Releasing yourself from obligation

[Anonymous 1]

Since I’ve been mgtow, I’ve re evaluated friendships and what I do for them versus what they do for me. Some people will try to use you and time has value.
So when people ask me if I can do something for them, usually a dirty job, I now say ‘tomorrow belongs to no one’ and do not commit.
After all if tomorrow comes up a nice day then my motorbike time becomes important.

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

Friends are just fiends with an R.

When you go your own way you don’t need them. I’ve released almost all of mine.. People aren’t even really friends anymore, it’s all about using you for something anyway.

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[joetechParticipant]

I agree with both of you. I’m reminded of the song Runnin’ On Empty by Jackson Brown. “Turn around to the friends I used to turn to to see me through. Looking into their eyes I see them runnin’, too.” When I needed my friends they turned their backs on me. I have acquaintances now. I’m nobody’s handy man. Go clean your own gutters…that’s my new mantra.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[AutoliteParticipant]

The Batman 2020 wrote:

When you go your own way you don’t need them. I’ve released almost all of mine.. People aren’t even really friends anymore, it’s all about using you for something anyway.

[SESQUI ano estParticipant 2535]

It is mostly acquaintances now. No hardcore friends. Very few are worth it but some acquaintances can be rewarding. Strange when I think about it but I’ve had no regular friends I do things with for years. Life, marriage family got in the way. I do find value in playing a competitive sport with “the guys” once a week but it is only hitting the field, having a beer then going home. Nothing else.

I don’t think my old friends were fiends but they can be dangerous when they are so blue pill and you’ve gone your own way. Now that I am single I don’t really miss my old friends but I am sure I’ll have some again.
For the first time in a long time I’m thinking about a small vacation strictly by myself, no kids and certainly no wife/woman. I like the idea of travel on my own.

Everyday above ground is a good one. Everyday above ground while single...better still.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

My (now ex-) wife used to “volunteer” me to work on projects for HER female friends, without even ASKING me first — repair a minivan transmission (“it’s just a sensor”… yes, but you have to pull the valve body to GET to the sensor), fix the washing machine, etc.

Funny how they ALL sided with HER during the separation and divorce, even though I’d done so much to help them. Oh, one of them did phone me a year later, when she wanted something from me. She volunteered some interesting information about the ex, but she got nothing from me. They made their bed, as the saying goes…

Now, if I don’t want to do something, a simple “No” will do. Feels good, even.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

joetech wrote:

I have acquaintances now. I’m nobody’s handy man.

This is the one case I think quantity is better than quality.
Lot’s of decent acquaintances is far better than many good friends.

If you have one or two childhood friends your lucky.

If have many friends your a utility.

If you have many acquaintances you have mature relationships with enforceable boundaries (E.G your not afraid to say no).

If you have no acquaintances you’re not getting out much and could feel lonely.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

The Batman 2020 wrote:

Friends are just fiends with an R.

When you go your own way you don’t need them. I’ve released almost all of mine.. People aren’t even really friends anymore, it’s all about using you for something anyway.

The problem with most people is, they don’t want to invest in a friendship. That means staying in contact, hanging out together, doing things with and for each other. People treat their friends like an acquaintance. Why should you make all the effort to stay in touch and care about their lives if they don’t care enough about yours to stay in touch? If they’re only there to contact you when it benefits them, then they aren’t really a friend. They’re a user.

[GetaPoasParticipant 73]

I actually make friends easily and treat my friends as if they were brothers.

It does make me happy to be charitable, attentive, and supportive of them, and it p~~~es off thots when they can’t just portray me as a one dimensional misogynist that throws all duh women down stairs. Even Hitler had a dog. The tbing is women can only dehumanize you if you let them. They’re better off just avoiding me and virtue signaling some where else. I openly laughed at a girl who said slut shaming non ironically and told her to OD on heroin and die.

Than in the very next breath saw a kid who wanted a fidget spinner and bought it for him. Wasn’t even my kid and told him I was an elf who was being promoted soon too the next Santa Claus and he believed it.

Hmmm…might be chaotic neutral alignment lol

[Cú ChulainnParticipant 3910]

“Sometimes solitude is one of the most beautiful things in the world” – Charles Bukowski

As I go deeper into the MGHOW lifestyle I feel this to be the truest state for me.

I don’t mean full anchorite, as in locked away forever, meditating on the human condition. But I am more and more at ease with being alone for long periods, be they hours or even days.

I feel calm, can think more, admire nature and the ocean where I live. I am reading a book every two days on average, and spend a lot of time taking books in and out of the public library.

I don’t have a TV, listen to Classic FM only on the radio, and use the internet infrequently. I don’t read newspapers. I lift 4-5 days a week, and pray and meditate every day too. None of these activities require another being to be there with me.

My only social life is going to the pub about 4 hrs each week and talk s~~~ with the local fishermen, tradesmen and the landlord. Women don’t figure at all, this is a hard drinkers pub in a little village stuck on the Antrim coast of Ulster.

I am happy, and I’ve learned to be mindful of the present only, my past life involving women, slave jobs and strife seems like a million years ago brothers.

[Anonymous 6]

It’s good to be able to help people.
It’s a damn site harder than doing what they want.

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