Saw a Picture of My Ex Today

[QuellParticipant 2538]

It’s funny how life comes back around at the most inauspicious times.

I happened to see a picture of my ex-gf today and it blew me away.

This was the woman who broke my heart 4 years ago, who left me confused, sad and angry after I bent over backwards time and time again. I fought for her even after she left me and moved away to Arizona.

This woman was my world and gave me a confidence I had not know before. I knew she was too hot for me and that I was lucky to have her. Really she was the person I bet my own future on and then one day I watched it all crumble before me. She was selfish and many times put my own health in jeopardy.

For many years I couldn’t shake her and felt like less of a person. My self-worth was gone. I would think about her almost daily until that emotional connection began to slowly fade. That feeling of being broken never quite left me. I dated since but nobody was as good as her. It was as if I was leading this half life of waiting. Then I found MGTOW so I moved on and never spoke or made any contact with her again.

Well guess what? My little 99 lbs princess is now 32 years old and probably gained 40 lbs. She looks fat and ragged. I hate to say it but she looks like a little troll just like her mom. I was completely blown away. This woman, who ate pasta almost daily because of her high metabolism, is now a heffer. She used to brag about never gaining weight and would never drink water because it tasted “bad”. There are now deep lines around her eyes and nose too. I can honestly say my little gal finally got her landwhale wings!

The best part about seeing the picture today was two fold:

1) You realize that so called love is really only lust. A woman’s true value is really her looks and my own value was if I could get an attractive woman to like me. I loved her looks and the way she made me feel, not her per se. I starting to understand that self worth is internal and that being free emotionally is the best pathway to live ones life. Upon seeing that picture that last shred of her emotional control died in my mind. I am now clear again.

2) The picture was of her and her dog. This dog, whom she called “her little man” replaced me. It is good to know that this is all she has now… a fake dog husband. Gentleman, The Wall really does come for them all and that placing your own self-esteem in the hands of a woman is a really dumb idea.

At the end of the day we do not love them, we love the idea of femininity. Once that feminine beauty is gone there really isn’t much left underneath the surface.

[Anonymous 18]

Quell wrote:

I hate to say it but she looks like a little troll just like her mom.

It’s an epiphany brother.

All along we were all duped by a woman’s beauty. Our idolization was all self-created, a man’s own ability to delude himself.

A woman is merely a vessel.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Quell-

Thanks for sharing. Years ago, I was “in love” a few times and I allowed myself to be devasted by a number of these witches. (Never again)

I think you are right. What we consider to be love is often lust. Thank God, the hurt was replaced by anger and then by apathy.

I came to realize that women were everywhere. If one lady didn’t work out, another lady was around the corner. I no longer needed to pursue them. Then I realized that life was far better without crazy women in my life.

Whenever I see an ex, I know that I made a good decision to leave their sorry carcass behind.

I can imagine what you thought when you saw the photo of your ex. You could have ended up married to a whale. You escaped. Congradulations.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Quell wrote:

This woman was my world and gave me a confidence I had not know before. I knew she was too hot for me and that I was lucky to have her.

Quell wrote:

This woman was my world and gave me a confidence I had not know before. I knew she was too hot for me and that I was lucky to have her.

That was just the Blue Pill in you talking – what every broad hopes a guy thinks of her.

Look at it the other way – She was lucky to have a good provider like you.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Anonymous 7]

The Wall cometh.
Revenge is a dish best served cold. -Ancient Klingon proverb.

Men in reality do not need to seek revenge. Father Time handles this s~~~ for us.

Vader Time is a cold hard bastard. He waits, he comes.

[Billy&The CloneasaurusParticipant]

@quell fantastic post and insight. I actually really needed to hear that. I formally retained my attorney today to defend myself against an assault charge that was filed against me by the ex, who I allowed to have power over my self esteem and self worth. In the end, they are cold as ice.

The answer, is no.

[SkeptiskParticipant 3679]

If you want to know what you’re little princess will look like in the future, take a peek at her mother…

"Expecting to find a decent woman on a dating site is like dumpster diving and expecting to come out with a gourmet meal." Won'tGetFooledAgain

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Good video on “love”

[MaddladParticipant 765]

Glad to hear it brother. I felt the same about my ex, but i cant look at pics of her with the new guy she shacked up with coz it makes me angry that i wasnt good enough because i couldnt travel. Im glad to hear it worked out for you. 🙂

[markParticipant 451]

Quell wrote:

My little 99 lbs princess is now 32 years old and probably gained 40 lbs. She looks fat and ragged.

This story is a hoax and I demand you take it off the internet.

If your story was true you would be laughing so hard your teary eyes would not be able to see an screen, your fingers twitching so much you would be incapable of typing.

In all seriousness, what else could happen? High metabolism my ass…

[Anonymous 7]

Maddlad wrote:

Glad to hear it brother. I felt the same about my ex, but i cant look at pics of her with the new guy she shacked up with coz it makes me angry that i wasnt good enough because i couldnt travel. Im glad to hear it worked out for you.

Not good enough? You are looking at it all wrong.

They are not good enough for you. I know, this is ass backwards to what you have been taught.

Not long ago, men had to be bribed into taking a she devil into his life. Why is that?

When looking at that picture, what would be going through my mind is; *I wonder if that poor sucker has any idea that the little she devil plans on you paying for a bastard child’s college next year? A vehicle for him? Does he know what her debt is? I bet she is already working on getting him to take care of her car maintenance and the new tires it needs. The house is due for a new roof. We had discussed new siding for the home before I walked away. I wonder if this is the “Chad” she was “Chading” when we were supposed to be “Chading”? That poor sucker! Etcetera…*

mark wrote:

In all seriousness, what else could happen? High metabolism my ass…

That is funny. Stil laughing.

