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Hello and good evening everyone,
I am planning to establish a foundation with two friends which helps divorced or divorcing men saving their money from the hands of their ex-wives, coaching men, looking after and encouraging them to look and move forward.
Now, why am I posting this here? Because I would like to know if such a institution would have helped you during your divorce and if you think that other men would support this idea?
"Don't allow yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner!"
When a men is divorcing you better stay away.
His rage could of make him kill you.
Just stay the f~~~ away.
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
The best prevention is to not get married in the first place.
Best to focus on educating men of the benefits to Bachelor life compared to the LTR/Marriage life.
No Wife - No Strife
Post-Marital problems are inevitable.
A divorcing Man can do little to protect himself from getting Divorce raped aside from hiring the best divorce attorney he can afford.
In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash
I say go for it. There’s precious little help for men now. The obstacle is that few men will seek help when we need it. There’s nothing wrong with having a support network.
"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."
Anonymous43lol post marital problems
8 weeks no contact order against me. I was a stay at home dad.
I was taken from my house, left with a suit, $50 and some papers.
I was given one of my cars, a minivan, that I lived in from August 2009 until May 2010. While going to college.
weekly court appearances for 6 years costing $300,000 in legal fees, countless lost hours of case preparation, travel time, etc. The parking attendent knew my name, for f~~~ sake.
2 maybe 3 tracking devices on my car
3 car chases
1 visit from local, state, and FBI
C~~~ picked a fight inside a police station, no charges filed
C~~~ has 5 complaints against her in 3 counties
C~~~ stuck a hunting knife in my door when she couldn’t break into my place
C~~~ sent 3 private investigators to spy on me, I caught all 3
Recording device inside a child’s stuffed animal, found when the toy needed to be washed.
Chad moved in 3 days after I was removed from my home, Judge F~~~wit had nothing to say.
Chad, his 16 year old boy and 10 year old daughter also moved in. Again, court was silent on this.Chad usually picked up and dropped off my kids for my parenting time
Chad took care of my kids when the c~~~ had to go to Europe for work
C~~~ scheduled cruises, trips and other activities on my parenting time
C~~~ took the kids out of the country without telling me, no charges filed
C~~~ tried accusing me of molesting my own children, crushed in court
C~~~ accused me of doing damage to her house, car and other property 7 times, crushed with alibi evidence
C~~~ knocked me out of a teacher education program for missing class once. No provision in the school rules for court subpoenas
C~~~ used the court to jerk me around…c~~~ skipped 11 court dates, her own motion to get an order to have me pay her $700. If I missed any of those dates, I would be in contempt, and be arrested.
C~~~ routinely called Department of Family Services to have my home inspected.
C~~~ made me drive from FL to Chicago 2 hours after driving from Chicago to FL. Reason: to verify an email address. Missed a funeral.
C~~~ made me come back from Utah from a camping trip, on day 6 of a 14 day bike and camp, alleged that I was wrecking her house, threw a brick through a window and drove on her lawn. 2 days straight driving, made it to court 30 minutes before court started, I had affidavits from all the campers, receipts, pictures, Judge F~~~wit reviewed the evidence, and dismissed me. No charges against the c~~~. Not a word.
C~~~ refused to leave a football game and deliver my children on time, just kept the kids all weekend. court did nothing, issued admonishment. If I refused to give my children back, I would have 29 bullets through my chest and head.
Judge F~~~wit got an award, a crystal glass trophy from a feminist association for her work in helping women, How is any man supposed to find justice in her courtroom?
Divorce cases are supposed to change judges every 3 years. Did I get a new Judge? Nope. Special case…judge’s prerogative, Judge wanted to kick my ass some more who knows why. I think another judge would have read through the 5 banker’s boxes of records and s~~~ a brick. Maybe even reverse some of the bulls~~~, and lock the c~~~ up on one of 20 different violations. F~~~!
6 years of constant battle ended when I went into exile in Kansas.
C~~~ poisoned my children against me, the kids I raised while she was working, spending every dime and f~~~ing Chad for 4 months before I was removed from my home.
I still wake up screaming, thinking the c~~~ or some SWAT team is coming through my door to kill me. I watch the traffic behind me when I drive, I look for strange cars in my apartment parking lot. Some nights I don’t like what I see, I sleep somewhere else…or I watch my apartment looking for police.
I would like to know, what sort of institution, foundation, think tank was going to save me from s~~~ like this? Nothing. Even Order of Protection did nothing. Getting the f~~~ away from her and leaving my kids behind saved my life, and the c~~~’s life as well. The way things were going, one of us was going to end up dead. Even if I wanted to, I could never start having a relationship with another woman, the trust thing is a big part, but what woman wants to be part of a f~~~ing bad action movie with insane knife wielding psycho exwife, car chases and court drama? I can’t sleep through the night without screaming, rolling on the floor thinking I’m about to be shot.
