Past Life Mistakes

[Quiet ThomParticipant 116]

I’ve been widowed about 9 years now. I was fortunate because I didn’t realize just how much my life sucked during the bulk of my married life….probably can attribute that to my own selective blindness to keep my sanity. If I knew then what I know now, I never would have married. I believed the hype (lies) and the tradition (unattainable expectations) associated with getting hitched. I still have vivid memories of occurrences of my marriage. I will share one of them at this writing. There will be more.

My wife could be f~~~ing mean…really hurtful and unreasonable. I attributed some of that to being angry about her poor health but f~~~, I didn’t give her any of her health problems. Granted, as a “flawed” male, I made honest mistakes, but those mistakes didn’t merit her going from zero to crazy in 2 seconds flat. I tried to understand her reaction and talked about it to some female relatives in her age group. Their response? It’s because she feels safe with you, they ALL said. She can act like that with you and you will take it and not leave. This made my f~~~ing head spin. Okay, I responded….let me get this straight. She acts like a c~~~ to me because she knows I will take the abuse and not leave? Why doesn’t she do this s~~~ with someone else that won’t leave and be protective and grateful to me for always being there to support her? THAT is truly f~~~ed up beyond belief! So….it’s okay that she crushes my soul knowing I will always be her cheerleader and support her financially, spiritually, and emotionally? Well then….using your logic (or lack thereof) it would be alright if I verbally abuse her and make her feel like s~~~ because I feel the same way about her? No…..that’s different, they said. That would be abuse, they said. I see. I’m her caregiver, sole source of income, loyal husband, and emotional punching bag. I asked these females, doesn’t this seem just a little crazy and unfair to you? To a person, they said no. I didn’t press them to explain because there was no way, in my mind, that they could justify their unfair and aberrant belief system to me. What a bunch of sick douches! So, evidently, women don’t know just how effing crazy they are or refuse to acknowledge how effing crazy they are. Talk about a one way mentality! This was one of many moments of clarity (red pill) I had regarding women. It is truly an enlightening and exhilarating experience knowing that I am no longer someones emotional punching bag. It is a gift that I will never take for granted or squander. FREEDOM!!!

[RoyDalParticipant]

Quiet Thom wrote:

Talk about a one way mentality! This was one of many moments of clarity (red pill) I had regarding women. It is truly an enlightening and exhilarating experience knowing that I am no longer someones emotional punching bag. It is a gift that I will never take for granted or squander. FREEDOM!!!

Welcome! I’m sorry that you had to be a punching bag, and I’m happy that you wised up.

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[HitmanParticipant]

i can relate , i had so much crazy comin at me i began to doubt my own sanity.. logic prevails however , most women think that sex gets them a free pass to act however they chose. it is men taking their crap that sends a messege thruout society that they can do what they  please ALL the time..who thinks they can be bat-s~~~ crazy without consequences ? some dictator ? ( dick-taker..?)  f~~~ that noise !

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Thom. Thanks for joining and leaving an intro for others. I asked my Dad when I was 17, “what about marriage?”. “DON’T” he said. But he wasn’t very articulate, and couldn’t really explain why – or probably, he didn’t want to have to spell it out for his son -….. but I understand it now.

Today, I thank this ice cold beer I heard him.

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[The_reality_factorParticipant 211]

Like a stream running over pebbles. Wives, over time just wear you down and emasculate you without you knowing it.

RoyDal wrote:

It is a gift that I will never take for granted or squander. FREEDOM!!!

I’ll drink a beer to that, and make a promise to never lose mine again!

Keymaster wrote:

what about marriage?”. “DON’T” he said. But he wasn’t very articulate, and couldn’t really explain why

I reckon older men from that era (assuming we are of a similar age) didn’t articulate very well. I recall my father saying to me; ” be very careful with whom you get involved with” and that was about it. I know he was talking about my mother. My dad’s married life served as a prime example of how a man can lose total and utter freedom to a women.

I’m not sure if these are past life mistakes or results. Sounds fluffy, but if you repeat bad life choices, then they are mistake!

Appreciate your open honesty @Quite Thom

 

[iamblichusParticipant 34]

I sympathize with this. Oddly enough, it was my lesbian sister-in-law’s ex who told me once after she split with said sister-in-law that my wife is emotionally abusive to me. To be honest, it’s really toned down a bit as the kids get older, now she just ignores me for the most part. But sometimes, when she oversleeps for a nap (which I never take) or whatever, and something is not done that she perceives should have been (while I was watching the kids or doing other things), the first words walking in the room are usually some passive-aggressive comment to make me feel bad, remind me how miserable she is, etc. I think my in-laws look at our relationship and just think, “Better him than us.” Like, she gets p~~~ed off with her father all the time for stuff she thinks he should do but doesn’t, but I’m the only one she allows herself to be angry at, chew out. Again, I would leave if the kids weren’t so young, and to tell the truth, her leaving me alone for the most part makes it tolerable most days.

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