ShawSkank Redemption

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

I’ve changed the way I think lately to help me cope with living in the proverbial prison that is marriage.

Before I’d be angry and bitter or would try to change myself, behave differently or do nice things and buy things for the ‘spoiled one’ to try and make her ‘be happy’. The reality was I was miserable being a financial slave to an entitled brat and attempting to do ‘things’ to make her change was futile.

So now when she ask for things I just say no. When she complains about no vacation I tell her to save for one. Now I’ve ceased trying to make her into a giving and appreciative person and I’ve channeled that energy and money into doing things for me.

I still pay 70+% of all the bills PLUS tuition – but no more frivolous BS for her. If she asked to go to dinner I tell her I’m not paying, but I’ll go if she picks it up. I take this money and do things for me. Fk it!

These things seem small, but I’m using my proverbial spoon to dig out of this hellish prison surrounded by a financial moat of lost assets and alimony.

I’m selling off toys that I’ve accumulated over the years and stashing the cash. I also am focusing on my hobbies and things that keep me healthy and sane – and that keep me away from her.

One day I’ll be on the outside and I can only imagine what it will be like.

I see other posts from poor fkers like me in the same hellish prison. Lookout for yourselves and seek happiness or cope with the s~~~tyness while in the ‘joint’. Don’t fall into the abyss of misery. Do things that will make you healthy and happier while in this place.

Years ago I had a mistress as a refuge, but that was busted up. I know it wasn’t the honorable thing to do but DAMN – it was nice! Instead of having to twist an arm and get a look like I’d just ask her to take out the garbage this chic was calling me and begging me to come throw it to her. She begged me to leave, and said to just write off the losses. I didn’t listen. I told this chic I was never marrying again and she said she was fine with it. She would have changed and tried to put the hooks in me, but it was definitely an epic carnal refuge! She was x2hotter than my wife and made 3x what she did. Yet here I sit.

It is tempting to find another like her to pass the time, but that is a slippery slope and I just need to weather this storm alone and get the F – out of here.

Sorry to wax philosophical… just growing stronger in my resolve to free myself and being positive. It’s easy to slip into a dark place and its important not to do that.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

CombatRoll wrote:

So now when she ask for things I just say no. When she complains about no vacation I tell her to save for one. Now I’ve ceased trying to make her into a giving and appreciative person and I’ve channeled that energy and money into doing things for me.

This is a formula for blow jobs & sex again. She may think she’s losing her resource center.

And well done, by the way.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 54]

Young guys!

This is Marrage.

“Love” leads to “Hard Time”

Yes Combat Roll.Take care of your well being first.Dont anger “the Wardon” Stash that cash. Plan your escape. Dont be distracted by pussy. Just complicates your life, and lets more time slip past. Lay low, wait for your monent.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Liquidate and save what you can. This will give you time to plan your eventual exit. It’s unfortunate that you too have had to waste so many resources in this marriage, but as you know it comes with the territory. Minimizing current/future expenses, and consolidating resources is priority one.
Finding another mistress is a bad idea as she will become
your next drain regardless of her income. I’m assuming you’re at an age and income level where you can’t afford nor desire ANOTHER leach. By all means, get your needs met, but that doesn’t necessarily have to take the form of a “relationship”.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[TaxGuyParticipant]

To stick with the Shawshank story, understand that the actual escape will be through a half mile of sewer. It’s the worst of it. But sweet, sweet freedom awaits at the other end.

Order the good wine

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

In the spirit of this thread…so glad you are getting busy living!!

The s~~~ you have to go through to get out will wash off in time & you will be free and wont have the stench of that s~~~ assaulting your nostrils like it has been.

CombatRoll wrote:

just growing stronger in my resolve to free myself and being positive. It’s easy to slip into a dark place and its important not to do that.

One of my reasons for being in “monk” mode…after a vasectomy & having some other plans I have are in place, I will do that oil change pump & dump dating, if I ever find a woman that I can at least enjoy her company to some degree & is at least reasonably attractive.

