New member here and lost in life

[AlGhulParticipant 9]

Hi:

Im AlGhul, im from Mexico, and by random causes I just came up here.

Im reading and reading and Im just fascinated about this particular philosophy because sometimes I found myself lost and I feel that im not a “real man” of course Im male but sometimes I feel Im not complete.

In this last years my life has taken a really confusing direction, I have been living with this girl for 5 years and im aware that this relationship means codependency for me and confort life for her. I “fell in love” with her because she seemed to be a really nice and good girl, I even used to love that naive personality she seems to have, but in the last 2 years I have discovered she’s not that naive, nice and “good girl” I used to think. A year ago we broke up for a while because I found a Facebook conversation with another guy, it wasn’t sexual but clearly she was enjoying to have the hidden chat away from me, I got furious and I yelled to her, she got upset and left home, next act was me begging her to come back, promising I would change, I would be better for her… she rejected me. Those months I was depressed, lonely and feeling like s~~~, I regretted getting mad because she was having fun and flirting with another dude. Finally I decided to put myself together, go to the gym, have fun with friends and girls and guess what… she decided to come back and I was happy as a f~~~ing kid at Toys r Us.

That taught me that I was no man and that my will belonged to her.But this has been a pattern In almost all my relationships (with the difference that with this last one Im practically married). Now Im trying to be better, to grow up, to be a man, to control my emotions, I even quit drinking because it became a problem, accompanied with cocaine and prostitutes, I promise my self I would change because I can’t stand this weak-male personality no more.

Hope to learn a lot from you guys. Thanks and sorry for the language if there are mistakes.

 

Al Ghul

[JustAProfParticipant 10]

I’ll defer to others with more experience here, but I’ll just say I’m at the same phase as you, reading and reading (with the occasional YouTube video). I feel believe that as long as you’re seeking truth, and willing to change your own life accordingly, you can’t go wrong.

Other than that, welcome aboard. And don’t worry about your English as it’s fine. 🙂

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[BDParticipant 1146]

AlGhul wrote:

Now Im trying to be better, to grow up, to be a man,

Welcome AIGhul, I’m sure that you will enjoy your experience here, great group of guys. What exactly do you mean when you typed “to be a man”?

I’ll recommend some other great resources for you, but always make your own opinion, they are available on youtube or in the archives on this site;

Tom Leykis

Spetsnaz

Terrence Popp

Sandman

Mark Rudov

 

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[EntropyParticipant 902]

I second JustAProf, this place is therapeutic and is an excellent resource.  It will keep you mentally focused and give you the confidence to go your own way.   You’ll read stories on this site that will turn your stomach, infuriate you, open your eyes… and those stories are important to read because nowhere else in the internet will you get the honesty and support you will see here.

The good news is- the red pill is a diuretic for bulls~~~ that flushes all the drama out of your system.  After you swallow it, life gets a whole lot easier/simpler/better.

The bad news is- now you’re going to have to figure out what to do with all of your extra money and free time.

"Compare your lives to mine and then kill yourselves" -BBR

[RoyDalParticipant]

Welcome! Man (well, some men) always strives for freedom and now you’re one of those who strive.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Mover1799Participant 58]

Welcome, this group is good for understand and building back your confidence, most of the men on this site have been burned, we are not sexist, but rather we understand the reality of our situation as men in today’s society.

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

Alghul wrote: Finally I decided to put myself together, go to the gym, have fun with friends and girls and guess what… she decided to come back and I was happy as a f~~~ing kid at Toys r Us.

Your happiness is not dependent on having her..You took the steps to get on with your life without her (IMPROVED YOURSELF) had fun with other people..She came back only after you did this..She came back to put you on a leash..Now you can only look at the toys but can’t play with them..Dump her or enjoy shopping with your eyes only…

 

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[TheBeastParticipant 79]

Hi man.

I know how being a mangina and addicted to a woman makes you feel, feels bad.

But everyone can work it over, what I can recommend is watching the series on youtube by Dark Knight, starting with Step 1 to transcencence.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

My feeling about “being a man” is that you are one, because you were born one.  To become a more full human being means to get a LOT fixed.  I would suggest work on yourself, see good, give thanks, and become stronger.  People on Facebook, and even here (internet in general) really don’t know you at all.  So, get real friends, and people who can help, and help you get it together.  If you are now on the path of recovery, kudos.  Keep going there.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

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