Secret Bank Account

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

Here’s an interesting quote from an article I read about married women:

“Women may keep secret bank accounts for different reasons, but I’ve found this is something they may have been taught by their mothers,” said Detroit-based clinical therapist Tomanika Witherspoon, LMSW. “For some, it’s a golden rule to always have a stash, just in case the relationship does not work.”

For further reading:

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2015/06/12/5-things-women-hide-from-their-husbands.html?utm_source=zergnet.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=zergnet_1764950

It’s hard to believe that they can actually save money w/ all the mindless shopping they do.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Anonymous 6]

This is the same s~~~ I was saying a long time ago. Men should first of all, never have joint bank accounts. And second of all, have a bank account at a bank she doesn’t even know about. Have the mail from that bank come to your work mailbox so she doesn’t see the mail at home. And get a safety deposit box and keep records and receipts in it. Alot of times men get lazy and don’t want to make sure their setup for after marriage. Don’t be that guy

[foolsgoldParticipant 5664]

I was lucky. My money before marriage was in my father’s bank account. He gave it back to me once the divorce was final. He knew something I didn’t. He never showed his cards to anyone. He kept the money for the duration of my relationS~~~ with the c~~~ ex. He was smarter than what people thought. God rest his soul.
Thanks
Dad.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

FunInTheSun wrote:

Women may keep secret bank accounts for different reasons

Coming from the financial services industry I can tell you this is true. Also, if you have a “Joint” account the ex c~~~ who does not work is always the first to clean out the account. Whomever gets to it first wins.

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

Every man should have a hidden 1 year all expenses covered source of currency nobody knows about except him. It is the ultimate f~~~ you fund and you can rebuild with that from most situations life throws at you.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10918]

FunInTheSun wrote:

It’s hard to believe that they can actually save money w/ all the mindless shopping they do.

I doubt if it’s money that they have earned. The secret stash fund is probably being funded unknowingly by the soon to be ex-husband.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[Anonymous 43]

judge f~~~wit herself busted my c~~~’s secret bank account during financial disclosure. funny only because I was awarded the entire amount.

[GregB0Participant]

Anonymous wrote:

Have the mail from that bank come to your work mailbox so she doesn’t see the mail at home

With online banking, there is no reason to ever have any financial statement printed and mailed anywhere. Keep your secret a secret. She could be banging the mailman at work for all you know. I know of three guys at work that wound up in divorce by having a paper and email trail hanging around that was found and ensured that they lost big time in divorce court.

Everyone should also have a junk email account that you rarely check, another one that you routinely use, and a secure email account that almost no one knows about. You have to give them something to find when they start snooping. Once they find something, they will slack of on their efforts to get inside dirt.

If there is a joint household account for bills, you have to check that every month to ensure that portions are not being siphoned off. There are any number of bank accounts that round purchases up to the next dollar and transfer that money to another account. You have to look at the fine print and seek financial advise.

Never give them an inch because they will take you to the cleaner and back.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[GeraldParticipant 3635]

I grew up with mom having a particular hiding place for money, not for any reason other than if we had to run, because of abusive father, we had some cash to do so… it took many years to build to a couple of hundred dollars…

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

Freeman_K wrote:

Every man should have a hidden 1 year all expenses covered source of currency nobody knows about except him

That reminds me of this:

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[GregB0Participant]

FunInTheSun wrote:

That reminds me of this:

A fantastic film and one that I watch every few months. Shows you how messed up life can be and how you have to plan and have patience to overcome obstacles.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[Anonymous 3]

The title is an oxymoron. Nothing is secret in front of the almighty judges and lawyers, if it is on a record in a bank. Nowadays everything has a lot of paper trail.

[Anonymous 6]

Anonymous wrote:

The title is an oxymoron. Nothing is secret in front of the almighty judges and lawyers, if it is on a record in a bank. Nowadays everything has a lot of paper trail.

Offshore bank accounts sir…Check Mate!

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

My mom does this s~~~, I found out after I wrote her a check to her current married name and she cashed it with her old married name Ha ha AWALT

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[DarkRyuParticipant 2354]

Nowadays the only way to have a secret “bank account” is to routinely CASH your checks and buy Bitcoin in person with that CASH. Claim you spent that cash on stupid s~~~ like food and booze and going to the movies. You know, stuff that wouldn’t involve having more physical possessions. Because the judge will ask what physical s~~~ you bought with all the money. But if you claim that you just p~~~ed it away, it’s gone for good as far as they know.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Japanese women (and probably women here too) do a thing called “compensated dating” where they get several “boyfriends” to buy them consumer goods in exchange for sexual access. Basically whoring.

