She's not your best friend, no matter how many times she says it

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

I visited some friends today and they celebrated their one year anniversary. She said she was so happy that she married her best friend. He smiled and nodded like the well trained slave he is. This inspired me to write this post. I saw the look on his face, he knows it’s bulls~~~, I know it’s bulls~~~ but he would never say that out loud.

Then I realized I’ve had women tell me the same thing. In fact I had an ex girlfriend tell me I was her best friend, we broke up, one week later she found some new guy, they get engaged, and now he’s her new best friend. So your best friend is whatever f~~~ partner you have at the time? Let’s look at this further.

The definition of best is superlative good, and the definition of friend is one attached to another by affection and one that is not hostile. A wife is a female partner in a marriage. Throughout history, the status regarding the relationships with women are equivalent to the status of a nuclear reactor. There are protocols in place to ensure it does not melt down, and it can abruptly end at any time regardless of how much effort you put into nurturing it.

How often is your relationship with your wife or your girlfriend hostile? Did you ever had to tread carefully with your male best friends? Did you ever have to take your male best friends on expensive dates? Did you remember your anniversary with your male best friend (rhetorical question, we don’t care)? Did your male best friend care if you had a great job, disposable income? Would your male best friend not be your friend when you’re at your worst?

These are the questions I ask when I think of the words best friends. So no, they were never my best friend, your wife/girlfriend is not your best friend, and never will be your best friend. I don’t f~~~ my best friend, my best friend does not f~~~ me, does not abandon me at my lowest point, and does not replace me with a random other friend.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Great post. You’re spot on. Women occasionally make decent wives and mothers, but they make p~~~-poor “friends”.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

It’s just the TYPICAL B.S. women say, like they throw around the B.S. term “Soul Mate”. It’s just more blah, blah, blah being generated by the hamster wheel.

You gave a VERY rational and logical explanation of what does and does not constitute a “best friend”.

Women are NEITHER rational or logical. They just talk s~~~.

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[Anonymous 6]

This is a friend.

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Great post brother!!! I have heard this drivel so many times from so many women…I have HAD TO REPEAT THE F~~~ING DRIVEL MYSELF!!! UGH!!! The words BURNED as they came out of my mouth…Fact is they couldn’t possible understand a best friend, or what they are for or what they do…Women are incapable of such deep interaction…

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

“married my best friend”

I call my best friend an asshole quite often, because he is.

Call your wife an asshole. I dare you.

I told my best friend that he was an idiot for f~~~ing around with a dangerous woman.

Call your wife an idiot. I dare you.

I cut my best friend off from drinking the other night because he’d had too much.

Try to take something out of your wife’s hands. I dare you.

My best friend was trying to get a rise out of me a while back and I looked him dead in the eye and said “Stop it right now or I’ll break your f~~~ing nose.”

Try threatening your wife with physical harm. I dare you.

My best friend also buys me booze, brings food to my house and cooks for us, gives me money if I give him a ride, helps me move heavy s~~~, introduces me to his other friends, hands me business opportunities, shows up to events we plan with his own gear and resources and, most importantly, pays his own way.

Your wife is NOT your best friend.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Cut your best friend off from your money.

Hmm, where’d she go?

Peace brothers

[chirParticipant]

Women like to have plenty of male friends. But women don’t call them friends. They call them options or backup man.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I dated a chick for a while that told me all about her ex “best friend” who she had a falling out with and what a slut and a bitch and a c~~~ she was. Anyway…probably like a year after we broke up I ran into her during a night out with some friends…and who was she hanging out with? That’s right…the slut bitch c~~~ who apparently was her best friend again because she had no other options.

When I look back at a lot of my old friends I don’t see much anymore…its not like I feel the need to run around and trash them…its often just people you grew apart from for whatever reason. There wasn’t ever a falling out. I didn’t go from loving them to hating them to loving them. I may have had some disagreements with friends in the past but we got over it…there wasn’t ever a need to run around trashing each other and to cut each other out of your life completely until 6-12 months later you realized you had no other friends and had to monkey branch back.

I just see a lot of women that treat their friends like they do their boyfriends. They have a best friend for right now. Maybe he’s got a dick, maybe he doesn’t, but if a better offer comes along they’ll take it.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

She manipulating you thinking the relationship is trustworthy.

Plus do women have sex with their best friends? No

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

She owns his b~~~~ and wallet so he best smile when she’s around. Of more concern is what plan does he have to get his b~~~~ and wallet back – however scarred they may be. Only your friend can answer that. Hopefully he’s already got that figured out – otherwise he’s in for a long miserable ride. Marriage only works if he is willing to give his sovereignty over his life up. If not, he knows his next step.

[thisistheguy123Participant 2063]

They have no honour

[Writing Desk RavenParticipant 460]

Masculine_Man wrote:

Throughout history, the status regarding the relationships with women are equivalent to the status of a nuclear reactor. There are protocols in place to ensure it does not melt down, and it can abruptly end at any time regardless of how much effort you put into nurturing it.

How dare you make this comparison.

You have a much better chance of surviving a reactor meltdown intact and in good health.

Masculine_Man wrote:

How often is your relationship with your wife or your girlfriend hostile?

