Sort of experimenting

[narwhalParticipant]

One thing that I do somewhat miss sometimes about marriage, is that I wife is usually pretty good in dealing with social calendars. I personally tend to be rather introverted. Not shy, but I don’t like to go out of my way to meet people, nor do I like planning social events logistically.

Now, I find myself in an interesting situation. I have some neighbor friends that I’ve been hanging out with quite a bit lately. Married couple with kids the same age as my boy, and they are also rather social. Their the type that always seem to be hosting the parties and such, mostly because the wife gets it all together and such.

Well, I have a backyard pool, and have invited them over a few times. Sometimes, they’ll bring along a friend, as someone always seems to be hanging out with them. I have no issues with that at all, and have said they are always welcome.

So tonight’s going to be rather interesting as I know have about 10 people come over tonight, and the wife is organizing the whole thing. Food and contacting people and such. Again, not an issue for me, as I like hosting and such, just don’t want to do all the work and socializing to get it done.

Anyone else have a situation like this? You aren’t married, yet there is a woman (married or single) that does some wifely functions for you in terms of socializing and such. I see it a as a win-win, in that I get to enjoy a social event with a wife doing much of the work, yet the wife is someone else’s problem when it’s over. As well, I can always decline and set terms for my house as I see fit…which would be met with complaints if it was my actual wife.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 42]

narwhal wrote:

Anyone else have a situation like this? You aren’t married, yet there is a woman (married or single) that does some wifely functions for you in terms of socializing and such.

Absolutely NOT!

I’m full on hermit and don’t like strangers!

[VassagoShaxParticipant 255]

Anonymous wrote:

Absolutely NOT!

I’m full on hermit and don’t like strangers!

Yeah, I am with you on this one. I am naturally anti-social, I dislike people in general. Much prefer to keep to myself. My work means I meet a lot of people, that’s unavoidable. But soon as I get home I am done with the world. Rather open a nice bottle of wine and chill out with my guitar or that black breeze block of an Xbox. Then I am happy. People, not so much. The only active bit of socialising I do is here, and that’s through posts on a forum.

[narwhalParticipant]

I definitely like my alone time too, but like getting out a bit as well. I certainly will reserve my right to say no when I don’t want to. I will spend the 4th by myself without being nagged for it.

Ok. Then do it.

[VassagoShaxParticipant 255]

narwhal wrote:

I definitely like my alone time too, but like getting out a bit as well. I certainly will reserve my right to say no when I don’t want to. I will spend the 4th by myself without being nagged for it.

Oh don’t get me wrong, anyone who loves to go out and socialise has my double thumbs up. Generally we are very social creatures, just not in my case. I could happily live on a tiny island, shoe boxes on my feet and one of those ultra long beards.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

narwhal wrote:

Anyone else have a situation like this? You aren’t married, yet there is a woman (married or single) that does some wifely functions for you in terms of socializing and such. I see it a as a win-win, in that I get to enjoy a social event with a wife doing much of the work, yet the wife is someone else’s problem when it’s over. As well, I can always decline and set terms for my house as I see fit…which would be met with complaints if it was my actual wife.

Yes
My daughters and some female friends lend me a hand in planning vacations or social events. There are people who love doing this kind of stuff and are happy to help and can be useful.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[GregB0Participant]

narwhal wrote:

. I see it a as a win-win, in that I get to enjoy a social event with a wife doing much of the work, yet the wife is someone else’s problem when it’s over.

FrostByte wrote:

There are people who love doing this kind of stuff and are happy to help and can be useful.

Everyone of us have our individual strengths and weaknesses. Allowing users to assist us with those weaknesses is not only the smart thing to do, but reduces unnecessary stress in our personal lives. Getting out in public and interacting with people is a skill that can diminish in time, use it or lose it.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Seems like a win-win situation @narwhal. You get the level of social interaction you desire with none of the logistic requirements.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Anonymous 1]

Sounds like a good plan. I am like a lot of people here. I easily get my fill of people quickly. Once a year I’m in charge of a neighborhood party. I do almost all of the prep work. I’ll have two grills and a deep fryer going this year. After its all said and done I’ll want a month off being a monk again. Usually do not like going out more than once a week and sometimes not even that much

This years main dish. A Gordon Ramsey turkey.

I call it the stealthy turkey.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Here’s a weird on for ya: My wife is lazy and self centered to the point that if we have people over I have to do everything.

This is not by choice – she will sit on her ass and I’ll say – so what are we having for the get-to-gether? She will reply, I dunno – I’ll pick something up.
Then an hour before the party she will get off her ass and go get some lame packaged bulls~~~ – finally after years of being embarrassed b/c friends have had us over and prepared some really kick ass meals – I now do it.

And what is so frustrating is she is not embarrassed by her laziness!

If we go away for a weekend with friends, the other guys’s wife pulls me aside and says – can you bring suchnsuch, or whatever? B/c she knows the Spoiled One cannot be counted on to do it.

The other guy’s wife will actually look at me and smile when my wife has procrastinated and brought some crappy s~~~ to the get-to-gether.

And when the men are outside grilling – and women are inside doing stuff – she will sit on her ass and not help the other women. And time for cleaning dishes – NOPE. Sitting on her ass.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

3 hours if female.
24 hours if men.

That’s the maximum I can stand interaction.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[MGTOW KnightParticipant 7477]

@narwhal

Seems like a ideal situation. I like to be socialize but I hate all the planning. Nothing p~~~es me off more than people who flake. If I don’t have to plan it, and people flake, I wont get p~~~ed about it.

Fuck bitches... literally and metaphorically

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