Been lurking for a bit, enjoying every page of it, and have wanted to post but thought it rude to do so without doing my intro.
I was born the son of a poor, feminized family. My father was a sailor who at first ruled the roost as was an OK manly example (he himself coming from a divorce family). However, after my parents divorced in 1971 when I was 8 my mom got “empowered” by the rising tide of 70s feminism and thus began my long, dark journey into full on blue pill, white knight, maginaism. My parents got back together off and on after that but my mom had no intention of turning back over the reins and the societal force of feminism was in full flood.
Due to my parents experience I had sworn off marriage coming out of high school. I was a social loser and friend-zoned by every chick I got to know. When my wife-to-be actually wanted more than that, the hook was set and I got reeled in. Up to that point she was the best thing that had happened in my life.
Within 5 years I had the career, car, house, two kids, and a fraying marriage. About 10 years in a number of things started me down the road of reason and by about 2002 I started to push back and draw lines. This, of course, was met with increasing resistance so that by 2006 my wife claimed I was “killing her love for me” and by 2008 she told me “if it weren’t for the kids I would have left you by now”.
Well, at that point I didn’t have it together enough to stand my ground so things went passsive-aggresive. A few years later my son went to college and that change was enough to stir some things. By the time my daughter left two years later most of my motivations for maintaining the facade were gone and I was progressively and rapidly re-thinking everything. This got mixed in with a bit of anger when it became clear to me some of the crap that had really been going on and some other eye-opening realizations. These were hard red pills but I wanted them.
Unfortunately, it got too much to take for awhile and I turned to substances to escape (an old pattern for me). It was nothing major (I maintained an adequate income and generally met my responsibilities) but she the way she played it ruined my reputation and caused estrangement with my kids.
As the red pills finished digesting I started getting it back together and made some clear-headed conclusions and life decisions about how I would use the rest of mine. I get to do Act II then exit the stage, and it’s going to be a bit different than the first one. Over the past six months I have been repairing my relationships with my kids and they are close to normal again. I am still married and am thinking through my options there.
About a month ago I was reading an article about a Japanese group that had made a very realistic robotic human head (pretty cool but creepy). I followed a link to another article about a company that made life-sized, “fully functional”, female mannequins for men and was going to incorporate the robotics. It talked about how within 20 years men might be able to buy them to replace their wife. Interesting and attractive concept.
In the comment section a raging war had developed between a group of women and this one guy who said he was MGTOW. His arguments made a lot of sense and his responses to the women were admirable. I noticed a number of other men who were commenting that were getting what he said and some were also deciding to look into MGTOW. For those of you who go to the effort to argue for MGTOW in comment sections of articles I encourage you heartily to keep it up. It is time well spent if there are any other men reading the comments.
A bit of my life has been like entering a movie theater about 20 minutes after the movie started. Really confusing and just when you think you have something figured out another thing happens that leaves you scratching your head again. The past few years have been slowly filling in that first 20 minutes and MGTOW really accelerated things. The result has been a certain kind of personal peace and growing confidence. Thank You.
I feel indebted and hope to be able to contribute at least a little bit for the benefit of the other men coming here.
It is for very good reasons the Devil chose to tempt Eve not Adam...
Dilbert 4 years, 8 months ago.
