Starting to feel lonely

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Ok so a couple of weeks ago i dumped the slut i was  dating, caught her lying to me etc etc, same old story.
Found this place and have been checking out videos from Sandman and others on youtube.

The thing is im starting to feel lonely, i miss the good parts about this girl but i dont want the full package! Im not even sure its her i miss but the idea of a woman..
I belive that i will be better off as single, i want to live without women in my life but i miss the sex like crazy!!!! The cuddling s~~~. I know im a weak ass pussy right now.

I have to stay strong, im not going back to her! I have to learn how to be happy by myself! I dont know why im writing this post, just needed to share i guess.
Today im going fishing with my kids so that will be nice, im trying to focus on them and it works but they dont live with me fulltime (50%).
When im lonely i have a tendency to just sit and watch TV and drink beer. I know this is not good.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[UntamedParticipant]

Hi Limpan.

Feeling lonely is natural once in a while. Feeling lonely all the time is a problem that will not be solved by getting a g/f. It distracts you from getting lonely but it isn’t the cure.

If you feel lonely too often you need to introduce new things into your life, preferably things that will make feel good about yourself ( exercise, cooking, swimming, drawing, gaming, the company of good ol’ chaps… A weemin will not make you feel good about yourself ( except when you bust that nut in her ) Proof positive: you left her.

I’m a loner by nature so I’m never lonely, just alone and I love it.

Also, just because you left your ex doesn’t mean you can’t date.

I think you’re confusing loneliness with your need for pussy and I understand that well. But remember one thing, the biggest lie a weemin can tell a man is that he needs her.

 

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[RoyDalParticipant]

@Limpan,
Like you, I want through that same cycle back in my blue pill days. I finally got bored with the outcomes; “what the hell did I do that for … again?”

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

It’s funny how we remember the few good times and forget the 80% s~~~ and misery.

Understand that it’s just chemicals that will subside after a while.

Make yourself busy.

[economistParticipant 225]

Exactly what everyone above me said, you think you want companionship, but in reality you want to get laid. Socializing with women will never be a positive thing for you, eventually it will all go bad. A lot of guys here make use of prostitutes as they see no issue in a straight up money for sex deal (so essentially a short term relationship with less beating around the bush)

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

->Feel lonely
->Find a woman
->Become her boyfriend( or husband if you want half your s~~~ taken away)
->Get disappointed
->You break up

Go back to step one and repeat forever until you realize that mgtow is the most beneficial way of life for modern-day men

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[Bl4ckSh33pParticipant 274]

What you miss is the oxytocin. You can live without it bro.

I hate to break it to you, but what people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard Morty then it slowly fades leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are going to do it. Break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science. -Rick Sanchez

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

The funny thing is once you get with them you’ll still be alone.The first 2 weeks huh?You’re in your hardest stage, in this stage your body will try absolutely everything (feelings, chemicals , etc) to get you to attempt to procreate again.This is all there is.Do you agree with those feelings?I bet you don’t.

What’s happening right now is you fighting with your lizard brain.Good luck and just know that the more time passes the easier and easier it gets.

[FermatParticipant 3510]

Your looking to treat a long term problem with a temporary cure. Loneliness is not solved by cuddling and having sex with a soft body and gentle voice. Loneliness is solved by getting busy with tasks that bring purpose to your life and often include others as part of that process. Sex doesn’t make you feel closer to someone.  It just trucks your body into relying on that person to not only give you more physical satisfaction but also their trust. You know better than to hand your trust to a woman.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

Agree and agree. Also Lizards confirmed.

Franky wrote:

What’s happening right now is you fighting with your lizard brain.Good luck and just know that the more time passes the easier and easier it gets.

Mango Ingaway wrote:

->Feel lonely ->Find a woman ->Become her boyfriend( or husband if you want half your s~~~ taken away) ->Get disappointed ->You break up Go back to step one and repeat forever until you realize that mgtow is the most beneficial way of life for modern-day men

Open your Mind. Time. Space. Motorbikes. Lizards. Serenity.

MGTOW.

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[MyselfParticipant 353]

LonerBoner wrote:

The cuddling s~~~. I know im a weak ass pussy right now. I have to stay strong, im not going back to her!

I remember following a breakup I’d have that feeling of loneliness, that craving for physical affection and closeness.  It wasn’t too bad during the day when I was busy, but at night… Feeling alone and cold in bed, like there was something missing without my girl beside me – the way she smelled, her breath, her warmth.  Waking up and reaching over to empty sheets.  I remember that feeling.

It’s like being a kid again, learning how to get through the night without your teddy bear and night light.

 

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Thank you guys!

