The emotional side of it

[narwhalParticipant]

So there is something I’ve realized about myself in the past few days. Let me explain.

For most of my life, there was a definite emotional attachment I had with dating and relationships. If a girl said yes, I got the high feeling. If the date went well, I got a confidence boost. If she rejected me, it hurt. In a relationship, I’d miss her when she’s gone. When I got a divorce, I was emotional crushed for at least a year.

Now, those feelings are almost entirely gone. Honestly, I think they died with my divorce, if I had to pinpoint it. I feel nothing.

Sure I enjoy sex as much as the next guy and can have fun hanging out, but there is no emotional gain or loss tied to ‘her’ in anyway.

A part of me is glad that is gone, as it’s a rather dangerous emotion. At the same time, I feel like it’s innocence lost. I wonder if I’m missing out on life in some way since I can’t engage in that way.

Notice, I’m not calling this emotion ‘love’ because that’s not what it is.

I guess I’m curious of others feel the same. Is it life beating it out of you? Is it growing older and wiser? Did it never exist that way for you?

Ok. Then do it.

[ExecrationParticipant 1496]

Emotion is meant to make you impractical in certain ways, so that you dont lived based on a collection of information and 2 or 3 “main directives.” If we simply thought, acted according to those thoughts based on an interpretation of them(which i dont know how we would) we interestingly enough wouldnt be motivated without feeling one way or the other.

I think what yourr expieriencing is , becoming desensitized to females as a result of what you know.

[ExecrationParticipant 1496]

Which is a good thing.

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

You must be in your 30s when I was heavy bluepill mangina first girlfriend hurt the most like heavy depression for like year or so suicidal thoughts etc then rage. Then more and more relationships take more out of you, feels like you leave of piece of yourself with that person. Older you get mah doesn’t bother you. But I feel that when you get played by women they pLan it before hand. Like gold digger sites giving out strategies on how to find a rich man where he works hangs out etc.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[narwhalParticipant]

Akhilleus wrote:

You must be in your 30s

40s.

Maybe I’m desensitized I guess. I just know better.

I don’t want that feeling back. Maybe I just wish there was something in between being stupidly emotional and wisely unemotional.

Ok. Then do it.

[ExecrationParticipant 1496]

narwhal wrote:

Akhilleus wrote:

You must be in your 30s

40s.

Maybe I’m desensitized I guess. I just know better.

I don’t want that feeling back. Maybe I just wish there was something in between being stupidly emotional and wisely unemotional.

I cant speak for anyone but I think on some level we all wish things were different. Love is an intense emotional expierience.

I hate saying its impossible …

Sometimes I can be insensitive .

I pray something will fill the void. The closest thing possible is finding something your passionate about.

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

Hey its a mind fuk I feel ya.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

narwhal wrote:

A part of me is glad that is gone, as it’s a rather dangerous emotion. At the same time, I feel like it’s innocence lost. I wonder if I’m missing out on life in some way since I can’t engage in that way.

Since being awakened, and living with the Truth your mind no longer has room for the “delusion” of a “Happy Relationship”.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[KeymasterKeymaster]

narwhal wrote:

there is no emotional gain or loss tied to ‘her’ in anyway.

Excellent! But your answer is right within these statements…..

narwhal wrote:

If a girl said yes, I got the high feeling.
If the date went well, I got a confidence boost.
If she rejected me, it hurt.

See it? You hinged your self-worth (and good time) on HER “yes” or “no”. That’s all. And it’s not good for you.

So somewhere along the way, you let that finally go. That’s GOOD for you.

narwhal wrote:

I guess I’m curious of others feel the same. Is it life beating it out of you? Is it growing older and wiser? Did it never exist that way for you?

It’s neither. Perhaps you have simply come to realize female acceptance and approval is as worthless as her disapproval. When you reach that place, YOU decide if you like HER – and not the other way around.

Congratulations. It’s a spectacular day.

—

I once “approached” a woman, and she she said “Look, I’m not really interested. Just me and the girls tonight”.

“Oh, I didn’t come here to ask if YOU were interested. I came over to find out if > I < could be interested. Thanks for making it easy. Have a good time tonight.”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

narwhal wrote:

A part of me is glad that is gone, as it’s a rather dangerous emotion. At the same time, I feel like it’s innocence lost. I wonder if I’m missing out on life in some way since I can’t engage in that way.

Not innocence lost, but rather ignorance lost. Emotion contributed to you getting married right? The only thing you are missing out on is the “eyes closed” version of life.

[narwhalParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

See it? You hinged your self-worth (and good time) on HER “yes” or “no”. That’s all. And it’s not good for you.

I agree that confidence shouldn’t be based on her approval, and I would admit that in my teens and probably some of college, that was the case. I think there’s a difference though between getting excited/emotional because you got a confidence boost, versus getting excited because you’re about to do something fun.

If I recall correctly, you recently looked into motorcycle training, and then purchasing a motorcycle. How did that feel? Completely the course and getting that bike certainly felt great, but I’m sure it didn’t have anything to do with your confidence.

When it comes to dating and such, it’s disappointing that I can no longer getting excited about seeing someone. It’s not about confidence, just that I no longer see much of anything to get excited about. Spending time with a woman has become rather…boring.

I should add that in general, my life doesn’t get all that exciting these days. Something I really should look into fixing. Take the upcoming superbowl for example. I used to really get pumped for the game. These days I realize that it’s just another game, superbowl parties are usually rather boring (because women mess it up) and I just don’t care much anymore.

Ok. Then do it.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

narwhal wrote:

If I recall correctly, you recently looked into motorcycle training, and then purchasing a motorcycle. How did that feel? Completely the course and getting that bike certainly felt great, but I’m sure it didn’t have anything to do with your confidence.

Good point. But I still haven’t purchased…. and not even sure if I will. I didn’t even have the “bug” for motorbikes at 21. Doubt I will have it now. But the course(s) DID do something for me. It helped me get over my fear of motorbikes. I’m not generally much a physical risk taker (cliff/sky diving/ etc) so I was being a rebel in a way.

narwhal wrote:

When it comes to dating and such, it’s disappointing that I can no longer getting excited about seeing someone

I don’t think it’s disappointing, or even up to ME.
It’s up to HER how excited I would get.

Isn’t kind of silly to build it up before it even happens? OMG I’m so excited!! To what. Answer the same boring questions?

So where do you work?
So where do you live?
What kind of car do you drive?”

If you leave the excitement up to women, you’re gonna be disappointed. They are generally frightfully boring. They would even tell me not to ride a motorcycle.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[narwhalParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

Good point. But I still haven’t purchased…. and not even sure if I will. I didn’t even have the “bug” for motorbikes at 21. Doubt I will have it now. But the course(s) DID do something for me. It helped me get over my fear of motorbikes. I’m not generally much a physical risk taker (cliff/sky diving/ etc) so I was being a rebel in a way.

I was the same. Completed the course (barely) but never bought a bike. I do feel like I accomplished something as well since it was way out of my comfort zone.

Keymaster wrote:

I don’t think it’s disappointing, or even up to ME.
It’s up to HER how excited I would get.

Agreed. I am certainly not disappointed in myself.

Ok. Then do it.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Just thinking about having to hear the ‘interview questions’ while on a date is enough to disappoint me. Will no longer tolerate being ‘examined’ by a female. I still contemplate the idea of innocence lost though…

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[narwhalParticipant]

Point Of No Return wrote:

Just thinking about having to hear the ‘interview questions’ while on a date is enough to disappoint me. Will no longer tolerate being ‘examined’ by a female. I still contemplate the idea of innocence lost though…

They’ve never bothered me that much, to be honest. Mostly because what I do is difficult to explain my career (my ex wife still doesn’t understand what I do) and really hard to gauge my salary from. I also am rather upfront with ‘interview’ questions of my own.

Thinking about it more, I actually wish women asked more questions, just to maintain a decent conversation. Women suck at that. Having to drive the conversation all night long is exhausting.

Ok. Then do it.

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

My theory is this.

We evolved to procreate, emotions are there to hook us long enough to a women so we protect them for the 9 months through the pregnancy and for a while afterwards. Then the strong emotions become for the child, and this is to hook us to the child long enough for them to grow up. But we stay connected to the woman as well quite strongly if we see them doing the right things for the child.

Women get hooked to us through sex and protective abilities long enough for us to get them pregnant and for them to conceive then they switch entirely to the child and we become useful for protection and no longer needed for sex or for emotional support. When we get a promotion they get super wet, when we buy them expensive gifts they get super wet. But just going day to day it is the kid that now matters. We are no longer driving their emotions.

All these emotions are for a simple reason to assure our success as a species. Remember there was no divorce courts in primitive society and there were no condoms. Plus there is now little risk of the adjacent clan coming into their cave and taking away their homes. So in primitive society women still loved men for their protection. But that is not needed anymore. So they end up being much better than we are at moving on.

Let the good times roll

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