Resentment

[StentorianParticipant 1690]

I agree with OP that resentment itself is bad for a person’s health in the long run. Can cause illness and many other imbalances.

It’s good to vent that s~~~ but then shift gears and move into focusing on things we love doing.

It’s hard. I have days where I do feel resentment towards women or the c~~~s that I had wasted time with. I have better days where I remember I am free from them and free to work on things that bring me joy and a sense of purpose.

Yesterday I saw some interview where they had a female playing Dr. Watson in the Sherlock Holmes series in the UK. That ticked me off. Why the f~~~ are women playing men’s roles?

So it’s a fine balance between calling the bulls~~~ out and not allowing it to overwhelm.

Female Dr.Watson? So that means we should get a man to play Amelia Earhart? Except men don’t play female roles because we f~~~ing know better.

F~~~ the c~~~s and feminists. Stay true to yourselves. Focus on what you love and f~~~ everything else. Most especially women.

“He who takes an eel by the tail, or a woman at her word, soon finds he holds nothing.”

[Anonymous 54]

We all do it, in our own time, at our own pace.

Without the judgment, or PERMISSION, or time frame of others.

( your lucky Doc is here.Manners and all! Hahha)

[Anonymous 54]

He means well. Hes the Dude.
Its his his job to say let it go.

But for some of us we’re not talking about a parking ticket.

More like being run over.
Or at least a good attempt.

[Anonymous 54]

Or after paying 20 f~~~ing years of alimony, insyead of being comfortable, I live on the edge of homelessnes.
Month after month.
Year after year.

But yea, Ill just fluff that off in a couple of weeks.

Get my drift Dude?

Cooll

[MonkParticipant 16984]

TheDude wrote:

I notice a lot of resentment towards women on this site. […] However, this kind of thinking is ultimately “anti MGTOW”.

So, how do you feel about #ICETHEMOUT?

[Remove me!Participant]

Good post and a good point.
The problem I find is people like me are still having to deal with a woman for a time because of children. My ex is like a hemorrhoid, most the time I forget she there, but every once in awhile it gets big and irritates me to no end. But once our kid is 18, I’m good to go and I probably won’t ever talk about women again.

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[Anonymous 54]

I realy do wish we had the ability to swap lives for a minute.

Swap brains and all they have endured.

I wounder how you would react to mine.

You would probably pass out.

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

Personally, I find just accepting them for what they are, and walking away from them as well leaves me not even contemplating THEIR CHOICES.

That is my approach also. I don’t hate women as a gender. There is a woman or two in my life however, I could put in the “hate” category. But to walk around hating half the world is a bit of a heavy load for me. Don’t care to give it that much emotional space in my life.

In general, I accept women for their nature, don’t care for it or its implications, and I walk away from it. What surprised me was how much happier I became when I no longer had to carry the burden of a “committed” relationship. I really thought I’d be unhappy without a woman in my life. Exact opposite happened.

The absolute worse fate for women is to have men ignore them.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

Icebite wrote:

TheDude wrote:

However, this kind of thinking is ultimately “anti MGTOW”. Resenting someone gives them power over you… and resenting someone worse off than you is as dumb as it gets.

You right of course, however, it’s a process like the “stages of grief”. I’ve never had a physical wound that wasn’t a bit tender for a very long time. Likewise it takes a long time to get over severe emotional abuse. Using a term like “anti MGTOW” strikes “me” (speaking for myself here), a little bit like, “be a man and suck it up” or rather “be MGTOW and move on”. Sometimes that just ain’t possible till it’s fully processed out. Some guys never get over it, and suicide out and I sure as hell ain’t going to put them down. They’ve had enough s~~~ in their life.

I’m not saying there is anything wrong with resentment. If you look at the first paragraph of my original post, I make that clear. Men have feelings and it’s wrong to expect us hide them.

All I’m saying is, long term resentment only serves to hurt your own wellbeing.

[HermitParticipant]

Romulus wrote:

I really thought I’d be unhappy without a woman in my life. Exact opposite happened.

When I was younger, I really thought I’d be much HAPPIER WITH A WOMAN IN MY LIFE and the exact opposite happened.

Romulus wrote:

The absolute worse fate for women is to have men ignore them.

Yeah, they do seem to really dislike that, don’t they? But it’s exactly what they have forced us to do. They give us no other choice with the way they behave.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[HermitParticipant]

TheDude wrote:

Icebite wrote:

TheDude wrote:

However, this kind of thinking is ultimately “anti MGTOW”. Resenting someone gives them power over you… and resenting someone worse off than you is as dumb as it gets.

