Red pill rage at work…mistake?

[dobsin593Participant 239]

Just got off work after my first episode of confronting a bitch at work.
She has been getting under my skin with false accusations of incompetency and power tripping her ass off with a mouth you wouldn’t believe.
Something after all this time triggered me and I went off on her and lost my temper major.
Told her off with when I flipped out on her and went for coffee. Letting my heart rate go down and retaining what little cool I had left I came back in to work in the department.
She was as quiet as a mouse, drained and getting her own stuff from the rooms she needed(She was use to getting the guys to get it all for her calling them her bitches when they weren’t around, me included I didn’t know). It was part of our work requirement to help her get heavier stuff.
You have to understand what she was like before and to see her now passive and well mannered leaving me completely alone for the rest of the day.
She is friends with the managers and has a mouth like a loud speaker and I believe she may report me for verbal abuse or whatever. It was only she and I there in the department at the time.
All that s~~~ I took from her for too long and I finally lost it having been well known for keeping my cool.
Will this bitch continue with her usual behavior?
Have i made a mistake in letting this happen?
What will happen tomorrow when i walk into work?
Will I be reported?
Will the white knight(jellyfish)managers be on me?
All these questions went through my mind as I left work today day after the episode.
How should I act tomorrow?
Am I making something out of nothing and shouldn’t concern myself with it?
Felt good at the same time I guess like a load has been lifted off. Very touchy situation though as she usually gets her way with everything at work.
We’ll see what happens tomorrow at work when I walk in. Wish me luck.

[Anonymous 43]

doomed.

unless you bring donuts. a lot of donuts.

[BushidoParticipant 637]

dobsin593 wrote:

Will this bitch continue with her usual behavior?
Have i made a mistake in letting this happen?
What will happen tomorrow when i walk into work?
Will I be reported?
Will the white knight(jellyfish)managers be on me?
All these questions went through my mind as I left work today day after the episode.
How should I act tomorrow?

1. A mistake? Perhaps. Allowing emotions to take over is a dangerous albeit necessary tool that we humans need in social interaction. You demonstrated that you refuse to be pushed around, though not in the most eloquent manner.

2. Tomorrow? You can likely expect hesitance in interactions. I’d suggest keep an eye on any managers, supervisors (your superiors) and monitor for any change in their interactions with you; it might be wise to spend the next few days doing what needs to be done and avoiding attention.

3. Reported? Possibly. I’d expect that a senior somewhere in the chain is now aware of your outburst, directly or indirectly. You might be able to use that to your advantage if you demonstrate cool-headedness around them for the next few days.

4. White Knights? Again, I would expect an uptick in attention. Be cautious.

All in all brother, I wouldn’t apologize – at least, not yet. Your sudden outburst clearly demonstrated your need to relay deep frustration with the way she treated you in a way that would get an immediate recognition (i.e. she’s been p~~~ing you off for a while and your thick skin has allowed you to tolerate it for so long).

Look, you’re only human brother. It’s natural to lash out when the stress gets too much. This is a good time to understand yourself and see what you can do in the future to show her where your line is, in a way that doesn’t get you lit up as a potential target. This is a learning experience, use it wisely!

Logic guides your actions, emotion guides your morals. Only you may decide how you use them.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

This recently happened to me. I was confronted. I went my own way on her ass and told her “I am over it”. I got lucky an moved on. Damage done, bitch coworkers do not forget. Just try to ghost and move on past it.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Something similar happened to me… They waited a few months, enough time for me to work up a backup plan to protect myself… And well, the day came, I was accused of being unprofessional and shown the door, I let them know that I had counter-accusations at that point (good ones, I may add)… And well, I settled, and I jumped using a parachute… Start compiling your backups now, gather ammunition for the counter attack. It won’t come tomorrow or the day after… I had to wait months, before I was confronted on it. Good Luck bro!

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

I’ve had two bitch confrontations at work in the past. In both cases, the manager (a man) took my side. Obviously this is rare, but anything can happen. No matter what happens, just keep that no f~~~s given attitude.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[Anonymous 42]

dobsin593 wrote:

How should I act tomorrow?

Downplay and deny everything like it never even happened!

What? Who me? Naa, it was nothing, I don’t know what you’re talking about? Man-up and stop being so emotional, it was nothing!

Dismiss it the same way women dismiss our feelings and complaints. Make it into nothing and Bim Bam Allashazam it magically becomes nothing!

[dobsin593Participant 239]

Interesting responses.
You have to understand my situation at work.
Being targeted by a guy who had it in for me with these women in tow stroking his ego.
They made this protected spoiled rotten guy feel really good about making me stumble for so long.
After I lost my temper with him one day and was incriminated with it as rumors spread, he now got a couple of these witches to get under my skin for him while he cowardly sits back and watches.
I thought i was well versed enough and experienced enough in psychology to deal with them but I messed up. Maybe I should man up and brush it aside but the stress as you can understand being targeted by them had taken it’s toll on me over a length of time.
Plus side…A large number of staff were chosen to be transferred somewhere else and they can’t afford to lose anymore staff where i am. Never chose me for the transfer.
Even though I have more hours than ever, I am looking to quit there and find a normal place to work when I get things paid off.
I will ghost it tomorrow and study everyone’s behavior there towards me through my shift.