Best wishes on your escape plan working out to the best it can be for you!!!

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Way to live for yourself CombatRoll. Like this scene, you’ve had enough of the system turned against you, and you don’t kiss ass thinking that will get you your desired outcome.

With one word “No”, you echo everything Red says. I selected it to start at the point I did because this where the comparison to MGTOW starts. Don’t you wish you too could talk to that young stupid kid that put you on the inside. Since we can’t do that, we take our place at the communal fire and gather as the Elders of a manly tribe to impart some life lessons to the younger men.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

@combatroll: I WAS in the same situation as you not long ago. When I started to shift spending for myself and my hobbies and interests, I was SELFISH. However, daily Starbucks latte’s and eating out for lunch everyday with coworkers was acceptable. So was buying a new wardrobe monthly and other useless s~~~ that ends up at Goodwill. It isn’t even the point that she was spending tons of money, the point IS she was worried about what I spent money on. It’s kinda funny that the daily latte’s and s~~~ lunches led to a fatter wife who then needed a different wardrobe to catch up. The final curtain call came when full body Spanks were necessary to hide the nasty.

I filed for divorce bank in June. Wife begged me to give her a chance and she did make marked improvements. In the back of my mind, I dread this is a ploy to keep me and I remember all the years of a total s~~~ marriage. Therefore, I can’t stay married to her. We still live together, because our expenses are too great to separate. After five months, I will be accelerating the process. It’s too difficult to live with someone who wants you and you know you are done with the relationship.

I’m also selling a ton of my excess hobby s~~~ and keeping cash. It’s a really good idea. And, if you become worried about being subpoenaed later, you can just use the actual cash for divorce expenses. That way, you don’t have to lie and it can be used as a cash buffer to protect your bank accounts.

I highly recommend going red-pill MGTOW while being married. Take no s~~~. Satisfy no s~~~ test attempts. Come and go as you please, while taking care of things at home and kids (if applicable). Give her nothing anymore. You start making the demands. Gain control back.

I’m going to tell you that eventually this strategy will still wear you down, because the longer you stay, the more life energy you are spending going against the current. Everyday that goes by, you are still subconsciously relinquishing your freedoms and sovereignty. Simply not being able to take an opportunity of meeting and f~~~ing a new women, without moral contempt, is one such example.

A side piece can be nice, but if you are discovered it can be damaging legally and emotionally for many years to come. I strongly recommend filing first if you are going down that road again. However, I can tell you most women will not want to hear about another woman, especially a wife. You got lucky with that one girl.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Nero wrote:

@combatroll:

I highly recommend going red-pill MGTOW while being married. Take no s~~~. Satisfy no s~~~ test attempts. Come and go as you please, while taking care of things at home and kids (if applicable). Give her nothing anymore. You start making the demands. Gain control back.

I’m going to tell you that eventually this strategy will still wear you down, because the longer you stay, the more life energy you are spending going against the current. Everyday that goes by, you are still subconsciously relinquishing your freedoms and sovereignty. Simply not being able to take an opportunity of meeting and f~~~ing a new women, without moral contempt, is one such example.

A side piece can be nice, but if you are discovered it can be damaging legally and emotionally for many years to come. I strongly recommend filing first if you are going down that road again. However, I can tell you most women will not want to hear about another woman, especially a wife. You got lucky with that one girl.

Wise words!

Some additional background. I left in 2007 and was begged to come back. She admitted she had been a bad wife. Her dad told her she was being a burden to me. She swore she would change. We went to counseling where she only went through the motions to get me back home and did not really put forth an effort. She’s inherently lazy.

Now she has gotten c~~~y. Like she doesn’t even think she has to fake making an effort. When I think back how I could have salvaged 10 years of my life it makes me sick. Hindsight is 20/20.

