My question: Considering the nature of life, why wouldn’t a woman I would have as a partner (if I had one) NOT be a business partner?  But, I guess the idea is to “follow your heart” the romance experts say, and not care how incompatible your life would be with a woman.  Note: I am saying a theoretical NAWALT is more common than it is her.

Reality is marriages – and increasingly just casual relationships – are straight up clear business deals, only you as a guy are permanently on the short side of the win/lose aspect, by law.  No matter what, 95% of the time you as the penis-bearer are in “violation of the agreement” and have harmed the vagina-burdened half, and as such you must pay the price.  When that is all that relationships boil down to in the end, how does one not see the other as a business partner, and a likely untrustworthy one at that.

That being said, everything about any relationship is business.  It all revolves around presumed honest exchange of something, be that money, responsibilities, romance, household duties, tasks, etc.  Ask your coworker to find one couple anywhere in history that has successfully “lived on love” only and not dealt with the business of the relationship  – good freakin luck … it is all about business.

Then women started throwing the false pretense of love around just to fool men into a miserable life of servitude. Its all one big lie, any lawyer or businessman will tell you that marriage is a faulty business deal and a fraudulent contract. Marry women for love and happiness lol yeah rite!!, biggest sham ever sold to men.

Marriage has always been a business deal, a contract so to speak.

Agreed. In days of Charles Dickens and Jane Austen, that was a given. Perhaps nobody was any more happily married than now, but the system worked better than what we have now. That is, if we even have a system.

A reason why I am probably not married is I have a probably delusional belief that the woman I am marrying I have synergy with and we are able to do what we each need, and there isn’t a need for give and take, but to be able to find a better way that would benefit me and her.  I wouldn’t mind her being involved in my life a lot, if what I am doing intrinsically interests her and not as some sort of favor that would be I have to pay back, in ways of doing things I can’t stand.  But, I see the path of resentment starts with give and take, and believing you accumulate points for something you can spend.

But hey, who needs life compatibility when all you have is lust and a dire need to not be alone?

I won’t say that marriage is ONLY a business relationship

What aspect of marriage is not business to you?

1.  You can add a wife to your health insurance, and not a girlfriend.

2.  If you divorce a wife you get financially raped in court, if you dump a girlfriend you owe her nothing.

What it boils down to for me is the potential loss from a divorce is simply not worth whatever money we’d save on insurance.  Do I want to risk half of my assets to at best save a couple thousand a year on insurance?

If love truly was a factor…wouldn’t someone madly in love with you simply just want to be with you and not care about forcing you into a bad business deal?  If I was in love with a woman and proposed to her, and she said no, but I’ll live with you, have sex with you, and have kids and raise them with you…am I going to say no thanks?  F~~~ no.  If I was in love with her assets and she wouldn’t marry me, then I’d realize I wasn’t getting an easy meal ticket and try to go find another host to leech off.  I don’t care if women don’t want to believe this, its the truth with how modern society and marriage/divorce laws are.

2. If you divorce a wife you get financially raped in court, if you dump a girlfriend you owe her nothing.

Careful with that. Depending on the state you live in, if she lives with you for a time you are defacto “common-law” married and she can sue for things like palimony and maybe more. I’m not a lawyer, but I play one on tv.

richardhutnik wrote:

I won’t say that marriage is ONLY a business relationship

What aspect of marriage is not business to you?

I don’t consider socializing and doing things for fun a business relationship.  There are some aspects for enjoyment, if you can pull that off.  There are some things in life you don’t measure by profit and losses.  It is important that a lot be done that way, but not all be.