Please help: Need (un)Marriage Advice for my Nephew

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3726]

Hi guys, I’ll get right to it.

My Nephew is in the Army stationed in Alaska. I haven’t talked to him in a few months but I just heard through the family grapevine that he got engaged.

I have repeatedly recommended this site, offered generous doses of red pills, and even ordered an Aaron Clary book for him and had it shipped up there. He listens to Tom Leykis occasionally, or used to. I honestly thought he understood the dangers, still think he does, but he must have found his “unicorn.”

If any brothers here are/were in the military, stationed in Alaska, married, or any combination of the above, what would you say to him if you could? For the older guys, remember when you were that age (I think he’s 22) and found your unicorn – could you tell him how that turned out?

I’m honestly not sure what to say – I’m pretty sure I made a fairly good case, but you know how the hormones go. I haven’t talked to him yet, but if I had to guess, I’d bet it was one of those situations where there’s religious bulls~~~ involved on her family’s side where they can’t be together and be happy unless their married. You know the drill.

Please help me and tell me what you would say to him so that he understands what he is REALLY getting himself into. When all the replies are in, I’ll send him the link.

Many many thanks,
BD

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Anonymous 1]

BD – I can’t help you, but I can tell you, I’m always pleased to see you back.

You are one of my favourite dudes on here, and one of the first guys I talked with. Legend.

[Anonymous 42]

I bet it was her idea, they expect life to give them a slave.
Poor bastard…

P.S. What about giving him the future self speech? Where his future self will look back in regret getting hitched?

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3726]

Thanks Joller – same for you. I’ve been busy with school and work, just no time for anything but work, study, sleep, and the occasional fleshlight affair in between. 🙂

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Have him read the Introduction thread on this site.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

I am from Anchorage, Alaska…Come from a extraordinarily militarized family unit, and have been married and divorced…Let me get right down too it…This question has been asked from other members literally DOZENS of times…And the answer never changes brother…In case you may have missed the other postings on this exact question, I will translate the many responses into a brief summary if that is okay sir…There is nothing at all you can do for him…You have already done much more than you should have…My point before you get angry is this: If anything, all you are doing is forcing him right into the arms of his unicorn…You cannot open his eyes, and yes I remember “That Age” as you said…We listen to f~~~ all and no one at that age…And I mean it…There is no bit of wisdom you can share at this point that will help…Nothing…He HAS to wake up on HIS OWN…PERIOD…So…Here as it has been said before is how it usually goes…He gets the marriage…There comes a child, the sex stops, she does one of two things at this point, blows up into a land whale, or goes back to her high school size skinny jeans…The reasoning behind the skinny jeans is many fold…She is hunting her new alpha sex partners, she is hunting her new husband, or is already sleeping with a multitude of men that will not sleep with her if she is fat…Within five years it will be completely broken down…He will not know why, as he will have done everything she asks of him to no avail…And then the bombshell will drop…Either he finds out she is cheating, or she divorces him to take on her new lover as a husband…Here is where YOU finally come into the picture…As now he will need you more than ever and NOW HE SHOULD BE A LITTLE MORE READY TO LISTEN TO YOUR WISDOM…All too late now, but as long as he is still alive, we can help him build his new life around going his own way….So….Unfortunately not a lot now, but in the end brother, he will need you, so just hold on and be patient, or not, your choice…Just my two cents though brother….

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Well said Jeremiah I was about to post the same thing. There is nothing you can say or do at this point that you have already not done you did your duty. The best teacher is experience and all you can do is be there for him when the s~~~ hits the fan. Family pressure combined with society telling him there are unicorns out there has put blinders over his eyes and he can’t see what is in front of him. Give him time and he will understand eventually although some people will never get it. But you planted the seed and he will see what you said is the truth.

[HitmanParticipant]

hey kid,
you really want to get married ?
security?
no, you can’t keep her faithful by marrying her .
steady sex?
no, that will fade out,
the honeymoon can’t last forever..
a year or two, tops..
then the weight gain ,nagging , complaining..
basically you get a really BAD DEAL.
SHE gets a great deal at your expense.
.
if you are reading this and you have not married her,
it’s not too late !!!
.
how about postponing the wedding day ?
two years.
if she agrees , maybe she does love you.
if she wont agree, she does NOT love you..no matter what she says.
.
if two years go by and you two are still together,
i will eat my hat !
.
thanks for listening..hope you take my advice.
a man called Hitman.
iv’e been hit with divorce, child support,lawyer fees,night in jail..all for a woman.
not worth it at all..

