I have been visiting your site for some time and consider it an obligation to introduce myself in light of the many insights derived from your site, Dalrock’s and others. I have inculcated some of these into my daily life resulting in more acute observations and actual positive results. I hope to contribute in some small way as repayment for the wisdom that can be gleaned from this site.
I am a sixty year old single man. My wife of almost twenty five years moved out about five years ago and eventually divorced me (to be fair, the divorce was financially fair). I, in my “blue pill” days actually helped her move out and let her borrow money to get an apartment !!! How ignorant I was. Consequently, I had hoped that she would see the error of her ways. There had been an inkling of her return until she met somebody else about two years later (being Catholic, I was committed to making the marriage work for my Faith and for my twenty three year old daughter). During this four year period, I became accustomed to living by myself for the second time in my life (the first time lasted only 18 months) having either roommates, girlfriends or wife. And I came to be content in it.
Once I realized my wife was not coming back, I met another woman whom I have been dating for two and one half years. She is fifty years old. She currently rents from me in a two story home in the same neighborhood in which I reside that I purchased about 18 months ago.
During this period of time, thanks to sites like yours and others, I have learned two extremely valuable lessons which can be summed up thusly: Being single is not a barrier to contentment. And if my girlfriend does not Go My Own Way then I will Go My Own Way alone.
Having a love for philosophy, I realize that one might object that I am not truly a MGTOW. I would argue against this because many on this site still sleep with woman and still consider themselves MGTOW. I have a good relationship with this woman without the sex. There have been instances of sin but have confessed to a priest and attempt to continue on a more platonic relationship which is quite fruitful and intellectually fulfilling. She is my best friend. And yes, I have many close male friendships with some spanning over twenty years so this relationship is not a remedy for loneliness. However, as one enlightened commenter stated, I will go my own way and the woman either chooses to come along with me or choose her own path….without me.
What I find fascinating about MGTOW philosophy is that it is assumed to be a new phenomena. This goes against historical and religious evidence.
Being single for life or choosing to become single after the first marriage because of the death of one spouse throughout history, was an admirable vocation especially in Buddhism and Christianity which spans 4500 years if calculated as separate cultural influences which and spans most of the planet. However, in this sex saturated culture, the MGTOW philosophy seems almost alien (and therefore hated and despised beyond reason, history, religion, science etc). Having a library of over fifteen hundred books pertaining to philosophy, ancient literature, science, religion and history, I find it amazing that the overwhelming legitimacy of MGTOW philosophy, properly understood, justified by all types of knowledge would be seen as something foreign, inhuman or new!!
In addition, being Catholic, which legitimizes the divine nature of singlehood in the priesthood because of Jesus Christ, the philosophy of singlehood does NOT go against our natures and the Divine Will.
Will I get married? Due to the irrationality of justice system (I have a good friend who went through hell for over FOUR YEARS because of a lying ex-wife who was supported by the clearly unjust social service system resulting some counselors eventually being fired!!), I will probably not marry legally but will marry in the Church.
Sadly, I have some good and decent Christian men who are “blue pill” trying to please their discontented wives. Even before being exposed to men’s movement sites, I told my ex-wife that I am not the source of her discontent. Only one of my many friends who are married is the dominant one but it is not easy for him considering he is in serious pain from polio. He is a saint. The other marriages are embarrassingly dysfunctional. One of my friends of over twenty years severed our relationship due in large part because of the wife’s hatred for me. There is a real spiritual battle going on. No doubt.
Of course, some of the women (supposedly Christian) dislike me immensely because I do not submit to their irrationality. It is simultaneously sad and funny to see the intense rage some of them have for me when I challenge them!!!!
God bless, Michael
OldBill 3 years, 11 months ago.
