick.

[BushidoParticipant 637]

It takes fire to forge a blade, much like it takes anger to forge a MGTOW.

You won in the end, brother. Nobody can take that away from you.

Logic guides your actions, emotion guides your morals. Only you may decide how you use them.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

freedom,

So you have a lady who lied to you repeatedly, used you, disrespected you, didn’t support you when your mom was sick, and forgot to tell you she was married.

(I think I may have dated her) Seriously, this chick doesn’t deserve you. She is not worth your time or consideration.

Ladies like this are why I’m MGTOW.

Concentrate on what makes you happy.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Sorry, bro. If you were in the “friend zone”, it was your own doing. She may have knowingly benefited from it, but you’re the one who created it and you held the key to leave the whole time.

Let me explain. This is how the “friend zone” gets created:

1) Man gets hot for woman
2) Man approaches woman and tries to get into her pants
3) Woman is not interested in man and says “let’s be friends” to not hurt man’s feels / p~~~ man off
4) Man, knowing he has no interest in friendship, says “okay” in order to be able to stick around and keep taking shots on woman
5) Man expends time, effort, energy and money trying to make the woman want him
6) Man finally realizes he’s got no chance, posts rant about friend zone

Am I wrong?

When she said “friends…” you knew that meant “no” but you stuck around hoping someday she’d be bored, lonely, hurt, desperate or otherwise vulnerable and you’d just “slip it in”. And as time went on, you could have simply walked away at any point. You didn’t have to expend your time, effort and energy trying to f~~~ this woman.

But you did. You wanted her and you busted your ass trying to get her and now you’re blaming her. It’s bulls~~~ and you know it. The woman in this case is IRRELEVANT. It was all your choice. Take responsibility and learn.

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Be at ease my brother, pop open a beer sit back and breath in that beautiful fresh free air. Smell that? That’s the smell of freedom. It is far more precious than anything she would have offered. I’d say your freedom, your life free of the insanity of marriage and relationships is a reward that is immeasurable in value.

[freedomParticipant 5129]

Stargazer wrote:

Sorry, bro. If you were in the “friend zone”, it was your own doing. She may have knowingly benefited from it, but you’re the one who created it and you held the key to leave the whole time.

Let me explain. This is how the “friend zone” gets created:

1) Man gets hot for woman
2) Man approaches woman and tries to get into her pants
3) Woman is not interested in man and says “let’s be friends” to not hurt man’s feels / p~~~ man off
4) Man, knowing he has no interest in friendship, says “okay” in order to be able to stick around and keep taking shots on woman
5) Man expends time, effort, energy and money trying to make the woman want him
6) Man finally realizes he’s got no chance, posts rant about friend zone

Am I wrong?

When she said “friends…” you knew that meant “no” but you stuck around hoping someday she’d be bored, lonely, hurt, desperate or otherwise vulnerable and you’d just “slip it in”. And as time went on, you could have simply walked away at any point. You didn’t have to expend your time, effort and energy trying to f~~~ this woman.

But you did. You wanted her and you busted your ass trying to get her and now you’re blaming her. It’s bulls~~~ and you know it. The woman in this case is IRRELEVANT. It was all your choice. Take responsibility and learn.

She didn’t say that we’re friends, she actually told me specifically “we’re going to continue where we left off last time” while sending me all kinds of hot photos.
are you telling me I was a naive fool? yeah I am not denying it, but messing with my mind and telling that her new husband is something she is not sure of, is also a dick move.

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