So if you think you can help guys with “normal” divorces, then good luck. I don’t think you can help men like me. I did my best to protect my kids’ right to see their father, and I just couldn’t win. I could not win. The pussy pass was too strong.
If you want men to be protected from divorce? Prevent as many men as possible from being married in the first place. Want to prevent child custody fights, and loss of men’s rights? Do not have sex. Stop getting married, stop having children. Want to stop harassment? Stay away from women. Do not work with them when possible, do not share elevators, move away from them on public transit. Find jobs in predominately male occupations, and remove yourself from situations that could go bad. Minding your own business is not enough sometimes.
Be overt in moving away from women, be visibly uncomfortable when they enter your space. Let them know you do not want to be alone with them, have some other man with you in meetings. Cameras and recording devices may not be legal where you live. Even that may not be enough. I refused to get in an elevator with a woman, and she chased me out of the building and through a parking lot screaming at me for being impolite and not saying a word to her.
I buy something every 3 or 4 hours to establish an alibi, the c~~~ lives 500 miles away. I felt better when I lived 900 miles away.
Its a good plan…One downside I see is that you are painting a very big target on your back…You will be another symbol of the patriarchy which will be vilified by weeminz…
I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...
Only when enough men have voted with their feet (walked away from women and marriage) will divorce outcomes begin to change for men. Maybe.
I’m not holding my breath.
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Don’t marry. Don’t cohabitate.
I'm going my own way. Maybe I'll see you there.
lol post marital problems
8 weeks no contact order against me. I was a stay at home dad.
I was taken from my house, left with a suit, $50 and some papers.
I was given one of my cars, a minivan, that I lived in from August 2009 until May 2010. While going to college.
weekly court appearances for 6 years costing $300,000 in legal fees, countless lost hours of case preparation, travel time, etc. The parking attendent knew my name, for f~~~ sake.
2 maybe 3 tracking devices on my car
3 car chases
1 visit from local, state, and FBI
C~~~ picked a fight inside a police station, no charges filed
C~~~ has 5 complaints against her in 3 counties
C~~~ stuck a hunting knife in my door when she couldn’t break into my place
C~~~ sent 3 private investigators to spy on me, I caught all 3
Recording device inside a child’s stuffed animal, found when the toy needed to be washed.
Chad moved in 3 days after I was removed from my home, Judge F~~~wit had nothing to say.
Chad, his 16 year old boy and 10 year old daughter also moved in. Again, court was silent on this.Chad usually picked up and dropped off my kids for my parenting time
Chad took care of my kids when the c~~~ had to go to Europe for work
C~~~ scheduled cruises, trips and other activities on my parenting time
C~~~ took the kids out of the country without telling me, no charges filed
C~~~ tried accusing me of molesting my own children, crushed in court
C~~~ accused me of doing damage to her house, car and other property 7 times, crushed with alibi evidence
C~~~ knocked me out of a teacher education program for missing class once. No provision in the school rules for court subpoenas
C~~~ used the court to jerk me around…c~~~ skipped 11 court dates, her own motion to get an order to have me pay her $700. If I missed any of those dates, I would be in contempt, and be arrested.
C~~~ routinely called Department of Family Services to have my home inspected.
C~~~ made me drive from FL to Chicago 2 hours after driving from Chicago to FL. Reason: to verify an email address. Missed a funeral.
C~~~ made me come back from Utah from a camping trip, on day 6 of a 14 day bike and camp, alleged that I was wrecking her house, threw a brick through a window and drove on her lawn. 2 days straight driving, made it to court 30 minutes before court started, I had affidavits from all the campers, receipts, pictures, Judge F~~~wit reviewed the evidence, and dismissed me. No charges against the c~~~. Not a word.
C~~~ refused to leave a football game and deliver my children on time, just kept the kids all weekend. court did nothing, issued admonishment. If I refused to give my children back, I would have 29 bullets through my chest and head.
Judge F~~~wit got an award, a crystal glass trophy from a feminist association for her work in helping women, How is any man supposed to find justice in her courtroom?
Divorce cases are supposed to change judges every 3 years. Did I get a new Judge? Nope. Special case…judge’s prerogative, Judge wanted to kick my ass some more who knows why. I think another judge would have read through the 5 banker’s boxes of records and s~~~ a brick. Maybe even reverse some of the bulls~~~, and lock the c~~~ up on one of 20 different violations. F~~~!
6 years of constant battle ended when I went into exile in Kansas.
C~~~ poisoned my children against me, the kids I raised while she was working, spending every dime and f~~~ing Chad for 4 months before I was removed from my home.
