Red Pill Hell

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

I miss her today. I feel so damned alone it hurts every breath I take. We had good times, just not as many as bad. I miss my dreams of what it was supposed to be. Does anyone ever have days like these? What in the hell do you do to make it thru?

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[Omega 3 Snake OilParticipant 29]

that’s a rough feeling, brother. I’d reach out to people close to you who might make you feel better. I advise against using casual sex to feel better.

[Anonymous 18]

 

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

Does anyone ever have days like these? What in the hell do you do to make it thru?

Not anymore. Been there. Went through it. I read a lot about break ups, ways to cope, multiple personalities of people, types of relationships, forms of bonds people make.

In the end it was about accepting the illusion I had for what she never was. The memories became tainted. The smiles we shared faded away. The latest man she was spreading her legs for bothered less.

Slowly I found myself again. Regained who I was and what I related to before meeting her.

The struggle to deal with the pain of longing for someone you once loved with your heart despite knowing they just used you, never loved you…

It’s real brother. It’s painful but it’s also for us men to feel and absorb. Our hardwiring doesn’t allow us to short-circuit emotions by distracting ourselves with petty s~~~ in life. Taking ownership of these emotions was my first step to gaining control over them.

Whatever you enjoy doing, do it now. There is no better time. Don’t wait to feel better before doing it. Even if it’s as simple as going for a short walk, re-watching something you found funny, calling a family member or friend. Anything. But NEVER consider her as the solution to the pain. She is the cause. Don’t call/text her. Resist.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

What in the hell do you do to make it thru?

Get a motorcycle. If you already have a motorcycle, get another motorcycle.

Yes, I know that’s my answer to everything, but it’s a damn good one.

But seriously, my point is find something else to occupy your time. Whatever you do, don’t wallow in regret because you have nothing real to regret. Find something you really REALLY enjoy doing that you couldn’t have done while she was still around. Soon enough you will remember all the s~~~ she put you through, how much better whatever you are doing now is than when you were with her, and how happy you are without her in your life.

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t call/text her. Resist.

That has been on my gd damned mind all day! I know, I have went off my path today.

Self medicating, picked up a bottle of percocet. Taken 10 in 7 hours. I just want the god damned pain to go away!

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[Anonymous 18]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

iLearn wrote:

Don’t call/text her. Resist.

That has been on my gd damned mind all day! I know, I have went off my path today. Self medicating, picked up a bottle of percocet. Taken 10 in 7 hours. I just want the god damned pain to go away!

I have written letters I burned. Emails I never sent. All I can do is validate your pain. Don’t rely on alcohol or substance. The pain won’t last you a lifetime. Addiction to that s~~~ will. She isn’t worth it my man.

[Anonymous 1]

I feel down sometimes, but on my case, I never experienced the “good times” on the first place. Never had a relationship with a woman. And for what I have seen, the only thing that is of substance that woman can provide are sex and some ego stroking when she wants something for you.

The likes of Aaron Clarey calling anyone that don’t fit his idea of “man” VirginTOWS or whatever other derogatory term doesn’t help.

I will not pretend I know how you feel, because we are different people with different experiences. But maybe knowing that you are not the only one that feel loneliness  might give you some help.

Try to get some hobbies and work on something you like, go for a walk, don’t spend too much time thinking on what should or could be. Think on what it is and what it CAN be.

Take care.

Cheers.

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Anonymous wrote:

But maybe knowing that you are not the only one that feel loneliness might give you some help.

I know each of us here has felt severe pain and loneliness, thank you my brothers.

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[StandUpGuyParticipant 334]

I let one girl break my heart; one girl. After that I new that the next one was coming. Take the hit and find some place and people that love you. This site is full of them; we are all here for you. She is not a snowflake, just another cupcake.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

It’s just a phase bro. It’s like a drug addict you will suffer so pains, it just gets better with them. Just thing to do is keep busy.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[EdogParticipant 254]

My biggest crushing blow came in 2011. Took me about two years to get out of the funk I was in. At that point, I started to come out of the haze and work on getting back to the old me, even if this new version came with a chink in the armor. But that chink in the armor serves as a reminder. It forces me to guard it so nothing penetrates it again. Onlookers often call this bitterness. Perhaps it is in part. But I see it as hesitance based on experience. I’m not naïve to women and what they are capable of. I never had much but flings with females and don’t recall ever having any real feelings for any of them aside from the one in reference. I see clearly now that I deluded myself. All the red flags were ignored in favor of blind passion and ignorance. Needless to say, the red pill was dry and difficult to swallow, and bitter to the taste.

