There is a new poster that has popped up in the sidebar entitled: The 8 Men Women Love.
I didn’t download it to link it here, but it will show up in your sidebar sometime. Now, it discusses these 8 men and I want to go over it a bit for you newbies or lurkers and focus on how it relates to my life and my experience, and how it might relate to YOURS:
1. Her first love, the one who lives in her heart forever. My first love, the first girl I was serious with, reached out to me just last week. It was late at night, she knows my wife passed recently, and she was just ‘checking in’ at first. Later in the chat it became apparent she was s~~~ testing me to see if I ever loved her. After admitting I did, because it was true, she expressed how she has changed, and that she is bored with her current beau. And that she has become better sexually. It became obvious that she wanted to turn me into number 3, 5 or 6 on this list through the conversation.
2. Her ex-boyfriend. I’ve heard back from a few old girlfriends over the time I’ve been married (10+ years) and they all just want to ‘keep in touch’, make sure things are ok, and that I’m doing well. Most of these relationships ended s~~~ty, but they still think there is something there, regardless of their marriage status, relationship status, or mine. One in particular, who used to work the same place as me, reaches out through a common workplace friend occasionally to check and see if I am back on the market. Just in case, you know.
3. Her online flirt – a guy she hasn’t met in the real world but fantasizes about. This is the one I don’t have an example for in regards to me. BUT, going through my wife’s phone, I found evidence of at least three of these. Also, while married, I caught her having phone sex with a guy she met online, who lived in another country. If you met your girl recently, or know she has ‘online only’ friends, count on one of them being a guy and being on standby for real action. She flirts with him while you sleep, work, etc. And he doesn’t even know you exist.
4. Her current man. Sure she loves you. You provide for her, you take care of her, you do what she wants… just don’t dig too deep. I was married for 10 years. I was told these are just friends, they are old acquaintances, “No, I’m not cheating”. Guess what, her phone held the truth after she passed. Statements to them when she was mad like ‘Your dick will never touch these lips again’ or ‘you wish you could still be f~~~ing me’ prove how much she loved me. She loved me as long as I was ignorant of the truth.
5. Her backup-up man. I became that back-up man, while still married to my wife. We were physically separated and she had a guy move in with her. ‘Just friends’ my ass. Being the back up guy sucks, not only because you are dipping your wick in someone else’s goo, but also because you are not the priority. Don’t be the backup guy. If you are getting the ‘well I have plans’ from any girl you are around, you are the backup guy. Leave.
6. Her second backup man. Just in case. Yes, if you can’t seem to ever get time with this girl you are interested in, or if she is just flirting with you online… leave. You are the second backup guy. If you are dating or trying to date a married girl, you are the second backup guy. Chad is already there f~~~ing her on the side, and she is holding you in reserve in case the husband finds out and dumps her, or Chad disappears and she needs something or someone to do. Leave
7. The man who is stuck in the friend zone but is helpful with chores and errands. Often, this is a role similar to what we play with our mothers. We learn to be helpful and carry in the groceries, etc. In our relationships, we find a girl we like, and we approach, but she ‘just wants to be friends’ or ‘I like you too much as a friend to risk it’. When I first met my wife, I was relegated to this status, then she married someone else. We didn’t see each other for years, and then I moved from this status to the new guy… rare, but it happens. If you are shot down by a woman, move on. The initial attraction was not enough for her to move you up in status, you are stuck in the friend zone.
8. Her celebrity crush, the one she will drop all others for. This doesn’t have to be a celebrity. This is the football quarterback, the relatively rich guy, the guy who takes risks, the guy who makes her ‘tingle’. My best friend married a girl he thought would be his forever. She walked out one night and never came back, went back to a high school guy who started showing interest. My wife, shacked up with a guy in high school who wouldn’t give her the time of day, but 20 years later, after losing weight and him lowering his value by becoming a drunk, he hit on her and she left me for him. Why? He was her celebrity crush, no matter that he had no job, was physically disabled due to his addictions and a total loser… he showed her the slightest interest after all of this time. Think back, was there a girl you ‘couldn’t get’ and what would your reaction be if she said ‘Hey big boy, come on over’. Women can’t resist this.
All in all, this poster hits home. Men, AWALT. If you don’t know what AWALT means, look it up. NOW. It may save your wealth, your life, your sanity.
For the female lurkers, look closely at yourself, your relationships and see if this hits home. If it does, good. Men who have been unplugged from your drama have determined how to live without you, and that should scare you. Your resources will be drained, or never signed over in the first place. Men are going their own way, without you.
No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.
Ranger One 1 year, 11 months ago.
