Need some tactful advise

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

What is the most professional and business like manner to tell someone to mind their own f~~~ing business, or that you don’t discuss your business when they are asking constant questions, prying and just being a nuisance?

I’m trying to hold myself to a higher standard from now on and think how a Fortune 500 CEO would handle this and not become a verbal scrapper with a couple of real f~~~ng idiots ATM. I know there is an abundance of knowledge here in MGTOW town,

Much appreciated. Thanks.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

First. Record any and all conversations with this person/people. Politely telling someone to f~~~ off may be taken personally and that’s when the lies get reported to human resources. Or this person may be trying to get you to “Spill the beans” in an attempt to get you fired.

How to tell someone to mind their own business?

I am not allowed to discuss ongoing projects.

It would not be prudent to discuss this issue without permission.

My boss believes that it is sophomoric to bandy information about unless we are actually both involved in the same project.

I have been directly told not to discuss this matter.

This matter involves personal information about clients, and it would unprofessional for me to discuss it.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Soldier Medic nailed it down pretty well. Maybe a few more:

No offense, but this line of questioning is making me uncomfortable. This is not information that I wish to share.
This is inside information that I am not allowed to share.

I think almost any of these suggestions gets you past the first line of questioning. At some point if they persist, then that person is being unprofessional.

Is this a person at work or just someone asking questions? If it’s just an outside person asking, they get a polite response the first time, a little more stern “I said no” the second time, and third time is either F~~~ Off or walk away. I suppose the walking away is the more professional of those two……..

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[Anonymous 42]

If someone is that arrogant; ignore them! if they persist, ask them; “what’s with the interrogations?” flip it over on them, turn their questions into questions of your own ,a sort of lingual judo. And keep up the pressure till they look like the Nazi interrogator they are. Ask; why do you want to know? what business is it of yours? where do you get off prying into my business? Questions they can’t answer without looking like an asshole.
In in other words; a polite “f~~~ off” and if you don’t like them, a polite ” f~~~ off and die”.
It’s up to YOU to take control of the “interrogation”, because that’s what it is!

[Anonymous 2]

Good practical examples. If this is work related a simple statement of non-disclosure is enough.

Just ask yourself, what would Spock say? He wouldn’t bend around the issue apologetically, but simply state the facts.

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

Tell them that their questions are outside of the scope of your current project/relationship with them. Remind them that it would be productive to remain focused.

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Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

TaxGuy wrote:

Is this a person at work or just someone asking questions? If it’s just an outside person asking, they get a polite response the first time, a little more stern “I said no” the second time, and third time is either F~~~ Off or walk away. I suppose the walking away is the more professional of those two……..

It isn’t work related but more in life in general. I get very personal questions from women and manginas from a larger cirlce of people who inevitably link back to my c~~~ of an ex and people who made my life hell by teaming up and defaming me over nothing I did, so I am very guarded and know the stakes. These people never liked or communicated with my ex (esp the school moms) but as soon as we parted they are all best friends and love rumour-mongering and creating drama esp with actual people I am trying to do business with. But even worse are the men who I thought were friends have betrayed me and I havent let it slip that I know, yet these are the manginas that continue to ask the questions and talk to others especially my ex et al as I have some, what I hope to be, global businesses I am trying to get off the ground and this involves total discretion. I am trying to be more mature, grown up and hold myself in higher regards.

I remember the old saying “Do you want to soar like an eagle or scratch the ground with the turkeys?”

But I should have been more specific, but thank you all the same. I appreciate it.

[Anonymous 42]

@D-Thought, more specific? Those dudes are participating in FEMALE BEHAVIOR! They act like c~~~s from the deepest root of their personality! That’s just s~~~ that men don’t do! Smoke those s~~~b~~~~ as fast as humanly possible! F~~~em their s~~~! People that F~~~ ME never hear my voice again! I have NO REGRETS! EVER! Those kind of c~~~men will sniffout and toss each-others s~~~ right along with the women tossing all their s~~~!
And what do you get from all this tossing of s~~~??? TOXIC SEPTICEMIA! Ya gotta realize first off, MOST PEOPLE ARE SEWER MATERIAL! Stay clean!