Can you clarify “Going MGTOW Redpill while being married”. I thought I had.
Are you saying go Monk? I’m HD and despite her bitchiness and our s~~~ty marriage, I get laid on avg every couple of days. But it is a action like shaving or showering, free of intimacy and love from either of us.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Some additional background. I left in 2007 and was begged to come back. She admitted she had been a bad wife. Her dad told her she was being a burden to me. She swore she would change. We went to counseling where she only went through the motions to get me back home and did not really put forth an effort. She’s inherently lazy.

Yeah, we have the same woman. Same exact s~~~. I feel like I have another child in the house.

Now she has gotten c~~~y. Like she doesn’t even think she has to fake making an effort. When I think back how I could have salvaged 10 years of my life it makes me sick. Hindsight is 20/20.

And this, my friend, is exactly what I’m worried about. I’m glad I finally got off the fence and mad it clear we are through.

Can you clarify “Going MGTOW Redpill while being married”. I thought I had.
Are you saying go Monk? I’m HD and despite her bitchiness and our s~~~ty marriage, I get laid on avg every couple of days. But it is a action like shaving or showering, free of intimacy and love from either of us.

Yeah, sorry. I realized you pretty much were, but I’m always dual-writing to the audience that is also viewing this. Being Redpill MGTOW married is vastly superior to beta-male, white knight days.

[SwimcatParticipant 3589]

If you’re determined to get out, do it as soon as possible. Give yourself time to recover financially. Nothing is more financially devistating than a late in life divorce.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Nero wrote:

Some additional background.

Yeah, we have the same woman. Same exact s~~~. I feel like I have another child in the house.

S~~~ – I can’t count how many times I’ve called her my 3rd Child!

[NeroParticipant 1466]

CombatRoll wrote:

S~~~ – I can’t count how many times I’ve called her my 3rd Child!

It’s hard to sit here and say divorce now. It became much easier when my kids were older to make the decision. Less raping with little to no child support.

When you do drop the D bomb, be prepared for mega-shaming, crocodile tears, and outbursts of rage like you have never seen before.

[Anonymous 5]

CombatRoll I completely understand your position and absolutely agree with every commenter who followed your post.
Any time spent on a spoiled wench well is just that “spent and wasted”, I “spent” a total of 26 years with little baby girls in womens bodies. And in the end I was the one getting shafted, loosing vast amounts of money earned that I couldve use making my life better for myself.
If i had followed my first instinct after the first two months of my first “prison cell” I wouldve been much better off.
I to heard the BS ” i’m gonna change” or “that wasnt me who said all those nasty, horrible, mean, spiteful, untrue, things to and about you”. Counseling was of no use because then i had two women ganging up on me. But of course “the warden” had picked out the counselor.
Amazing thing though, I knew i had to get out and towards the end of that sentence when ever she would start her BS I would just walk out the door and be gone for a few days. I remained faithful, but she never knew one way or the other and her imagination went on its own trips fueling her suffering.
If i can give any man any kind of advice it would be this. If you “have” to get married never ever give up what you like to do, all of your finances, and make it absolutely 50/50 in everything and make sure she never gets a one up on you. Use the word “no” when ever you want to without exception. And if after you have taken your vows she immediately does a 180 degree on you,do the following, run dont walk to your nearest courthouse and get your marriage annulled before kids are caught in the midst of the brutal battles that will inevitably be forth comming. Better yet, every man should have a prenup !!!!

[AttonParticipant]

Do consider fleeing it tends to work pretty well.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Chuck WowParticipant 141]

Funny you mention Shawshank…I have told that to my friends many time that I am starting to tunnel out of my cell. House is in escrow, stashing cash regularly, and the kid is almost 16. I can smell the sweetness of freedom

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Andy Dufresne – who crawled through a river of s~~~ and came out clean on the other side.

That is what marriage is, an endless fight to crawl through a river of s~~~, trying to get to a point where you can get out and be free. Marriage made sense in a bygone era when men actually were respected. Those days are long gone. These days being born with a penis automatically gets you relegated into the following groups –

1. Rapist
2. Pervert
3. Pro-violence

The claim is that only the soothing balm of the feminine can help us. Which if f~~~ing idiotic since the masculine has nothing to do with any of the three things.

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