I recently witnessed a similar situation with one of my neighbors.
They were married for a few years with two small children.
It was one of those marriages where the wife went out and worked and the man stayed home and played mommy. In other words, she kept his b~~~~ in her purse and whenever he wanted to put them back on he had to beg.
He liked to drink a little bit and take a few pills once in a while. I wouldn’t call it a habit, probably just something he did on the weekends to escape his predicament.
HOWEVER, he never looked like he was under the influence of anything when he was watching his children and every time I saw him with his two little girls he was always treating them right and playing with them. I doubt he would ever do anything to hurt them.
Anyway, I guess it all came to a head one Friday evening, and he was a little bit drunk and maybe a little stoned, too. His friend had come over and once his wife got home from work I guess they started to have a few. Right before they were going to have dinner, his wife ordered the friend to “get out of my house.” I guess my buddy didn’t like that, and he told the friend he could stay as they were having a good time.
A very loud argument ensued, and of course once she decided she didn’t want to deal with it, or more likely, she lost the argument, she went right for the phone and dialed 911.
Now, my attitude when it comes to getting police involved is NEVER to call them unless someone is getting physically assaulted or killed. Even in the situation of two men fighting, I believe they should be allowed to slug it out (to an extent), without having to worry about police.
In my experience, the police coming only complicates the situation, as they are not really there to help but to f~~~ up peoples’ lives by making unnecessary arrests.
When the police showed, she totally trashed him. I know there are two sides to every story, but I believe his side, first and foremost because he’s a man, and second because I heard a lot of the argument.
She told the cops about his little pill stash. Actually, she went and physically showed them where it was. Of course he didn’t have a prescription, so he got busted for possession. As if that was not bad enough, she claims he ripped the door off the hinges in his daughter’s room.
I know this is untrue because earlier in the week we had discussed how his daughter was hanging from the doorknob and the weight had loosened the top hinges so he had removed the door out of safety so it wouldn’t come off and fall on one of his kids. He had even asked if he could borrow my power screwdriver once he got some longer and thicker screws to secure the door in place.
She ended up telling the police a few other things, and whatever she said it was enough to get him charged with child endangerment as well.
Now, when you get charged with child endangerment/child abuse, you end up getting a write up with your picture in the paper. It’s not on the front page, but still, a lot of people see it, not to mention it ends up on the Internet because the paper has a website as well.
I NEVER believed for one minute that he abused his children, and the judge didn’t either, because he threw out the charge. That’s all well and good, but by that time his life was already ruined and he was labeled as a child abuser so it didn’t really matter.
That was about two years ago, and the woman has a new boyfriend every month it seems.
I learned a lot from that incident.
My advice to friends and family members who are thinking about breaking up or getting divorced is always to have a WITNESS present when you are going to inform your ball and chain. Make it somebody who isn’t necessarily on either person’s side if you can.
Better yet, each person should have their own witness. This way the story cannot get twisted, as we all know that the police ALWAYS believe the woman, even if the man is all beat up and the woman doesn’t have a scratch on her.
They say that breaking up is hard to do. It’s not hard to do at all, unless you’re a man. I’ve found that the man almost always gets the business end of the blade in these situations.
If you don't want to do something, then DON'T!
Seeking Truth 2 years, 11 months ago.