I knew i could count on you, it means so much to me right now that you take your time to answer my post.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[TheOneWhoBeholdsWisdomParticipant 58]

Dang Man.. Wish I could have seen this sooner… I’ve been through this… but I’ve overcame it and just moved on…. When I see a women.. its nothing. I feel like the hassle of dealing with that is definitely not worth it… I’m  not one to focus on the negatives… but remembering the negatives can save you from even more.

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

O f~~~ me in the ass! This day has sucked but i kept my s~~~ in control, i went to hang out with some friends and watch a live band at the local festival.
Who do you think sits there at a table looking good and happy. That f~~~ing bitch broke my hart, i f~~~ing hate her but i hate myself even more for still wanting her.

I had to leave, could not stay and enjoy myslef.
I hate my life right now, i hate these feelings so much!

But! i will stay strong, i came right home and wrote this. I have to come through this in one piece. She’s not worth it, shes a f~~~ing whore thats been riding the c~~~ carousel and continued to do it after she met me. F~~~ her i f~~~ing hate her.

 

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

No no no … no hate ok. You know why?

Because this still means she has power over you …. look at yourself … how your feeling …… THAT IS NOT GOING TO HELP YOU.

HATE is the undoing of you. DO NOT HATE.

Accept her for what she is …. as you would a tiger killing prey.

You don’t hate it … it’s doing what it does.

What you need to be is …

INDIFFERENT …… give her exactly ZERO of your time.

ZERO OF YOUR TIME

ZERO OF YOUR TIME.

[RoyDalParticipant]

ILiveAgain wrote:

No no no … no hate ok.

Hating her is like you drinking poison and expecting her to get sick. Also, it is a waste of your valuable time and energy. Seek another diversion until the ill feelings dissipate.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

RoyDal wrote:

ILiveAgain wrote:

No no no … no hate ok.

Hating her is like you drinking poison and expecting her to get sick. Also, it is a waste of your valuable time and energy. Seek another diversion until the ill feelings dissipate.

You are of course right in this matter, I have to change my approach.

Yesterday was not a good day! Everything got f~~~ed and my feelings got out of control. However I did not reach out to her.

Live in a small town so I will run into her, I have to find a mindset where I can ignore her.

Had a rough night, seeing her f~~~ed me up. Feeling more in control now, drinking my morning coffee and planning my day which is quite busy.

Again thank you guys!

 

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[Anonymous 13]

LonerBoner wrote:

I belive that i will be better off as single, i want to live without women in my life but i miss the sex like crazy

I’m there, I understand.  Its like alcoholism – or any other addiction.  Its normal – its instinctual, but don’t let it define you.  The longer you go w/o it – AND masturbation, you will began to care less and only have the urges every now and then, you’ll be able to control them better.

That’s what I’ve found out and then BOOM some bitch is back in my life again – who I ALLOWED back – I have excuses – but what is truly “WEAK” is thinking you are weak for simply wanting sex from a woman – the idea of her – or even those cuddly lovey dovey times.  IT IS NATURAL – the last 100 years of social engineering…yeah, no.  You are stronger to resist, and you become stronger the more you resist the urges, but don’t degrade yourself for having the urges – or for – oh deary me, oh my flaming pink flamingos- you (gasp) don’t have a GF and are not giving YOUR ALL B~~~~ DEEP TO A WOMAN – some one call the po po.

[BDParticipant 1146]

ILiveAgain wrote:

You don’t hate it … it’s doing what it does. What you need to be is … INDIFFERENT …… give her exactly ZERO of your time. ZERO OF YOUR TIME

Forgive her for being the tiger that she is,

and most importantly, forgive yourself for not knowing that she was a tiger before you got involved….

Now you know, and once you learn to love and have respect for yourself, you will never waste time with tigers like her again.

We have a great thread on red flags, it’s in the relations~~~s section, if you read it I am sure you will notice that you missed many red flags, but it’s an opportunity to learn.

Keep your head up

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[BestlifeornothingParticipant 24]

Find yourself a hobby or two…….or three.  I’ve picked up many hobbies since going MGTOW and I am always occupied with something that is much more rewarding.  The more you focus on your hobbies, the more you’ll be able to say the hell with feelings.

I still like to get laid, but I tolerate absolutely no BS in the process.  If I get even a slight hint of BS, I next her.

My thought process towards women now is that I done banged a lot of bitches and walked away from a whole lot more (than I’ve banged).  You gotta get to the point to where you convince yourself that these bitches ain’t s~~~ to you.

Seriously though, find yourself a hobby.  Cars, guns (firing range), software coding, etc.  There’s plenty of stuff out there to get your mind off the drug.

Last thing.  Ever notice how your life gets put on pause or slow motion when you deal with a female?  How much longer do you want to be on pause?

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