I still wake up screaming, thinking the c~~~ or some SWAT team is coming through my door to kill me. I watch the traffic behind me when I drive, I look for strange cars in my apartment parking lot. Some nights I don’t like what I see, I sleep somewhere else…or I watch my apartment looking for police.
I would like to know, what sort of institution, foundation, think tank was going to save me from s~~~ like this? Nothing. Even Order of Protection did nothing. Getting the f~~~ away from her and leaving my kids behind saved my life, and the c~~~’s life as well. The way things were going, one of us was going to end up dead. Even if I wanted to, I could never start having a relationship with another woman, the trust thing is a big part, but what woman wants to be part of a f~~~ing bad action movie with insane knife wielding psycho exwife, car chases and court drama? I can’t sleep through the night without screaming, rolling on the floor thinking I’m about to be shot.
So if you think you can help guys with “normal” divorces, then good luck. I don’t think you can help men like me. I did my best to protect my kids’ right to see their father, and I just couldn’t win. I could not win. The pussy pass was too strong.
If you want men to be protected from divorce? Prevent as many men as possible from being married in the first place. Want to prevent child custody fights, and loss of men’s rights? Do not have sex. Stop getting married, stop having children. Want to stop harassment? Stay away from women. Do not work with them when possible, do not share elevators, move away from them on public transit. Find jobs in predominately male occupations, and remove yourself from situations that could go bad. Minding your own business is not enough sometimes.
Be overt in moving away from women, be visibly uncomfortable when they enter your space. Let them know you do not want to be alone with them, have some other man with you in meetings. Cameras and recording devices may not be legal where you live. Even that may not be enough. I refused to get in an elevator with a woman, and she chased me out of the building and through a parking lot screaming at me for being impolite and not saying a word to her.
I buy something every 3 or 4 hours to establish an alibi, the c~~~ lives 500 miles away. I felt better when I lived 900 miles away.
You’re right the law is stacked against men. You could not win lawfully. I would just vanish.
Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.
Maybe I am too young or too dumb but I refuse to quit. There must be solutions! If the state can not or don’t want to find them, then we have to do it ourselves by standing together like a wolf pack.
"Don't allow yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner!"
Maybe I am too young or too dumb but I refuse to quit. There must be solutions! If the state can not or don’t want to find them, then we have to do it ourselves by standing together like a wolf pack.
You want to help? Stand outside of a courthouse and after you step over the homless men that women surround drinking F~~~ING COFFEE…
Maybe you can hand out flyers talking about the court system. So far men do not do this cuz they get arrested for some reason or told to bugger off. WEIRD MAN. WEIRD!!!!!!
And that is right here in Portland Oregon.
BEsides, there are already TONS of groups that do this already. If you want a tax haven go right on ahead.
You would be better off starting a business that was profitable, and taking that money to hire men.
You want to do something with your life? Try Unf~~~ing CPS. Bottom line. Unless you are going to use Rocket Launchers and tanks, the only thing you can help with is buy they guys beer. Or open a men’s only Fathers shelter.
Want me to prove how infective you are?
Try to be a safe house for Fathers and Children. SEE HOW FAR YOU GET WITH COPS.
Even if you say. NOPE KID IS F~~~ED UP. They will still say.. JUDGE ORDER. DONE.
Look at what happned to may. What would you have done? You would be taking on just ONE MAN at a time just like a lawyer. And all you would be doing is making the system more money overall.
DO something for the young men out there. No man on this site will say that is a bad idea. It is dangerous, but the best idea out there.
We are all here to help men. But let’s face it. KIDS need Fathers. We can’t be there. You can try doing that first.
Good luck Red. But hey, if you just need a tax haven. Sure why not.
You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home
“Look at what happned to may. What would you have done?”
Honestly, I don’t know. Probably something very stupid.
“if you just need a tax haven. Sure why not.”
It’s not about earning money or creating a tax haven. By the way I am not rich enough as I could use it. The reason is to change the formal intention of a foundation after it has been established is very difficult here, so it would be guaranteed that it would exist even if the founders die.
“You would be better off starting a business that was profitable, and taking that money to hire men.”
Actually this is also part of the plan (hiring men). But why should the state get taxes from it (profitable business). The state should give money to such institutions as it does to women institutions. That would be logical in my eyes. And I believe this will happen in the next couple years if they don’t want to cause a revolution.
"Don't allow yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner!"
If you want men to be protected from divorce? Prevent as many men as possible from being married in the first place. Want to prevent child custody fights, and loss of men’s rights? Do not have sex. Stop getting married, stop having children. Want to stop harassment? Stay away from women. Do not work with them when possible, do not share elevators, move away from them on public transit. Find jobs in predominately male occupations, and remove yourself from situations that could go bad. Minding your own business is not enough sometimes.
^^^ This is the fundamental advice.
The stories of guys like May 7 2020 and Matrix alone should be enough to put any (remotely sane) guy off modern marriage.
