small victories…

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

‘Got a visit recently from my 80+ year old mother. We talked for some time about my life and how it’s turned out. She was once worried about that when I was a kid, but I never really was. Somehow I knew I’d be ok. She said she was a little disappointed (for me) that I had not ‘found someone’ and had a family. She wasn’t critical, just sort of concerned. She is from a different time, and from a generation that’s got few remaining survivors. She knows the world has changed, but is not connected enough to know the full extent of it.

I thought it was time to drop some truth bombs. I reminded her of some of the women in my life over the years. She’d met a few of them, and knew about a few more. The alcoholic, the gold digger, the anorexic, the anger management problem, the threats… I reminded her that I hadn’t really had much from women to work with, so I’d stopped trying. I reminded her of a relative who tried over and over again: married 4 times, taken to the cleaners financially by gold diggers, women with cocaine problems, immaturity problems, etc.

Then, I asked her if she’d like to watch a movie. I downloaded the documentary “Divorce Corp”, that I first learned about on this site. She watched it all the way through, shaking her head a couple times along the way. When it was over, I explained that I know that everyone sees me as this successful (eligible) bachelor and that there were probably rumors going around about me hating women, or fearing them as explanations about why I am not married. I explained to her that I had once liked women just fine, but that I had decided a long time ago that I was not signing up for that bulls~~~, (motioning toward the screen where the credits were rolling). I explained to her that women today used terms like “starter husband”, “trophy husband” and “retirement husband”, and that I didn’t intend to volunteer to be any of them.

She got quiet for a minute while it all sank in. For someone from her era who’s been isolated from most of what’s happened since, it was a lot of truth at one time. She got married as a teenager, and stayed married for 40+ years until my father died. Richer, poorer, sickness, health, better worse… we had all that s~~~ when I was a kid, but she never left. Finally, she said, “In my day, if a woman couldn’t stay married, she was seen as a failure and it was assumed that there was something wrong with her. And, she was treated accordingly. These women today are an embarrassment to us…”.

I told her that if I ever found a woman worthy of it, and a way to have a relationship without participating in the corrupted sewer that is family court, I would not pass it up. (I know the odds of that are essentially ZERO, but no point in disappointing an old lady anymore than she already is). I also reminded her that without one, my life does not suck. She looked around at my paid off house, toys etc and thought for a minute and then smiled and said, “I wouldn’t risk it either…”

Most parents assume that they know more than their kids, and when we are kids, that’s usually true. At some point, we become adults, but our parents don’t let go of that assumption easily. Mine once thought I was broken. She didn’t say it, but she knows now that I’ve known exactly what I was doing for a very long time. The way she talks to me is already different…

Small victories.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Gravel PitParticipant]

BrainPilot wrote:

I would not pass it up. (I know the odds of that are essentially ZERO, but no point in disappointing an old lady anymore than she already is).

Ditto

Wonderful update, a treasure to read your thoughts. I’m always in full agreement and thankful someone here can articulate the same things I’m experiencing.

Although I’m nowhere near your level of education, age and financial ability. I relate hardcore to you every time perhaps because I’m also a single guy in North Texas.

I don’t make over 40 K a year but Iam a business owner and land owner, a young 32 year old guy with no previous marriage or kids. I plan to keep it that way because in 10 years I really will be a catch and I’m not planning to sign up to be one of those “starter husbands” or “mr. right now” or SpermBANK ATM donor type guys.

I plan on continuing to agree with men on this site, making friends and staying “monk”

Have a great weekend, the weather is finally wonderful.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

This makes me so happy, I feel like buying a diesel truck!

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[The_Invisible_ManParticipant 105]

Nice writing man, loved your input because it is so much full of truths. You know your stuff and you got your lady to understand a little. Of course parents can be disappointed when we stay away from the system. Respect to you man.

Invisible.

BrainPilot wrote:

I told her that if I ever found a woman worthy of it, and a way to have a relationship without participating in the corrupted sewer that is family court, I would not pass it up. (I know the odds of that are essentially ZERO, but no point in disappointing an old lady anymore than she already is). I also reminded her that without one, my life does not suck. She looked around at my paid off house, toys etc and thought for a minute and then smiled and said, “I wouldn’t risk it either…”
Most parents assume that they know more than their kids, and when we are kids, that’s usually true. At some point, we become adults, but our parents don’t let go of that assumption easily. Mine once thought I was broken. She didn’t say it, but she knows now that I’ve known exactly what I was doing for a very long time. The way she talks to me is already different…

I may as well be invisible!