More than anything, I relied on finding healthy things to better myself and distract my mind like working out, reading (for me it’s usually philosophy and current world events that occupy my reading material), and of course hanging out with my few true bros in life.

I would literally tell myself “NO!” any time she popped into my mind and would immediately find something to distract me. I refused to indulge myself in thinking about her. Sever all contact with her and anything that reminds you of her. Focus on other things and it won’t be too long until time begins to heal the wound. The biggest and most unavoidable truth in any of this is that life goes on. The sun will continue to rise and set. We’re men. We press on and we do it with our heads held high.

[EntropyParticipant 902]

Back in my blue pill days, for this, my mantra was: The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody.  As I sit here and contemplate if it still applies post red pill… I can vouch for it having worked for me in the past.

"Compare your lives to mine and then kill yourselves" -BBR

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

This will pass … glib words at the moment …. but trust me when I say this ….. IT WILL PASS.

Even now …. while talking with us …. it’s a little better yes?

Stop sitting alone and chewing on this. RISE YOURSELF UP my friend. DEEP BREATH and go out in the world and take yourself back from her.

F~~~ if you lived near me we could meet up and go blast the town.

Where are your old buddies? or go make new ones.

YOU ARE A MAN

RISE UP

RISE YOURSELF UP AND SHOW THEM YOU WON’T BE BEATEN DOWN.

[Anonymous 2]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

dreams of what it was supposed to be.

Dreams like that will quickly fade when you start building your own harem. The world is your oyster, don’t settle for a single clam.

[GunslingerParticipant 242]

Like others have said, the feeling will pass. It may flare up from time to time, but it’ll become less and less over time. I’m still with my wife, but I miss what she used to be all of the time. I miss getting embraced by her, now if we have contact I initiate it, and get a head turn for the most part trying to get a kiss. I used to have to push her away at times because she couldn’t get her hands off me. I miss having a nice conversation with her, now it’s silence unless I initiate it.

However, in a month I’m sure I’ll be right there with ya, and I know you all will have my back to get me through it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

@ Jeremiah Johnson

How are you doing bro?

You may want some quite time and we understand but just know we’re here and thinking of you ok.

Maybe talk soon.

[DurdenParticipant 1051]

We all have had these days and in our previous relationships we may have had some good times. Even if they were few and far between or you did it all for the nookie. You need to realize your in love with the fantasy Disneyland s~~~ that we grew up in not necessarily her but the dreams that were crushed by being disconnected from the matrix.

To get through such days which are rare. I usually just remember all the s~~~ she put me through. No matter the chick they always drag you through bulls~~~ you don’t want to or really don’t need to do.

Also remember she always got you locked up according to another post.

It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything

[TheOneWhoBeholdsWisdomParticipant 58]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

I miss her today. I feel so damned alone it hurts every breath I take. We had good times, just not as many as bad. I miss my dreams of what it was supposed to be. Does anyone ever have days like these? What in the hell do you do to make it thru?

Honestly, when it was first over, I cried.. but slowly as time moved on so did I. It is fine to feel like this we all have emotions.

Time is the best medicine for an opened wound.

Just give time some time, okay?

[J.D SilvernailParticipant 383]

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

I miss her today. I feel so damned alone it hurts every breath I take. We had good times, just not as many as bad. I miss my dreams of what it was supposed to be. Does anyone ever have days like these? What in the hell do you do to make it thru?

Everyone has days like these. The best way to get rid of old dreams is to make new dreams and set new goals. Listen up. The truth hurts. If it didnt, I wouldnt have to be so dishonest with my family and friends. My advice is to just take the pain of knowing the truth.

I'm married to the game,but she broke her vows.

[Author]

Posts