As far as I see it, there is no way to prevent post-marital problems with women, because women by their very natures are never (fully) happy, so always want more and continually ‘peck away’ at men for better/more in a relationship/marriage.
As we say on here, ‘the only way to win is to not play’, i.e. do not co-habitate/date/marry these women. At least women were tolerable before Feminism, because their hypergamy was controlled by men back then, but the institution of marriage is screwed now (literally and metaphorically).
Yup, the only way to avoid post-marital problems is not to get married in the first place, but the good news is it is 100% effective.
The trouble is all men think “She’s different, she loves me” then are shocked when 7 years later he gets the “I love you, i’m just not in love with you” speech, kicked out of his house and replaced the next day with a Chad.
Marriage is like taking every penny you have earned and are ever going to earn in future, going to the roulette wheel and putting it on a single number. But the difference is, even if the wheel lands on that number you just walk away with your original stake.
Just don’t do it guys, that contract does not have a single clause in your favour.
For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.
There must be solutions! If the state can not or don’t want to find them, then we have to do it
When men start talking about “changing’ the existing system that is really what MRA’s are all about. You would probably find more support on an MRA Forum.
MGTOW are focusing on Walking Away from the Matrix, and Not Interacting within it attempting to fix the unfixable. It takes the focus off the individual Man planning and Living his own life, and puts the Focus back on the very Matrix that we are looking to ESCAPE.
In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash
am planning to establish a foundation with two friends which helps divorced or divorcing men saving their money from the hands of their ex-wives, coaching men, looking after and encouraging them to look and move forward.
While I think it’s noble that you want to do this, their are institutions that do this already to little effect. And in some extent, divorce should be painful. I don’t mean that men should be screwed over, but if the goal is to make divorce free, you’re only treating the symptoms instead of fixing the problem.
There are law firms that specialize in serving men going through divorce and that seems to be a good way to help men. I can see where some supporting these firms could be helpful, but again, doesn’t solve the problem.
Really, you won’t stop bad marriages and damaging divorces until the culture is willing to see the truth. That means speaking the truth without compromise. And since women and the media are well equipped and will fight the truth, that means an all out culture war. It’s a war the MRA’s have been fighting for years with pretty much no success. More money isn’t going to make a difference.
Ok. Then do it.
Maybe I am too young or too dumb but I refuse to quit. There must be solutions! If the state can not or don’t want to find them, then we have to do it ourselves by standing together like a wolf pack.
A MRA site would be a better home for you. Check out Elam’s “A Voice for Men”.
Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.
We are winning this war, but slowly. I feel for May, as I am in the same boat. I am a Ghost in the house that I pay for. Three more months and I file on this bitch. Twenty years of my life shot to he’ll! ” IT “will get my youngest but my oldest is about to graduate and get free of this demon spawn! I am lucky as I live in a 50/50 state for parenting. I know “IT” will fight this. I know I will lose my home and everything I have worked for. I accept this, but I will not bow! I would not walk across the street to save her soul from Satan! Would not have to, she is Satan’s nasty sister! I walk a lonely path, but is my path never to be shared with another spawn from Hades. Hope all you fine gentlemen have a great weekend. Caveat emptor!
We are winning this war, but slowly. I feel for May, as I am in the same boat. I am a Ghost in the house that I pay for. Three more months and I file on this bitch. Twenty years of my life shot to he’ll! ” IT “will get my youngest but my oldest is about to graduate and get free of this demon spawn! I am lucky as I live in a 50/50 state for parenting. I know “IT” will fight this. I know I will lose my home and everything I have worked for. I accept this, but I will not bow! I would not walk across the street to save her soul from Satan! Would not have to, she is Satan’s nasty sister! I walk a lonely path, but is my path never to be shared with another spawn from Hades. Hope all you fine gentlemen have a great weekend. Caveat emptor!
Best of luck – prepare, prepare, prepare! I was/am not and I’m playing catch up.
Your heart seems in the right place. However, the rules of the game are set and you can’t win. What you suggest is like a support group for people who lost at Russian Roulette.
There are innumerable groups and websites to help with post divorce issues for men just as their are neurosurgeons and grief counselors to help the family deal with Timmy’s death.
The tine just isn’t ripe. Right now, the public proclaims you a mysogenist if you aren’t a feminist. The next generation is eating tide pods on a dare. Sorry, this fire has much time left to smolder.
This change is still in its infancy and the system will ignore small incremental change. Tell your story and participate on these obscure websites. Share and talk to your receptive friends. A friend of mine recently broke it off with his GF who kept pushing for marriage and a kid. He told me that hearing all of the s~~~ I’m going through changed his mind. In that moment, I took time to further detail to him the disasterous and self immolation end that the legal system and society had made of marriage.
I laud your zeal, but small steps my friend.
A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!
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