[Anonymous 54]

Allways play out the hand.
Walk in and act like its just another day.
Have your story ready for if you need it, but just play it cool.

After lunch, ask her for a blow job.
Kidding. Dont do that part.hahah

Good luck dude!!!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

dobsin593 wrote:

Have i made a mistake in letting this happen?

This can go either way. I red-pilled a boss of mine once – HARD CORE – and I expect to be fired.
Turns out I got a promotion and a raise.

Another time, I waited about 3 years before my patience snapped and I called a sociopathic manager an “ungrateful piece of s~~~”. It felt like a million bucks. After taxes. He couldn’t “fire” me because I wasn’t an “employee”. I enjoyed that.

Another time I red-pilled a bitch CEO after 2 years of tolerating her crap. One night, she called me at 11PM on a Friday and expected something for Monday. In this case, instead of laying into her, I applied “amused mastery” and toyed with her. “Why didn’t you approach me all week when you had the chance, and wait until Friday at 11PM?? BAD PLANNING?”

It threw her against the wall, but she didn’t have the b~~~~ to speak to me in person. She preferred communicating electronically, so she could rehearsed and delay her replies. She knew I was “red pill” type who was very direct and she needed the buffer. So much for “Men are intimidated by a strong, successful woman”.

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As fas as “advice” is concerned . . . . it takes practice (lots of it), but it’s a mistake to take women too seriously to the point where they infuriate you, and you snap. Thats’ what she wants. Don’t give them that out.

Learn to be as unaffected as possible without letting her know what you’re thinking. Always leave them wondering “why didn’t that p~~~ him off? DAMN.”.

When in doubt . . . SMILE.
If she keeps going . . . SMILE MORE.

This reaction is an excellent default when a woman tries to p~~~ you off:

It works and she can’t nail you on it.

dobsin593 wrote:

Wish me luck.

I would, but luck has little to do with it.

dobsin593 wrote:

Will this bitch continue with her usual behavior?
Have i made a mistake in letting this happen?
What will happen tomorrow when i walk into work?
Will I be reported?
Will the white knight(jellyfish)managers be on me?
All these questions went through my mind as I left work today day after the episode.
How should I act tomorrow?
Am I making something out of nothing and shouldn’t concern myself with it?

Don’t let her live in your head rent free.
You can handle it.

I might play obtuse: “Oh is she still on about that? She’s a big girl. She can handle it.”

dobsin593 wrote:

Felt good at the same time I guess like a load has been lifted off. Very touchy situation though as she usually gets her way with everything at work.

You can refuse to speak to women at work about anything other than work and you can INSIST all interactions are to be PROFESSIONAL at all times. Nobody can nail you for that.

dobsin593 wrote:

She was use to getting the guys to get it all for her calling them her bitches

Well NOW you can run with that — and WIN.
What are they gonna do, fire you because you’re not willing to be one of “her little bitches”?

That would be funny.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant 143]

Yes.

See! I don’t always have to be long winded!! 🙂
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Then I go read some of the replies from the brothers MGTOW.

I add: Love you guys! The time and effort spent on actually thinking and responding intelligently! So awesome.

[dobsin593Participant 239]

Update: Today at work….
Get to work this morning and work with the witch first thing just she and I.
Played poker face and she was as quiet as a mouse again.
The jerk getting her under my skin came in later and they has a very long coffee break for about 45 minutes.
I knew she was shooting her mouth off to him about getting to me.
I paused at work and almost went upstairs to confront them but focused on my work instead.
Nothing came of it and they were fake nice tome till I left.
I’ll play it like nothing happened and move on.

[narwhalParticipant]

I couple weeks ago, I blew up in a meeting and lost my cool. This was in front of my boss, my boss’s boss, and my boss’s boss’s boss. They all know me fairly well and I didn’t really say anything I regret. I made it a point though to apologize to the top level boss for being unprofessional. He said it wasn’t necessary, but I didn’t care. I broke my own code and that matters to me.

I did not apologize for what I had said, just how I said it.

In a work environment, I find it best if I’m the first one to admit where I screwed up. It shows that I can manage myself and really p~~~es off my work enemies. They want satisfaction for getting me in trouble, but I give them nothing.

I don’t know if this applies to your situation, but you could go talk to your supervisor, explain what happened and where you believe you are at fault. Only apologize for how you said it, don’t strengthened her view on the issue. It makes it difficult for them to try and get you in trouble after that point, it just looks vindictive.

And then only talk about business.

Ok. Then do it.

[dobsin593Participant 239]

Update….The day after the majority of the staff came in and this bitch scurried around telling the manager of the department and others about my ‘bad behavior’ in not taking her crap and who knows what else she said. My reputation hurt at work for improper behavior? Don’t know as nothing was said to me by anyone. She has been clinging to the other staff members there for a few days like glue and is being sickly nice and generous to them with an isolation tactic on me.
Don’t care as it allows me to ‘ghost it’ at work and get things done.Trying the ‘I don’t care policy’ as i get things done.

[Anonymous 0]

Stick with it, Steve. Don’t let that policy get out of hand if you want to keep your job, but then again, there’s plenty of work out there when you look hard enough.

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