Something I realized in what it takes on being a man

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Let me please give out a back story of my life first. I live in a dysfunctional family and it was my family that was part of my reason for my downfall many years ago but have also been there for me as I rebuild my life many years later. In the end though, it was me who was the one making my own solutions to the many problems that I have through life experience, through videos and through the books that I read.

But if there was just one thing that I realized right now that I have been doing the same mistake over and over again, it is to vent out to my family of my problems with people and things in general. I realize now that men are not suppose to talk about their problems like females are known for doing openly. It is a guy’s job to suck it up in life and then deal the problems on their own, because it was people like my mom who did not want to hear it and we would have big arguments over them, even though she was even responsible for some of them.

There is a reason why they have women’s shelters for abused women in marriage, yet there is no male shelters in site. There is a reason why there are a lot more males doing suicide and are more likely to be homeless than the females. As a male, it is expected in society that I have to deal with my own sh*t and that you will probably never get as much of a support system as much as the females in society in terms of emotional support and closure. Every time I vent out to people about my problems, people probably thought that I was suppose to suck it up like all males are suppose to do which is why I usually never get much sympathy for my problems. That is how life is in general because that is just the way it is, but now I realized my ways and now I have even grown to accepting all of this.

One word of advice, if you do not wish to fulfill your role as a man society and suck it up, at least do it so that you do not even give people the chance to through all your vent up frustrations back at your face and create even more conflicts. I guess that my life from here on out will be much more of a tranquil experience. I wasn’t always venting out in my life by the way, it is just that something happened to me many years ago that sort of changed my whole personality, because in the past I kept a lot of things to myself, but after a few years ago, I developed some bad social habits that I am trying to reverse now. I hope I helped a few people here who have simular experiences as I do.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[HitmanParticipant]

my brother, i hear you.
society shames men when they talk about their problems,
especially family..they don’t understand.
maybe they should but they don’t.
support systems for most men are at the local bar.
NOW we have this place, thank god!
you can complain and find men like yourself who experienced the same .
i have two sisters, if they complain they are coddled ..
if i complain the sympathy isn’t there at all.
my family are assholes..
religious and judgmental..
i see them very little because i don’t like them anymore.
yes we men have feelings and emotions.
this is not going to be acknowledged by family and some friends..
but then , are they really worth the time if they s~~~ on us when we need them ?
no.so keep on posting, learning and growing..
i’ll be the family that won’t shame you !
i’m on the side of every man here.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

Hitman wrote:

i’ll be the family that won’t shame you !
i’m on the side of every man here.

same here!
we are here to learn, grow, and support each other

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[RedpillPrimateParticipant 1026]

Hitman wrote:

i have two sisters, if they complain they are coddled ..
if i complain the sympathy isn’t there at all.

Same here. I have one sister and she was coddled all the time when we were kids and still is. Whenever I bring up something that I have a problem with, my parents, especially my mom, get all angry about it and even start arguments with me over nothing.

I get this look of “suck it up and be a man” if I ever complain about anything or express my problems to them. Which is why I just learned to act like a mangina around them and agree with everything they say just to avoid arguments.

I’ll be glad once I’ve moved away from home state. That way, I won’t have to deal with my family as much.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22628]

Enjoy The Decline wrote:

As a male, it is expected in society that I have to deal with my own sh*t and that you will probably never get as much of a support system as much as the females in society in terms of emotional support and closure.

No, we men are expected to pay for everyone else, so they can enjoy joy their lives, while at the same time for us men to survive one what little we are allowed to have left to live. With us just treading water with no hope of a better future for us.

The world cannot start burning soon enough.

RedpillPrimate wrote:

I’ll be glad once I’ve moved away from home state. That way, I won’t have to deal with my family as much.

The fun part is twenty to thirty years from now. When you mother comes calling for you to take care of her. And you can say, no. And remind her how much she treated you like s~~~. And for her to go ask your sister, the child she actually was kind to, for help.

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

The only reason for arguing with a non-mgtow is to entertain yourself. Beyond that, whip out the NFG card and walk. It will take years for anyone that’s not us to understand us.

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Brothers who are in pain, if you ever feel like you want to get things off your chest, blaspheme your way into super-hell or really want to cry and open up, we’re here for you.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[experiencedParticipant]

Blue Skies wrote:

Hitman wrote:

i’ll be the family that won’t shame you !
i’m on the side of every man here.

same here!
we are here to learn, grow, and support each other

Same here!

Years ago the male’s burden was bearable.
However, more and more was added and is still being added to the load –
The brainwashing from laydeez that you are supposed to silently collapse to the ground dead, is bulls~~~.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[AttonParticipant]

No, we men are expected to pay for everyone else, so they can enjoy joy their lives, while at the same time for us men to survive one what little we are allowed to have left to live. With us just treading water with no hope of a better future for us.

The world cannot start burning soon enough.

S~~~ty expectations where made to be rejected and disregarded.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

I dont think there’s anything wrong with trying to find support from others, regardless of gender. Anybody who thinks men are or have to be emotionally impenetrable is on drugs. We aren’t as bad as women, but we’re still human.

If I got a problem, I usually just say “I’ll deal” or I’ll come to this site. Everyone here is so awesome. Very supportive, and I love to read all the threads.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Men need to come to their own realizations, or take advice from other men on what “being a man” represents.

NEVER listen to a woman or beta male tell you how to be a man.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[experiencedParticipant]

Men say, “How can I be the best that I can be.”
Women say,”How can I be the best … wait a second, improve myself?
No way. “Lash Out” just like the commercial jingle, yeah, that appeals to me, criticize others rather than clean up my own act, yeah.”

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

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