[experiencedParticipant]

Ask him, “If it works out, what will happen to her, and to you?”
Then ask, “If it doesn’t work out, what will happen to her, and to you?”
Then:
“What if I told you that those answers have something to do with 80% of divorces being initiated by the woman?”

Also, like Sidecar says,”She already has you, now she wants your stuff.”

Later she will find that she can keep your stuff while dumping you.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Some golden wisdom in this thread, and as it has already been hit home, sadly, I concur. To me, this is the ultimate tragedy, we men knowing the truth, and seeing another one of us still having to learn it for himself.

It’s not even a trial and error…it’s just an error in our day and time, at this point.

And yes, I found my unicorn in my 2nd xwife, but she turned into a fire breathing dragon when she filed for divorce, and scorched my charred remains & all that I held dear & loved.

And at one of the court hearings, while I was still locked up, had a smile that I can’t get out of my head.

Unicorns are dangerous business! They are not as they appear, when the blinders of love come off & you see what the animal really is…

A F~~~ING FIRE BREATHING DRAGON!!

[AwakenedParticipant 35234]

As stated many times, there is nothing you can do. If he gets married he too will get f~~~ed. It sucks to see any man do this to themselves, especially a family member. He too will have to learn the hard way. Sad but true….

I live near a church, and cringe every time I drive by and I see the wedding limos parked out front.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[TaoTheMgtowWandererParticipant 263]

send him Terrence popp videos, mainly the episodes for dignity siphon, divorce bank, 500 miles of mister right and finally, the challenge accepted episode.

if that dosent make him kick her ass to the curb, send him administrative violence part 1 and part 2 and let him know that is the path he is headed for a whole world of ass pain if he goes through with this.

if he still dosent listen, well..he is f~~~ed.

My peace of mind is worth more then your vagina...cunt.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

@biggvs_dickvs

Not before he’s on his way to achieving his dreams. At 22, he can’t even possibly comprehend the promise, potential and possibility that lay before him.

How old is she.. 19? 20? 21?? I also personally have ZERO tolerance for cheating military wives. They are the worst scum on the planet and should be charged with the capital crime of treason. Then he comes back and is treated like a piece of s~~~ and told he doesn’t live in his house anymore. Guess what option thousands of soldiers choose every year?

Biggvs_Dickvs wrote:

I’d bet it was one of those situations where there’s religious bulls~~~ involved on her family’s side where they can’t be together and be happy unless their married.

Yeah you’ll see how “religious” she is in divorce court when the same “religious” bride throws her morals out the window. They never practice “religion” ( or insist on it ) when it comes time to holding their greedy claws out for a monthly check.

22?

If he’s 22 and already thinks this is THE BEST he’s ever gonna do….. he is SORELY mistaken.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[narwhalParticipant]

Stall.

Encourage him to wait to tie the knot officially until after he’s done with the Army or reached a more stable point in his career. As I understand it, that’s a common practice.

If he can see the logic in that, it will increase the likelihood that his fiancé shows her true colors because her wishes have been challenged and she keep up the good girl act that much longer. If you can, feed him small bites of logic, don’t try and shove it down his throat in one shot…it won’t work.

Ok. Then do it.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

narwhal wrote:

true colors because her wishes have been challenged and she keep up the good girl act that much longer

No kidding…they don’t like that I have to be patient & keep up the charade. They are always in a big ass f~~~ing hurry…

Really, where is the damn fire, if it really was love, seems she would be more than happy to prove it by showing a lil patience…

My bad, I digress.

@keymaster…that video is intense man…some powerful s~~~. Truly tragic.

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3726]

Thanks a ton guys, that’s a true taste of the wisdom and reality doses that makes hanging with you guys so great.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Unfortunately, I think after giving your own stern, carefully explained, calm advice to your nephew, there’s really nothing you can do.

I’m twenty-two myself, and believe me when I say that at this age, once you’ve taken it into your mind to do something, very rarely will someone be able to change your mind..

Your nephew will either come around on his own, or go through with it. But you’ll be able to sleep easy knowing that he won’t be able to say he wasn’t warned.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[Eric LauderParticipant 12053]

There’s just only a way to deal with a man who want to marry: you should suggest him to give her all his properties saying “by doing so, you will never pay taxes on such properties if she’ll divorce your ass – since that happens 52% times and the woman take most man’s stuff, giving her your properties is a good move to avoid taxes in the case she’ll get your stuff. If she’ll really good, then there’s no problem: she’ll be glad of the gift and you and her will live even more happy”.
Usually this kind of reasoning raise a giant red flag in guys going to marry, then the next step is suggesting them to get informed about the laws and briefly talking with a lawyer about the right steps to take in order to being shielded from the worst consequences of a possible divorce…

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