I would forward to this girl the following questions: If I cannot rely on the accuracy of your word when I inquire about your consent regarding sex, perhaps we need to rethink wether or not you should be allowed to vote? If your “yes” statement in response to that young man’s inquiry about your consent for sex cannot be relied on by him to actually mean “yes”, than I submit that your signature on a written employment contract specifying terms is no more reliable an indication of your agreement to those terms. I therefore question wether or not any of your other communications can be relied upon to mean what everyone else in our society understands them to mean.
If you cannot decide and clearly communicate your intentions and agreements with other members of society, then your unclear and deceptive communications which do not accurately represent your real intent are a menace and potential danger to the other members of the society you inhabit, as well as to yourself. (When you put your blinker on, does that actually mean you really intend to turn?). If that young man had sex with you after requesting and having had communicated to him your consent for sex, when in fact that consent did not actually exist, then he has technically committed felony rape. But that crime would not have occurred but for your deception. So, you are therefore an accessory to rape (also a felony).
If you are incompetent to decide and clearly communicate your intent, then you belong either in an institution where these decisions can be made for you by other more reliable members of our society, or in a country governed by Sharia law (no driving, no voting, no contracting for yourself) where they’ll be made for you by whatever men in your family have been saddled with the responsibility of making them for you. This is not me trying to oppress you and take from you your rights of self determination, this is you advertising publicly that you are not competent to make and reliably communicate your own decisions of self determination, and me explaining to you the options that exist for those folks who have been deemed incompetent to make and express their own decisions.
As for blaming society’s crushing pressures and expectations on you for your inability to make and communicate what your actual intent is… I submit that the society you are blaming is populated by a slight majority of women, and that the political will of that society is directed to a disproportionately much larger degree by the will of those same women, as they are FAR more vocal and politically active than their opposing minority. After all, it was a foundational expectation of the patriarchy that imposed on you the expectation that you remain a virgin until married, and a defining goal of feminism that you be liberated from that expectation and freed up to have the option to have all the sex you wanted outside of marriage, without consequence to yourself. It was your feminist sisters who gave you that option and empowered you to choose it. Having control of the majority of the political will, they could, and did exactly that. Yet, the patriarchy they vilified allows you to still have the option to remain a virgin until married if you so choose. That was the option being offered to you when that young man said directly to you, “Is this OK?”.
So tell me again exactly what society you are speaking of that exerted so much external pressure on you that you became unable to internally decide and communicate back what your preferred options are? And then explain to me what you think a society should do with the people who have identified themselves as incompetent to make and communicate decisions about themselves… that subsequently create a risk to themselves and the other members of that society?
Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you
TheBard 4 years, 9 months ago.
