need some advice

[singledad984Participant 201]

Kinda need some advice on 2 different things!! First thing is my ex wife decided to stop paying g child support! Just wondering what I should do? Figured I could just let her dig herself a hole and if she got behind in child support alot she will never take me back to court Bc she knows she will be thrown in jail! Plus also at the end of the year I will get her tax return if she is behind! Texas does that I’m not sure about other states! She only pays $200 a month and I make good money so $200 isn’t going to make or break me! Or should I raise hell and get her to start paying it again? 2nd question is I’m wanting to get a vasectomy is this possible at the age of 29 or will every doctor refuse to do the operation Bc of my young age? Only have one child and don’t want anymore!

[MOWsince95Participant 1446]

For $200/mo I’d let her get behind and use it as a battering ram to hammer her if need be.  The tax return thing may not work if she adjusts her withholdings accordingly to avoid getting a return at all, but leverage over an ex-blood-thirsty-whore for $200/mo?  Worth every f~~~ing cent.  And once she is behind significantly you should be able to get a chunk of her pay confiscated by her employer to get her current, or at least paying.  Used to be able to do that per my understanding.

Here in Austin the Urology Team will take care of your vasectomy.  They will lecture you a bit to be sure your know blah blah blah, but just don’t sound like it’s a vengeful or reactionary thing, and ensure them that you’ve thought thru the consequences for your life and all that.  They were very cool with me, and I didn’t even already have a kid.  The questioning took about 5 minutes on that.

Just a quick true-but-humorous note: the doc I had at the Urology Team is not this one I will mention here, but there is a doc there named Richard Chopp … no kidding – “Dick Chopp” … who performs  vasectomies.  I have heard that he also provides T-shirts that say “I Got Chopped” to his vasectomy patients.  Haven’t seen one, but had I known that in advance I would have asked for him.

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[Lord VatsParticipant 379]

To your first question, yes please do raise hell, especially if your wife makes a decent amount of money. $200 is not a very big amount. You could get her thrown in jail, it’d be up to you.

Second, have you even consulted a doctor? You’re already operating under the assumption that every doctor will refuse you. I highly doubt it. You want a vasectomy, get one, it’s highly unlikely that you won’t find a doctor that’s willing to operate on you.

[BDParticipant 1146]

Send her to jail, f~~~ the bitch.

Get a no scalpel vasectomy.  Quick and easy.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[BeeParticipant 700]

1. The child support. Let it go. It will cost you more in aggravation than $200 a month. Let it build up and if she ever causes you headaches – whammo.

2. I had a vasectomy around age 31-32 with one child. This is the single best decision I have made in my entire life. I highly recommend that men who have as many children as they desire (whether that is 0 or 6) to get the surgery. I was only really uncomfortable for a few minutes, then sore for a few hours, then sat around anyway. The best part was that I was instructed to flush the remaining sperm out of my system. That’s right, I was instructed to masturbate by a Doctor. Health insurance was better back in the day. He billed it as an office visit and I paid $25. Keeping our family small has kept things simple and lowered costs and stress. At times I’ve wished for a boy, but now at the age of 42 there is no way in hell I’d go back to sharing a dwelling with anyone under the age of 5.

If your Doctor gives you flap about this, find a different Doctor. If you think that you might change your mind, you could always freeze sperm.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

You have the power and control. DON’T RUSH.

Think this over and look at all the options … and potential reactions/fallout.

1. Think of your kid and how it may effect her.

2. Will anyone else suffer apart from her?

3. Get the chop

You have the control …. very very rare. Use it wisley.

[sidecarParticipant 35854]

Don’t let the child support thing go. Make a formal complaint to create a legal paper trail showing that she has been delinquent in her responsibilities. That will bite her in the ass if she ever goes into court more than just your say-so, and that’s worth a LOT more than $200 a month. If you just sit and let her get away without paying she could use that in court in the future to argue that you don’t really need the money for your children (which is an argument that only ever seems to work for women).

Also I know 19 year olds who have had vasectomies. The procedure is simple and inexpensive and at the right clinic can be had for under $200, cash on the barrel. So complain about non-payment of support have your ex pay for it.

[edward62Participant 34]

chase after the child support, im in the uk and you are doing better then me, i only get £25.00 a month.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

@iliveagain is correct.  Being in control is a rarity for a dad that has custody.  Move only when victory is a certainty.

singledad984 wrote:

She only pays $200 a month and I make good money so $200 isn’t going to make or break me!

An additional option.  If she isn’t paying child support I would seek to sever parental rights.  You can move and disappear without having to deal with her.  Sooner of later she is going to marry a White Knight that will pay for child support and perhaps try to update the custody order.  Strike while she is vulnerable.

The money isn’t important.  Raising your kid in a sane environment is.

First hand experience with an insane ex here.

And to quote Bad Popp “A cut, two pokes, and some smoke” firmly puts you in the driver’s seat.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

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