You right of course, however, it’s a process like the “stages of grief”. I’ve never had a physical wound that wasn’t a bit tender for a very long time. Likewise it takes a long time to get over severe emotional abuse. Using a term like “anti MGTOW” strikes “me” (speaking for myself here), a little bit like, “be a man and suck it up” or rather “be MGTOW and move on”. Sometimes that just ain’t possible till it’s fully processed out. Some guys never get over it, and suicide out and I sure as hell ain’t going to put them down. They’ve had enough s~~~ in their life.

I’m not saying there is anything wrong with resentment. If you look at the first paragraph of my original post, I make that clear. Men have feelings and it’s wrong to expect us hide them.

All I’m saying is, long term resentment only serves to hurt your own wellbeing.

It is unhealthy to harbor ill will towards another or others at length. I used to hate my x and all women, but that has long since dissolved. They are nothing to me now except a warm female body to get me off once in a while.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[IcebiteParticipant 86]

Anonymous wrote:

Men built this f~~~ing wotld.

We have given them ever comfort.

Now they want to incarcerate us all for haveing a penis.

If that dont make you feel resentful

Theres something f~~~ing wrong with you.

Sorry just my mood.

I’ll second that.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

I dunno guys. I was just thinking out loud. I’m going through hell with the ex at the minute, and find I feel a lot better when I just let it go. My mind has been a total s~~~ storm for the past six weeks, and is just finally settling down.

It’s a process for everyone. There is no time limit on the stages.

Didn’t mean to sound insensitive to anyone who’s still angry. Feel what you need to feel and don’t bottle it up.

[JVBParticipant]

Manspread Mansplainer wrote:

I resent white knights and blue pill manginas.

I agree with OP. Yes being resentful is a waste of time/energy. What I don’t get is why so many MGTOW’s have the above view. I don’t even notice them.

Peace is > piece.

[HitmanParticipant]

you guys might remember i was VERY angry.
when your child is legally kidnapped,
when the ex forces you in to court,
when you are PLUNGED in to debt for legal fees,
when you spend a couple nights in jail,
YOU MIGHT GET A LITTLE P~~~ED OFF.
.
i try to go forward,
and realize women are estrogen mad man hater’s.
it’s their nature.
SO…
hating them is like hating a spider scorpion or snake.
don’t have to like them,
just can’t BE BOTHERED to hate them.
.
their role is insignificant .
they only are as big as the attention you give them.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Don’t worry after resentment there is two ways:

Back to plantation or NFG.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Branched offParticipant 10926]

I think the Dude has a point, especially about not resenting children. They are a great blessing.

As to resenting women -true we must be careful not to let it harm us (because resentment can harm for sure) or our case against the messed up society we live in. If we only look like a bunch of bitter old men, that is how they will treat us -with ridicule and only ridicule.

I don’t resent women. They can bring good as well as evil to a man and to society. I resent what we are letting them do to society by allowing them to be so powerful beyond their capacity to provide and take responsibility. It is through this that their weaknesses have power to hurt us so, yet they still take care of them indirectly through the state and through unjust divorce and child support laws. The resentment here is real and needs to be used as a spur if any positive change is ever going to be made.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

Hermit wrote;
When I was younger, I really thought I’d be much HAPPIER WITH A WOMAN IN MY LIFE and the exact opposite happened.

That’s funny Hermit. I did too and same result!

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

Monk wrote:

TheDude wrote:

I notice a lot of resentment towards women on this site. […] However, this kind of thinking is ultimately “anti MGTOW”.

So, how do you feel about #ICETHEMOUT?

I feel good about it.

[Anonymous 43]

I feel pity for women. They bought into a lie. Now they have to live with their choice. Find a man, marry him, make children with his and live a life together, then suddenly Chad Thunderc~~~ comes along and whooooosh, throw the kids good father away make him poor, homeless and paying for kids he cant see, the women get Chad for a while before he leaves. Now woman and kids are on their own, father is off on his own, maybe sees the kids 4 days out of 30. Woman now works some s~~~ job, and the kids fend for themselves. Mother is on 6 dating sites looking for the next good man to save her from her DNA programming, and the father walks away from that game.

What a s~~~ty paradigm. This is what we have turned into. It’s sick. Had I know this is how half of marriages turn out, I would have not gotten married. I thought marriages broke up for observable reasons, money and overspending, alcohol and drug abuse, physical abuse, infidelity, irrational arguments, and I thought these were all things that bad men did. So I made dammed sure I was not a bad man. It turns out if I was a bad man, I would probably still be married.

I feel sorry for women, that this is how it goes for them, and I feel worse for the children. But I feel worst of all for my kids, that I couldn’t save them from this bulls~~~. They will probably repeat the cycle, wreck men of their own, f~~~ up their own kids, and stumble on through life looking for the next guy to save them.

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