[OldBillParticipant]

BrainPilot wrote:

At some point, we become adults, but our parents don’t let go of that assumption easily. Mine once thought I was broken. She didn’t say it, but she knows now that I’ve known exactly what I was doing for a very long time. The way she talks to me is already different…

Very well put, brother.

Rather than a heart-to-heart chat and a shared movie, my mother’s wake-up call was a gradual one. She was in her late 60s when she finally reached the tipping point in understanding that her generation’s world was very different from my generation’s world.

She needed the weight to accumulate. It took many divorces involving her extensive pool of relatives, both make and female, for her to understand. She saw men, who she personally knew to be good men, savaged in the process. She saw women, who she also knew personally, destroy marriages, families, and lives on a nothing more than a whim. It took a while, but she’s firmly in the Do Not Marry camp now.

Last summer during a family get-together, one her younger sisters was complaining about the many problems created by her daughter’s failed second marriage. This daughter is such a dumpster fire that she lost primary custody of her children from her first marriage and her second divorce isn’t going any better.

After listening to her younger sister vent, my mother commented “That’s why I’m so happy my son never married.” My aunt was visibly shocked and my mother felt no need to elaborate, but it was wonderful to hear a woman from her generation baldly state that women have become monsters.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[TwistParticipant]

BrainPilot wrote:

Got a visit recently from my 80+ year old mother

Beautiful story. The two of you mourning the state of today. Happy for you that you saw it in time.

Give your mom a kiss for me. Mine gone almost two years – we had those talks too. When nobody answers the phone when you dial “Mom” it leaves a big hole.

[LosPukeParticipant 514]

BrainPilot, tonight after supper I shall read your post to my 90 year old Granny that I’m taking care of. I lost my mother at the age of 11 and my Granny has taken her place. She still dreams that I will find “The One” and live happily ever after. I’ve told her that she is “The One” and there will not be another when she leaves this world. Thank you for your story. Perhaps if my Granny understands that there are other men that feel the way I do, she might come to terms with reality.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Keep it free men, keep it MGTOW.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[MACHOParticipant]

LosPuke wrote:

Granny has taken her place. She still dreams that I will find “The One”

The One would take you to the cleaner! We live at a time when women have sworn to destroy men. They are using the phrase “take down the patriarchy” but what they mean is Destroy men! They hate us! Modern women have only hatred for men.. if they ever had anything else it has been replaced by a heart of stone… They are laughing each time they see a man suffer or is being destroyed! A special place is waiting for them in Hell!

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Diamond DogParticipant 142]

BrainPilot wrote:

“In my day, if a woman couldn’t stay married, she was seen as a failure and it was assumed that there was something wrong with her. And, she was treated accordingly. These women today are an embarrassment to us…”.

That’s the problem with modern women today, their actions cannot be judged. I’ve seen multiple articles about why “slut shaming” is so bad but reality doesn’t lie. STDs have been on the rise for years and sites like Tinder hasn’t helped at all. I believe it is only going to get worse.

Don't be a "provider" unless you are providing for yourself.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

I found it amazing when my grandmother dropped a red pill on me. She told me not to marry any of these trashy modern women. She could see what the options were. Not good.

[Knarley BobParticipant 2219]

That was a very nice read, sir. Had a smile on my face by the time I was done. Sounds like you and your mom are close, that warms the heart. I am truly happy for you.

OATHKEEPERS, not on our watch. MOLON LABE

[Anonymous 18]

OldBill wrote:

women have become monsters.

There are remnants of blue pill simp in me that will need reminder of it constantly.

Away from MGTOW, away from real men’s first-hand experiences, it is SO easy for a young man to fall prey at hands of predatory post-wall c~~~ carousel riders.

I do prefer the imagine of an hyena when I have to interact with a female who finds it appropriate to flirt with me.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

I’ve red-pilled my mom a few times and she knows exactly what I mean.

She has asked me to red-pill my simp of a 50-year-old brother who just can’t seem to cope without being under the wing of some harpy.
Lately, he has been causing her some heartache when he goes back and forth in relations~~~s with this woman 600 miles away, only to move back in with mom when he gets his ass handed to him.

I’ve tried over and over to tell him about the nature of women.
He will nod his head in agreement and a week later he’s pussy-begging again.

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