I am an almost 26 year US Army combat veteran. I retired in 2011. In 2007 I separated from my ex-wife before my last deployment and divorced her a soon as possible after coming home in 2008. I initiated the divorce. I was miserable during my marriage. The girl I dated, was engaged to and married was not the same person I divorced from and had the overall impression that either I was not properly prepared for what it takes to be a good husband, lover, and friend to a woman or that she misrepresented herself as a person before we tied the knot (insert picture of noose here). I realized that I have the responsibility to my three sons to demonstrate living a happy life is the norm. Not being in a miserable relationship with a co-dependent woman.
I am a very analytical person and spent a lot of time (too much) analyzing our behavior while we were still married. The last few years of our marriage I came realize that it wasn’t a ME thing or an US thing that was causing the strife but a HER thing. I was indoctrinated that it takes two to maintain a relationship and that it takes two for a relationship to fail. This implies that I was at fault for her intolerable behavior. I spent many, many sleepless nights lamenting the state of our marriage and contemplated what was needed for us to get back on track.
Slowly, I came to realize that this would never happen.
No matter how I defended myself against her mind games, control games, verbal attacks, and general disdain she demonstrated towards myself, I was always going to be the bad guy. Like most vagina bearers she has the ability to cry on command. Also, don’t forget PTSD is equal to my being insane, therefore I don’t see things clearly.
I wasn’t brought up that the pinnacle of a man’s existence is to be a husband and father but I still couldn’t escape the feeling that I had failed in some way. Quitting is not a word you find in my day-to-day vocabulary. My marriage is one of the few things in my life that I have walked away from. As a combat medic I never shied away from the bullets, bombs, motors, rockets, or the screams of the wounded. But the idea of spending another day in a relationship in a mind game playing, control game playing, unaffectionate, unappreciative, relentlessly nagging harpy that has clear indicators that she has an Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) Not to be confused a true Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, (OCD) – left me feeling frightened and alone.
I have joint custody of my sons. My oldest can’t take her s~~~ either. He has told me that he is happy I divorced his mother if only that he can get away from her for a week at a time. I don’t need a woman to be happy. I get horny but never feel alone. I educate my sons about the realities of women and dating in today’s North American society. I know that there are decent women out there and tell them to hold out for the real deal but they are the minority. A very small minority. I also tell them that having a woman in their life isn’t a need-to-have but a nice-to-have. I tell them that no one is going to take better care of you than yourself. I emphasize education, personal responsibility and accountability and that MEN should be the epitome of the word integrity. I am often grateful that I never had a daughter.
I still get angry sometimes. I am a realest. I gave up my 20’s to my 40’s to a woman that promised me a measure of happiness and then reneged. Einstein once defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So I don’t understand current women’s thinking that trying to feminize you men, cuckolding, belittling, game playing, then gas lighting about their behavior still persists. It’s not working and men are opting out of committing to a relationship with women because you just can’t afford to trust. A divorce costs too much in the way of money and anguish. Not to mention if children are involved.
I fear that the separation between the sexes will widen to the point that a significant amount of the reproduction will happen as a result of artificial insemination. This is a two-edged sword. On one hand, “Great now I don’t have to bother with making a woman feel fulfilled by pushing a baby out of the pussy”. On the other hand, “Who will raise the boys to become men?”.
For that matter who will start raising girls to become women?
"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.
MadScientist 4 years, 9 months ago.
