Here in Austin the Urology Team will take care of your vasectomy.  They will lecture you a bit to be sure your know blah blah blah, but just don’t sound like it’s a vengeful or reactionary thing, and ensure them that you’ve thought thru the consequences for your life and all that.  They were very cool with me, and I didn’t even already have a kid.  The questioning took about 5 minutes on that.

Just a quick true-but-humorous note: the doc I had at the Urology Team is not this one I will mention here, but there is a doc there named Richard Chopp … no kidding – “Dick Chopp” … who performs  vasectomies.  I have heard that he also provides T-shirts that say “I Got Chopped” to his vasectomy patients.  Haven’t seen one, but had I known that in advance I would have asked for him.

Second, have you even consulted a doctor? You’re already operating under the assumption that every doctor will refuse you. I highly doubt it. You want a vasectomy, get one, it’s highly unlikely that you won’t find a doctor that’s willing to operate on you.

Get a no scalpel vasectomy.  Quick and easy.

2. I had a vasectomy around age 31-32 with one child. This is the single best decision I have made in my entire life. I highly recommend that men who have as many children as they desire (whether that is 0 or 6) to get the surgery. I was only really uncomfortable for a few minutes, then sore for a few hours, then sat around anyway. The best part was that I was instructed to flush the remaining sperm out of my system. That’s right, I was instructed to masturbate by a Doctor. Health insurance was better back in the day. He billed it as an office visit and I paid $25. Keeping our family small has kept things simple and lowered costs and stress. At times I’ve wished for a boy, but now at the age of 42 there is no way in hell I’d go back to sharing a dwelling with anyone under the age of 5.

If your Doctor gives you flap about this, find a different Doctor. If you think that you might change your mind, you could always freeze sperm.

Think this over and look at all the options … and potential reactions/fallout.

1. Think of your kid and how it may effect her.

2. Will anyone else suffer apart from her?

3. Get the chop

You have the control …. very very rare. Use it wisley.

Also I know 19 year olds who have had vasectomies. The procedure is simple and inexpensive and at the right clinic can be had for under $200, cash on the barrel. So complain about non-payment of support have your ex pay for it.

singledad984 wrote:

She only pays $200 a month and I make good money so $200 isn’t going to make or break me!

An additional option.  If she isn’t paying child support I would seek to sever parental rights.  You can move and disappear without having to deal with her.  Sooner of later she is going to marry a White Knight that will pay for child support and perhaps try to update the custody order.  Strike while she is vulnerable.

The money isn’t important.  Raising your kid in a sane environment is.

First hand experience with an insane ex here.

And to quote Bad Popp “A cut, two pokes, and some smoke” firmly puts you in the driver’s seat.