I have had entire relationships built on that hostility and the epic anger/hate sex that comes from it.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did you ever had to tread carefully with your male best friend?

Once, about his relationship with his useless father; he was piecing things together for himself at the time and I knew the harm interceding would cause. We still fought about it, anyway, and buried the hatchet within a matter of days.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did you ever have to take your male best friends on expensive dates?

I count bachelor parties or a birthday dinner as expensive dates for male friends, if only because they seem to be the only “dates” you’ll go on where the person you’re taking out is profusely appreciative you did so.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did you remember your anniversary with your male best friend (rhetorical question, we don’t care)?

I’ve forgotten birthdays and holiday plans with my best friend and had collectively less angst over it in the decade+ we’ve known each other, than forgetting a single anniversary.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did your male best friend care if you had a great job, disposable income?

Yes, because he actually cares about my happiness and well-being, regardless of its impact on him.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Would your male best friend not be your friend when you’re at your worst?

It’s at the worst that men become their best.

So, to sum up, my best friend has traded blows with me and been gracious about it, won’t shut the f~~~ up about it for days after I do something nice for him, busts my b~~~~ and never brings it up again when I drop the ball, wants me to do well with zero strings attached, walks through fire for me, and has no boundaries on what’s funny.

If you ever meet just one woman who has half those qualities…

… she was probably a cool dude before the surgery.

"Almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little dark prison we are all born in... The danger is that of coming to love the prison." ~ C.S. Lewis

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Saying she’s your best friend is her way of getting you to open up to her. Share your wildest dreams and your biggest fears. This is what you will later call ammunition. Because she will use every piece of information that you share with her against you at some point in time. She will pull out that big fear and beat you over the head with it at the perfect time where it inflicts the most damage.

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[FermatParticipant 3478]

I hear that crap a lot from guys and girls and it makes me cringe. Its always the “nice guys” that spout that s~~~ with a dumb smile on their face. “Look at me I’m so cool,deep, and trendy cause I’ve discovered that women are sooo much more than baby ovens. Theyre our FRIENDS!!” I want to puke.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[Anonymous 2]

Women are a mans biggest hater. The more they try to convince you of being fun, loyal, honest, etc. The more they are not. After my last relationship of 2 years fell apart, she had the 2nd string guy moved up to 1st within a week. They always have a backup plan. Its been 1.5 years no dating no bulls~~~ this freedom is amazing.

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

Writing Desk Raven wrote:

Masculine_Man wrote:

Throughout history, the status regarding the relationships with women are equivalent to the status of a nuclear reactor. There are protocols in place to ensure it does not melt down, and it can abruptly end at any time regardless of how much effort you put into nurturing it.

How dare you make this comparison.

You have a much better chance of surviving a reactor meltdown intact and in good health.

Masculine_Man wrote:

How often is your relationship with your wife or your girlfriend hostile?

I have had entire relationships built on that hostility and the epic anger/hate sex that comes from it.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did you ever had to tread carefully with your male best friend?

Once, about his relationship with his useless father; he was piecing things together for himself at the time and I knew the harm interceding would cause. We still fought about it, anyway, and buried the hatchet within a matter of days.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did you ever have to take your male best friends on expensive dates?

I count bachelor parties or a birthday dinner as expensive dates for male friends, if only because they seem to be the only “dates” you’ll go on where the person you’re taking out is profusely appreciative you did so.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did you remember your anniversary with your male best friend (rhetorical question, we don’t care)?

I’ve forgotten birthdays and holiday plans with my best friend and had collectively less angst over it in the decade+ we’ve known each other, than forgetting a single anniversary.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Did your male best friend care if you had a great job, disposable income?

Yes, because he actually cares about my happiness and well-being, regardless of its impact on him.

Masculine_Man wrote:

Would your male best friend not be your friend when you’re at your worst?

It’s at the worst that men become their best.

So, to sum up, my best friend has traded blows with me and been gracious about it, won’t shut the f~~~ up about it for days after I do something nice for him, busts my b~~~~ and never brings it up again when I drop the ball, wants me to do well with zero strings attached, walks through fire for me, and has no boundaries on what’s funny.

If you ever meet just one woman who has half those qualities…

… she was probably a cool dude before the surgery.

Thanks for answering the questions. I also agree with your assessment of if a woman was like that she was probably a cool dude before the surgery.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[RumpoleParticipant 994]

Given many gentlemen’s experiences, I imagine more than a few would rather deal with Chernobyl or Fukushima than with some women.

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

TaxGuy wrote:

Saying she’s your best friend is her way of getting you to open up to her. Share your wildest dreams and your biggest fears. This is what you will later call ammunition. Because she will use every piece of information that you share with her against you at some point in time. She will pull out that big fear and beat you over the head with it at the perfect time where it inflicts the most damage.

This.

At a certain point, a decade+ before taking the red pill, I realized that I must never, ever trust women with anything important. They’d either tell it to all their friends or find some way to use it against me.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

Writing Desk Raven wrote:

If you ever meet just one woman who has half those qualities…

… she was probably a cool dude before the surgery.

I’ve known a number of transgender folk. Some of them are remarkably cool; some are just completely bats~~~. Transitioning is, I imagine, not very easy. I still have a couple of tranny friends.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

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