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Anonymous wrote:

@D-Thought, more specific? Those dudes are participating in FEMALE BEHAVIOR! They act like c~~~s from the deepest root of their personality! That’s just s~~~ that men don’t do! Smoke those s~~~b~~~~ as fast as humanly possible! F~~~em their s~~~! People that F~~~ ME never hear my voice again! I have NO REGRETS! EVER! Those kind of c~~~men will sniffout and toss each-others s~~~ right along with the women tossing all their s~~~!And what do you get from all this tossing of s~~~??? TOXIC SEPTICEMIA! Ya gotta realize first off, MOST PEOPLE ARE SEWER MATERIAL! Stay clean!

Absolutely well said @MG

[Anonymous 29]

DeepInThought wrote:

What is the most professional and business like manner to tell someone to mind their own f~~~ing business, or that you don’t discuss your business when they are asking constant questions, prying and just being a nuisance?

There is simply no nice or easy way to deal with people like that, male or female. They take away your time, energy and focus from what you are doing. The most effective way to stop all that s~~~ is, you MUST remove them from your personal and working environment. No if or but’s about it. They are like unwanted baggage. Get rid of them.

DeepInThought wrote:

I’m trying to hold myself to a higher standard from now on and think how a Fortune 500 CEO would handle this and not become a verbal scrapper with a couple of real f~~~ng idiots ATM. I know there is an abundance of knowledge here in MGTOW town,
Much appreciated. Thanks.

If you are going to be working in high pressure environment, there will be no prisoners taken. Directors, board members and CEO’s do not f~~~ around.
Short, sharp, informed and no nonsense information is exchanged with the least amount of personal feeling’s. This may sound brutal but it is what it is.
You must build a wall and isolate yourself from that which will drag you down to their level.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Thanks DRS_au

[BDParticipant 1146]

Soldier-Medic wrote:

How to tell someone to mind their own business?

I am not allowed to discuss ongoing projects.

It would not be prudent to discuss this issue without permission.

My boss believes that it is sophomoric to bandy information about unless we are actually both involved in the same project.

I have been directly told not to discuss this matter.

This matter involves personal information about clients, and it would unprofessional for me to discuss it.

DeepInThought wrote:

These people never liked or communicated with my ex (esp the school moms) but as soon as we parted they are all best friends

Everyone already offered great advice. Remember, sometimes it is what you don’t say that gets the point across, your body language is the conscious and subconscious communication tool. Make sure your feet are pointed away, that your body is turned away, that you aren’t giving them the respect to look them in the eye because you do not value their conversation, look at your watch, don’t be nice or ask them anything back, don’t elaborate on anything.
In this day and age people that are bored with their lives will try to create adversity for your, that translates to that you mean something to them because they want to know about you. Do you care about their lives, probably not because you got your own s~~~ going on. Don’t give them another thought, go chase your dreams and take on life, leave the haters in your dust talking about you to each other.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Great suggestions.
Remember to control your tongue. Show politeness and respect. A gentle answer will defuse the situation. Don’t be a hot head.
If I were in this situation, I would start by smiling and say, “Thank you for asking.” Then you could follow by, “You know, my memory fails me. I don’t remember all the details.” Or, “You know, this deals with some private information I’m not able to discuss at this time.”
Any idiot can lose their temper and start a fight. It shows class to behave as a gentleman. Do the right thing.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Thanks PPP. Actually with all this type of tripe in society now and peoples greedy intentions, I have become so guarded now and used that I feel no need to help anyone anymore. Because it’s the people I’ve helped in many ways who have turned around and bit me then come back and expect more.

But you are totally right, being a hot head is a big no no. But then again most people are so f~~~ing stupid to get the message first or second time.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Short Answer:
Linguistic Judo, as was mentioned. Reply to their questions with your won questions, asking them to explain what they are working on, etc… simply ignore them, and keep the ball ALWAYS in their court. People love the sound of their own voice anyway.

Long Answer:
48 Laws of Power

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