The trick here is that they get their normal boyfriend to buy them something, then they get four other guys to buy them the exact same thing… jewelry, handbag, shoes or whatever. They then return four of the item, keeping the fifth one and letting each guy believe it’s the one they bought for her.

The rest of the money goes into their “retirement fund”.

Don’t be fooled by their apparent stupidity… women are crafty and they’ve got a better sense of money than a lot of men do. And if you’re still buying things for women, get them secretly marked or monogrammed so that you can check it for authenticity later.

[Anonymous 3]

DarkRyu wrote:

Nowadays the only way to have a secret “bank account” is to routinely CASH your checks and buy Bitcoin in person with that CASH. Claim you spent that cash on stupid s~~~ like food and booze and going to the movies. You know, stuff that wouldn’t involve having more physical possessions. Because the judge will ask what physical s~~~ you bought with all the money. But if you claim that you just p~~~ed it away, it’s gone for good as far as they know.

Or just hide that cash somewhere. Bitcoin is NOT anonymous or safe for that matter. If someone has a bitcoin address that can be connected to someone, he/she can know the balance and all the past transactions. Probably, generating a bunch of addresses for each of the coins might make it harder to guess. but again, that is a bunch of data. no one can store it in head, you need to store it printed somewhere, or on a storage device, like a micro SD card or small usb stick in an encrypted file. But again, all removable storages leave their serial numbers recorded in the typical operating system, and that also needs to be handled somehow, like booting a live linux stick with no session saving. A lot of tricky stuff. And then, there is again, a physical object to hide, and don’t you think, bitcoin sellers not have security cameras against burglars? that means your face stored for a month or so, or forever if they don’t care on privacy laws (or there re no such laws there) And don’t even think of using a “cloud” for that purpose. That is also registered and accessible to anyone with almighty legal powers.

My father did work for bare cash decades ago, no one in the family had any bank account. He has hidden his cash stash inside an old, full of dirt crappy radio receiver he used all the time to listen to music. He only got caught by my mother when that radio fell apart in the garage at home.

Whatever personal thing may do, that is unlikely to be touched by someone else.

Other story, when on a holiday travel, the cash stash was hidden somewhere inside a hidden part of the car. Too bad if they go for the car too.

[BritGHOWParticipant 2566]

Anonymous wrote:

….Alot of times men get lazy and don’t want to make sure their setup for after marriage. Don’t be that guy

If you have to make sure you’re setup for after marriage you shouldn’t be getting married in the first place

[narwhalParticipant]

Yep, all reasons to avoid the financial problem altogether.

I don’t know how it is in most states, but for Texas, the financial property in question does not include any assets earned/collected before the marriage. In other words, there isn’t as strong a reason to hide an account, as you will get it back at divorce.

However, that doesn’t mean she can’t blow it all while still married, so it is good to keep from knowing and accessing it.

For example. You have $10k in a savings account before married. If the account has $11k when you divorce, you get $10k + half of additional amount…$10.5k. If the account has $8k on divorce, you get $8k. If you closed out the account and moved it to another back, then the full $10k is the property of the marriage, so you get half.

When I was married, we sold off my ex’s retirement fund. She was shocked when she found out she wasn’t going to get it back. She even tried to guilt me into give her some extra in the settlement to compensate. It didn’t work. Especially since I reminded her that I sold of the same amount of retirement too…she forgot about that.

Ok. Then do it.

[NomadParticipant 44]

narwhal wrote:

Yep, all reasons to avoid the financial problem altogether.

I don’t know how it is in most states, but for Texas, the financial property in question does not include any assets earned/collected before the marriage. In other words, there isn’t as strong a reason to hide an account, as you will get it back at divorce.

However, that doesn’t mean she can’t blow it all while still married, so it is good to keep from knowing and accessing it.

For example. You have $10k in a savings account before married. If the account has $11k when you divorce, you get $10k + half of additional amount…$10.5k. If the account has $8k on divorce, you get $8k. If you closed out the account and moved it to another back, then the full $10k is the property of the marriage, so you get half.

When I was married, we sold off my ex’s retirement fund. She was shocked when she found out she wasn’t going to get it back. She even tried to guilt me into give her some extra in the settlement to compensate. It didn’t work. Especially since I reminded her that I sold of the same amount of retirement too…she forgot about that.

Can’t they sue you if you spend their retirement fund, or do something else with it?

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