Older MGTOWs – how to stay socially active?

[Anonymous 3]

Being a social and popular older MGTOW sounds to me to be the male equivalent of being a feminist career woman with kids that “has it all”.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

I’m 57 and I have so much s~~~ to do I have to turn ppl down. I get invited to parties every weekend. The older we get the more social we become. People see friends are dying off and don’t waste time with being shy. Kids are grown so the house is open for parties and time is available for happy hours, trips or camping. I just came back from an Alaskan cruise with 20 buddies. Believe me unless you are forcing the hermit life on yourself getting older is a much more social environment.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[SwimcatParticipant 3597]

I’m sixty two. This is what I did this week.
Monday, Gym early,Work during the day. Evening golf till Sun down. Dinner at the club.
Tuesday, Gym early,Work during the day Meeting for finance committee of my Masonic Lodge. Dinner at a restaurant.
Wednesday, Conference call early,Work during the day Masonic Lodge monthly business with catered dinner.
Thursday, Gym early,Work during the day, worked late, made my own dinner, watched a movie on Netflix. Fell asleep.
Friday, Walked through park early, work during the day, got a massage, tonight, babysitting grandson, watching opening night for my NHL hockey team. Just got him to sleep.
Tomorrow, yard work early, going back to my university for tailgate party with old teammates, football game at night. Staying there overnight.
Sunday, Church in the morning, going to horse races with old friends. One of whom is bringing a single sister in law, on and on it goes.

[SESQUI ano estParticipant 2535]

All great suggestions from the brothers here. Playing a competitive sport or playing sports once a week with a social club can be fun and keep you in contact with people with a minimal commitment. The competition keeps you sharp and gives you something to look forward to. It helps keep you fit. You are socializing with people once a week (the beer and pizza after the game is one of my favorite parts). It is often done in “seasons” or semesters like school so you can take a term off from playing if you want to get away from it for a few months.

Everyday above ground is a good one. Everyday above ground while single...better still.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I think you should listen too stuff like this…

Awakened wrote:

I know of a couple “older” Men that are both MGTOW, but don’t even know it.

They have very active lifestyles. Personally, I know them both from the gym. Some of the things they do are:

1) Memberships at 2 gyms (different classes and different friendships)
2) Bowling League
3) Regular Bus trips ( many of the same people end up traveling together)
4) Take audited College Classes
5) Senior Male athletic group (Biking)
6) Season Tickets to AHL Hockey (same seat near other fans )
7) ETC. ETC. ETC.

And not this…

Anonymous wrote:

But I’d suggest if family and being socially assimilated is the most important thing in your life, you really need a serious girlfriend and/or marriage partner.

or

Anonymous wrote:

Being a social and popular older MGTOW sounds to me to be the male equivalent of being a feminist career woman with kids that “has it all”.

Because having some friends if you want some human interaction, which I suspect most of us do as long as its with decent people, doesn’t make you the equivalent of being a feminist career woman with kids,” it just makes you not a bitter lonely old f~~~.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

We live in an age where you can do anything – all the things people have wanted to do for ages. And you’re asking what to do?

Pick and activity, and go do it. Open your mind.

[revistaParticipant 232]

Agree with you beer.i enjoy my solitude and nothing better than relaxing on a sunday,watching sports without a woman moaning in your ear.but i still like to get out and about.spend time with my kids,friends,sporting events,gym etc.we all go our own way on here and do what we wana do.im selective who i spend time with,i dont do anything i dont want to do.

[Pedal, run, rowParticipant]

I don’t (remain social).
I am totally at peace with it.

[onmywayParticipant 502]

Thank you guys very much for your replies! I’ve got some thinking to do!

[gnuwalnutknightParticipant 57]

Find a gym with a reputable coach and members you can trust. I left out the part of comfort because it’ll only make you a better man, and you know they have your best interests in mind.

There’s nothing wrong with being single as it’ll only give you more time to develop yourself and to perfect your skills. I consistently hear guys complain about date nights and child care. You won’t have that problem.

[ironheartParticipant 942]

onmyway wrote:

That’s true. I actually feel married men are the most socially isolated men there are. If (when) they divorce their wife they’re usually left with no-one, since the wife keeps all “their” friends.

This is indeed true. It is part of the Control Psychology that women are taught to employ in order to “approve” of everything a man does. The last time a woman tried that with me (it happens often) I showed her the door.

The greater problem is that these birds are doing it in the workplaces now. Because controlling your husband at home is not enough anymore. Now they want to control everything and everyone with their twisted beliefs. You notice it even more in the male children they also brainwash.

This is how brainwashing of the masses works. It starts in the home by using female peer pressure networks, and then grows like cancer to consume what is socially acceptable through the use of political correctness.