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Skeptisk wrote:

If you want to know what your little princess will look like in the future, take a peek at her mother…

True that! My best friend once said “wanna know what your girlfriend looks like when she’s older? Take a look at her mom!” I had the coldest shiver running up and down my spine, man. Hell, she even used that when I got horny and she didn’t feel like having sex; she said “mommy” and my boner died off in seconds. Didn’t take long for me to stop lusting for her because all I could see was that fat tiny troll of a mother whenever I looked at her. No wonder we shifted from couple to good friends again in my head and I ended it a few weeks later (also because she bought a house without telling me about it), lol.

My last girlfriend ditched me and I sometimes check her facebook to see if she’s got new pics. I know, I shouldn’t do it, but it’s me hoping to see that she got fat and ugly. Shame she hardly posts pics, and if she does, it’s her cats. Hell, she still uses the old profile picture I took back in 2010!

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[narwhalParticipant]

I’m going to disagree on a few things.

First, just because you no longer care for the woman, and she didn’t treat you right, does not mean that you didn’t love her. Love is an action a verb, as well as having that strong bonded feeling. Since you went through such a loss when she left, and you obviously had actions, I wouldn’t say that it wasn’t love.

Second, I don’t think it’s wise to judge her current condition as much of an indicator of anything. Yes, most often, her looks will fade, but that isn’t always the case. I think my ex actually looks better overall then when she did when we were married. So what? Does that mean I lost out somehow? Nope. It’s irrelevant.

If you give a crap about what she looks like or what she’s doing with herself these days, then she still has some hold on you. Going your own way is indifference to all of that, good and bad.

Ok. Then do it.

[Cú ChulainnParticipant 3910]

narwhal wrote:

I’m going to disagree on a few things.

First, just because you no longer care for the woman, and she didn’t treat you right, does not mean that you didn’t love her. Love is an action a verb, as well as having that strong bonded feeling. Since you went through such a loss when she left, and you obviously had actions, I wouldn’t say that it wasn’t love.

Second, I don’t think it’s wise to judge her current condition as much of an indicator of anything. Yes, most often, her looks will fade, but that isn’t always the case. I think my ex actually looks better overall then when she did when we were married. So what? Does that mean I lost out somehow? Nope. It’s irrelevant.

If you give a crap about what she looks like or what she’s doing with herself these days, then she still has some hold on you. Going your own way is indifference to all of that, good and bad.

You tread heavily brother, but you speak the truth

[Anonymous 43]

I can’t tell you how grateful I am that the woman of my dreams threw me away and now has a Chad Thunderc~~~ to pay for everything. I just wish I could have been spared the bs and got to keep contact with my kids.

I thank God the crazy bitch has a Chad to f~~~ with instead of me. I hope he has a long happy relations~~~ with my c~~~. Long and miserable, with beatings, bitching and banality. lol taking my place in the s~~~ vortex. I love it!

Thank you Jebus on the cross for this website for bringing me peace, insight and the truth that all women are like that. Walmart was running out of racquetball equipment for me to break. lol

Stay positive brothers, the wall collects them all as surely as the sun rises on a new day.

Invicta Murum

[freedomParticipant 5129]

I think we fall in love with the idea of having someone adoring us and that’s what they usually do at first, they put pictures of you together on Facebook, she talks about you with friends, she whines when you are not there, she basically makes you feel like a big shot.

Us men, one thing really messed up with us, we got a gigantic ego, when people pet it, we grow to like them quickly, when women do it, we fall in love with them.
We love the idea of being seen as the care takers of a woman, it’s coded into our DNA, no one wants an independent woman(there are very few of them anyway) because it’s within our f~~~ing DNA that we have to support them and help them, which was cool in times when it was appreciated

[MagpulParticipant 59]

Great post. I often think if the women that I have “loved” in the past didn’t look the way they did if I would have felt anything for them at all. Most likely not. And if the love you feel is actually genuine but they are able to f~~~ you over so easily, then attaching any emotion to them whatsoever is completely irrational. Women only “love” in the moment, and because they are such incredibly fickle creatures that can change in a split second. F~~~ that.

[QuellParticipant 2538]

narwhal wrote:

If you give a crap about what she looks like or what she’s doing with herself these days, then she still has some hold on you. Going your own way is indifference to all of that, good and bad.

Thanks for the kind words guys. Narwhal, your words ring true brother. Indifference is what we all strive for but alas human beings are social creatures. Whether we admit it or not we all desire that connection; it’s something hardwired I believe in each of us. Having that emotional bond with someone is not something that can just be thrown away from one psyche. In theory acknowledgement and acceptance are really the only ways to move on from it, however you never forget those memories.

I suppose seeing my ex in this “new body” of hers kind of put it to bed that the old her is officially gone forever. Was it her body I loved or her personality or was it simply the way she made me feel about myself? It doesn’t matter anymore. That connection I had was with the 25-28 year old version of her and now that she has changed I can feel better about burying that part of the past for good.

MGTOW to me is about knowing ones self, accepting the social constructs we live in, and growing into a more wise individual. I’m glad that I have learned from this and am moving forward with my journey.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

“I loved her looks and the way she made me feel, not her per se.”

Genius. Echoes one of my favorite quotes: “You think you’re in love with someone? I have news for you. You’re never in love with anyone. You’re only in love with your HOPEFUL IDEA of that person. Are you really in love with THE PERSON? Clearly not otherwise you couldn’t fall out of love with them”- Anthony DeMello

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