Reminder about people at work: Watch your back both women and men

[survivorParticipant 610]

Gents,

Just last Friday night at work I was thoroughly betrayed by someone with a big mouth, talking trash behind my back to others and criticizing me and cutting me down to others over things that they have little to do with in my personal life and beliefs. This person is still anonymous for now, but hopefully in the very near future–this week!–I will get to the bottom of this.

I’ve narrowed it down to 3-4 people. Three of them are women and one is a guy; the one guy is a relatively new hire in our department. I have gone far out of my way to be kind to him and welcome him to our department and to be helpful and informative to him and to fill him in on as many things as possible and how things go work in our office. If he was the big mouth in question cutting me down behind my back to others I will be bitterly disappointed.

The other three are women. One of them is the only female around this office I have some respect for. The other two are indeed nasty c~~~s, as nasty as they come.

A word of warning: Watch who you work with and watch what you do and say at work; sadly enough, you never know who is going to stab you in the back after you have gone out of your way to be halfway pleasant and helpful to them.

Peace and blessings. We all need them both.

Survivor.

"Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, You give love a bad name, I play my part and you play your game, You give love a bad name."--Bon Jovi

[foolsgoldParticipant 5646]

Good advice and I’m sorry to hear that. The last time that happened to me I was newly divorced. A manjina attempted to out me. Needless to say I was not someone you wanted to f~~~ with at the time. I told him that if he ever did that again he would never be seen or heard from again. No witnesses present when I told him. He quit the next week. Would I have followed through? I don’t know. When you are at work talk about work only. It took me a long time to learn that lesson. Be careful.

[DarkRyuParticipant 2354]

Before you open your big mouth, ask yourself one question: “What do I gain by saying this?” If it’s nothing tangible, then keep your damn mouth shut! Who gives a s~~~ what people think about you? Just don’t give them any ammo and do your damn job!

[BigvernParticipant 1983]

DarkRyu wrote:

Before you open your big mouth, ask yourself one question: “What do I gain by saying this?” If it’s nothing tangible, then keep your damn mouth shut! Who gives a s~~~ what people think about you? Just don’t give them any ammo and do your damn job!

Spot on there, easier said than done, but as ALL MGTOW, ALWAYS DO, just turn your back and be CAREFUL.

"What made you think, there'd be a livin' in sheep?, Eat, Work, Eat Work and Sleep" - Mark Knopfler.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

My money is on the new guy.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[MonkParticipant 16988]

I’ve been screwed over many times at work. Now I avoid any interaction other than the strictly professional.

I never give away any personal details. What I do outside work is a mystery. I never socialise with people I work with.

[survivorParticipant 610]

After dwelling on this some more I am sad to say that I think you are right. The one woman that I mentioned who was actually OK to be around is in the clear after talking with her; it’s either the one particular nasty broad or the new guy. One of the things that got loose that they were trash-talking me about I own up to unashamedly and told them so; the other is no one’s stinking business and screw’em for even caring about it or noticing.

The matter in question, which I’m not stating again publicly for obvious reasons, is something that only someone working directly in close quarters with me in the office that saw me daily would know. I’ve eliminated everyone else I think.

"Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, You give love a bad name, I play my part and you play your game, You give love a bad name."--Bon Jovi

[survivorParticipant 610]

Good way of looking at things; I’ll heed that. Unfortunately the thing in question was about certain actions, things I did, things that really shouldn’t matter and aren’t others’ business. Not something I said.

But I will watch my mouth even more now including my actions. I’ve learned that lesson about the mouth some years ago in college and gotten burned with my fat mouth before. I was in college before email was common and people really wrote paper letters. Never send letters when you are emotionally flustered and upset! It’s okay to write an email or letter or text but don’t send it until later when you have calmed down. If you don’t send, rip it up and burn it or trash it.

"Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, You give love a bad name, I play my part and you play your game, You give love a bad name."--Bon Jovi

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Good advice. Not only for work, but for in life in general. Don’t tell people more than they need to know about anything.

DarkRyu wrote:

Before you open your big mouth, ask yourself one question: “What do I gain by saying this?” If it’s nothing tangible, then keep your damn mouth shut! Who gives a s~~~ what people think about you? Just don’t give them any ammo and do your damn job!

[Anonymous 0]

survivor wrote:

A word of warning: Watch who you work with and watch what you do and say at work; sadly enough, you never know who is going to stab you in the back after you have gone out of your way to be halfway pleasant and helpful to them.

I Copy.

[AutoliteParticipant]

In my line of work, back-stabbing and being bladed by your peers was just a common everyday occurrence. You just had to learn to accept it. The ones who were most proficient at it moved up the ladder and were promoted the fastest. It was encouraged and those who did it were rewarded for it. It was just the way it was…

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

survivor wrote:

ust last Friday night at work I was thoroughly betrayed by someone with a big mouth, talking trash behind my back to others and criticizing me and cutting me down to others over things that they have little to do with in my personal life and beliefs. This person is still anonymous for now, but hopefully in the very near future–this week!–I will get to the bottom of this.

Ghosting is not easy. Voicing an opinion is very gratifying and very difficult to hold in. You have to train yourself to keep them to yourself till you can get here and let it all out.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

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