I guess I just keep having this irrational fear of growing old alone due to the indoctrination that marriage = cure all for all your loneliness problems. When in reality I know a lot, if not most, of husbands feel terribly lonely in their current marriage.

Isolation and alone are not the same thing. Yes you will be demonized and rejected by a large segment of the population. But you are not alone, as there are many others like you that you need to reach to and find. Let the sensible ones become your family.

Stop feeling you have to appeal or get approval from everyone. Women are not stable enough to seek approval from, as they are nuts. You cannot have a productive relationship or friendship with crazy people. It always comes down to being dominated by their needs and the needs of their mental delusions.

The biggest lie men believe is that they need approval of a female for anything. It comes from indoctrination from your mother and other females when you are young. The real truth is that few women grow mentally beyond their teen years. In the adult years they are fully controlled by the state think they embrace. Like lemmings, they follow the herd.

I am in my sixties now. I have had a few good years. So can you. Just do not be so naive to think that life will be easy with a woman in it. They cannot be trusted, so better you live alone and trust only the hand full of friends you learn to trust, men or unicorn.

Nothing is ever as bad as you think it is, only as bad as you think it will be.

"Women have become so full of hatred that they are blind to reason and humanity. That which they practice will be the end of humanity, long before any war that men may fight.." "Women are predators by nature. Why else do you think they are so quick to gang up and go after a man they hate for showing any sign of weakness?"

[LondonIrishParticipant 79]

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I come from a large Italian NY family. When my son moved to his mom’s house about 6 years ago I moved back home from LA where I had lived for 30 years.

The main reason I did that is because now I have a large group of friends that are family and they are forced by social pressure to hang out with me at the holidays, weddings and funerals.

lol, but true. It is important.

I also do what most others here have said, hobbies, projects, music and, most of all, posting on MGTOW.com

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Great topic, MOW.

onmyway wrote:

I’ve been struggling a bit with an irrational fear of growing old.

You already refer to it as “irrational” probably because you know that it is.

Here’s a few reasons why . . .

onmyway wrote:

I guess the female shaming tactic of “Aren’t you afraid of growing old alone?” has gotten under my skin at some level..

The whole “you’re gonna die alone” s~~~ from women is their OWN fears projected on to you. After all, women outlive their husbands by +/-8 years. So even if you marry, it’s more likely SHE will “die alone”.

That takes care of that.

onmyway wrote:

I love spending time alone, but due to some recent events I have come to the conclusion that relationships with family and close male friends are extremely important to me. Actually the most important thing in life for me.

The first time I felt a little like a “hermit” was at 42. At your age I had a social circle that was FAR too big. Meaning, I had to make efforts to spend time alone. Didn’t get enough it, and strongly preferred it over time.

One morning, I lay in bed in a strange city where I relocated for work and was pretty down on myself because I knew NOBODY. It would have been nice to have someone to call that day, but I also reminded myself of the time when I would have given ANYTHING to be in that position….. so I realized I must have cultivated the situation for a reason. I failed to see it as a problem.

onmyway wrote:

any tips or advice on how to maintain and expand one’s social network while growing older?

More of a challenge was getting some alone time and peace and quiet!

You’re 27. 30 will seem like a milestone, and I also knew and worked with many people who saw it as a negative milestone. Most of them were female. I did not, because I knew and believed my best years were still ahead. I felt that way at 40, and still feel that way today.

onmyway wrote:

some advice and tips from some of you older men out there that are still socially active

When you’re “busy” – really busy – you don’t miss it. When I made efforts to socialize and put my energy into other people, it didn’t reward nearly as much as focussing on myself.

The pressure to accept social pressures is already immense!

• “you really need to get a life!”
• “You work too much”
• “You’re gonna die alone”

Be aware of what those statements really mean and who they come from.

It may help to regard a “social life” as an ENHANCEMENT to your existence – rather than being ESSENTIAL to your existence.

I might say you’re overthinking it a little. Putting too much pressure on yourself to make GYOW a form committing to a hermit lifestyle – or a “fear” of that. Many people actually have the idea that MGTOW are complete social misfits, extremist hermits who “refuse any and all interaction with women!!!”.

You do what you need to do that’s essential to your existence. Everything else is an enhancement to your existence.

Last night, I celebrated a friend’s birthday with a terrific steak dinner. Everything was a la carte. Lord knows I needed it, and haven’t done it in a while. But I really didn’t need the salad.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[onmywayParticipant 502]

Again, thank you guys so much for your thoughtful replies. It’s so great to have this place in order to get advice from fellow brothers – if I ask a question like this IRL it just turns into a “you just haven’t found the right girl yet, you will, trust me! Everything happens for a reason, and there’s this special snowflake waiting there for you (with two kids that ain’t mine and a 100k in student loans that is)” s~~~fest.

Thank you guys for helping me stay sane.

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