The only way to survive marriage.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

I know we have a number of brothers here who are still married. And some, for whatever reasons, are not planning an immediate escape. In most instances it is either due to finances, children or both. Since I am one of those men, I have come up with some effective ways to get through it. Keep in mind this applies to the handful of us who are not in seriously abusive relationships and can actually still tolerate living with our spouses. All others..plan your escape as if your life depended on it!
Do not at any cost loose sight of your goals. Whether it be work, hobbies, exercising..whatever – it may be all you have left. Also remember, there are TWO people in that marriage – and as miserable as you are – even if she does not show it – she is just as miserable or more. Even when they play their games to perfection – if you don’t give an inch – they know they cannot win and that BURNS them to no end. I also find reading to be a great escape. If you have a room you can “escape” to – go there. If not, most localities have a library. Worth the trip.
True MGTOW will always be free because you cannot enslave a mind or spirit.
Enjoy the day Men!

[RoyDalParticipant]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

Do not at any cost loose sight of your goals. Whether it be work, hobbies, exercising..whatever – it may be all you have left.

I have been told many times that men do this to get away from their wives for a time. It is what made marriage tolerable for them.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[HitmanParticipant]

Living with a wife is like living in a shark tank…
Every month the blood in the water. .
Very risky endeavor. Deep down inside the wife probably wants YOUR blood! .
Form an escape plan sooner than later!

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I’ve never married so I’m sure I’m looking at this through a very simplistic lens, but if you are not happy why stay? Just end it now. Its probably going to end at some point anyhow and the longer it strings along the more expensive the divorce will be and the less time you’ll have til retirement age to recover from it.

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

Hmmm. I had envisioned this to be something like, “How to survive a gun shot to the head.”

[perpedes66Participant 259]

It is also important not to listen to the whole moronic talk or to forget it immediately. Not listening is one of my sharpest weapons, that makes all women crazy. Women never want to solve a problem, they just want to talk about it! My favorites: Reading, listening to music, sports and messing up the schedule of my wife (;-).

[learningParticipant 115]

Thanks truthseeker. I would also add:

1) Keep quiet most of the time. Basically don’t talk much at all – only converse when required or when spoken to. Only reply in one or two words.
2) When she starts to draw you into an argument (which she will if you are keeping quiet most of the time), you have to ignore everything she says. She will start with small bad stuff and it will escalate slowly to absolutely horrible s~~~ (e.g. talking badly about your parent that may have passed away recently). Whatever happens, don’t respond.

I have a counter on my phone for when my youngest turns 18. After that, I will be like the guy in the movie ‘Office Space’. I just won’t go to work (marriage).

[BeeParticipant 700]

Beer wrote:

I’ve never married so I’m sure I’m looking at this through a very simplistic lens, but if you are not happy why stay? Just end it now. Its probably going to end at some point anyhow and the longer it strings along the more expensive the divorce will be and the less time you’ll have til retirement age to recover from it.

You’re damned if you dammed if you dont. If it goes well, you give up 50% of your current assets, future income and access to your children and cause the kids a bunch of stress.

All it takes for it to go terribly is for her to accuse you of abuse, child abuse, move across the country after the divorce….

A lot of guys know this and will try to push on, if only for the kids. It is a sacrifice of self. Women on the other hand will leave because they are not happy (bored, unexcited, new man with new excitement).

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

perpedes66 wrote:

Not listening is one of my sharpest weapons, that makes all women crazy. Women never want to solve a problem, they just want to talk about it!

Countless times I’ve had to put up my hand and say “If you want me to help with/fix your problem, I’ll be more than happy to. But I’m not listening to you complain about it.”
Most of the time, that results in me walking away because they continue to complain.

[Rolling Tin FistParticipant 484]

learning wrote:

I have a counter on my phone for when my youngest turns 18. After that, I will be like the guy in the movie ‘Office Space’. I just won’t go to work (marriage).

Yup. My counter is in my head. 🙂 Since the red pill just over a year ago, I’ve been focusing more on exercise, meditation, minimalism, avoiding arguments, motorsports, and at least an annual, red-pill getaway.

The last one is my favorite, because I take-off with red-pill men (no kids or women) for 4 to 8 days. Sometimes it’s a motorcycle rally, other times it’s international.

Life is so much better.

"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another" - H. L. Mencken

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