Setting Limits Vs. Watch Yourself Disappear

[experiencedParticipant]

Not sure if this should be here or under fitness, but here goes.
For some time I’ve seen a fellow at the gym progressing.
Phenomenal physique from several angles and enough to create an interesting challenge from others.

Then observed him taking many selfies, IMO his choice. Smiling within the selfies, I figured “for dating site pictures.”
Weeks pass.
Now he’s “at the gym” for an hour.
His physique is shot. He has “disappeared.”
Frantically, he talks on his cell phone.
Frantically, thumbs ablaze, he texts.
Did Not See Him Get In One Set.

My guess…LAYDEE.

If guys want to test the waters and go noodling, They Must Set Limits.

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E.G. “From X hour until Y hour, I will be working out / hunting / racing / doing what defines me, my phone will be OFF, in my car, out of my sight/hearing. And if you don’t like that, that’s your problem Sarah Succubus.”

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Perhaps getting into the habit of setting limits in something you love to do, can be a springboard for keeping LAYDEEZ in their place in your life.
E.g. You’re on the 39th coat of root beer lacquer, but 40 was / is the plan.
The phone rings and you tell yourself to shut it off in the shop from now on.

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"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[narwhalParticipant]

Generically speaking, this another problem with the modern relationships in generally. They always have a tendency to reduce the ability of a man to do his jobs and hobbies, to meet his goals. There are three sides to this.

1 – A man will often set a goal based on the reward of ‘getting a woman’. He works out so girls will like him more. Thus, once he gets in a relationship, his motivation is ended.

2 – A woman takes up his time and priorities. He voluntarily puts time at the gym behind her needs and wants out of a false sense of duty or some such.

3 – Women will often sabotage the very aspect of a man that attracted her to him in the first place. She may not want him going to the gym anymore because she sees him more dedicated to the workout then he is to her. Or she may worry that other women will be attracted to him.

So I’d say, if you’re going to set a fitness goal, do so with goals that have nothing to do with success elsewhere in your life, at times that you can be committed no matter what. Make sure anyone who’s in your life understands that this time is off limits and not up for debate.

Ok. Then do it.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

Yes, that is the one thing I began to understand now that I am suddenly single in middle age. The last several months of dating have taught me one thing, that when you start regularly dating a woman you will indeed always be skating a fine line with time Poverty.

Sovereignty above all else.

[BalthazarParticipant 722]

i try to take weight training pretty seriously. i actually belong to a forum about that too. and on that forum they have an equivalent phrase to “bros before hos”, which is “weights before dates.” I work out at home and if i have a lady coming over later on, i will tell her training comes first and if she needs to see me that bad, she can come over and watch me train haha. it’s happened before and honestly, totally distracting so i won’t even allow it again.

This body holding me is a reminder of my own mortality. Embrace this moment. Remember, we are eternal and all this pain is an illusion.

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