That ‘was’ me.

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neutrino wrote:

Hi.
I’ve always been a playful guy. Had a good job, kept myself in good shape going to gym. Then I met her, and married her. She convinced me to change my job, leave the gym, quit playing soccer. All my friends became bad companions, my only brother a fool I’d better not to talk to. We’ve lost a lot of money trying to buy a house we cannot afford, my job is going really bad.
Now I wake up at 7am, for our 3 children to go to school. Every, *every* morning I think I cannot make another day. I feel sad, tired. I hold on just because of those three wonderful kids. I don’t see any light at the end of my tunnel, maybe because I’m in a well.
MGTOW has been a lucky find. Hope to have some good time here.

Bye!

I feel as if I am speaking to a different version of me. I had the same situation except no kids (makes it more complicated I know). I was also in great shape prior to the marriage and give up my hobbies which also kept me in shape. I became overweight because I ate like s~~~, I was depressed and ate more junk food (to include drinking copious amounts of beer) which deteriorated my health.

There is hope. One day it all hit me. It wasn’t a straw that broke the camel’s back but a two ton anvil. She came at me with this tired statement how she was not happy and I said enough (she was unemployed at the time, but this is a another story). I told her I don’t want to be married anymore, I don’t want to live with her, and I want a divorce. We didn’t have kids so she had nothing to hold over my head. The house we bought and couldn’t afford was upside down anywhere from 60K to 80K depending on the month (housing recession remember?).

You cannot put a price on happiness. You must understand this in its purest form. At the end of the day nothing else matters. If you’re miserable the kids are miserable and it comes back to you. I was divorced in 2012 and I weighed 250 pounds because I was overweight and sloppy. I am now 216 pounds, just finished a master’s degree and looking to change fields. You’re a man, you will recover, it is what we do. I have full confidence in you.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

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