My wife doesn’t work, splurged $10,000 — and wants her name on my home

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

I have been married to my wife for three years. She is from Montreal and moved to California to be with me. I never asked her about her finances and would assume that she would have some savings since she worked as long as I did. I thought we would grow our income and savings together, but instead I’m stressed over money as she does not help me with any expenses.

I bought a house before I even met her. She lived in that house with me and does not help me with the mortgage or property tax. I pay for everything and she only pays her own expenses and there are occasions when she cannot pay her own expenses, and asks me for help. I willingly help. I asked her about the $10,000 I had given her over the past three months for her expenses, and she does not even know what she spent it on.

I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing financially to our marriage.
Michael in California
Lately she has been talking to me about wanting her name on the title in our cars and my house, which I paid for. I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing financially to our marriage. Since I married her, my savings have shrunk as I have to pull out emergency money to help her and do not get an honest answer from her about her spending.

I just don’t know how to say it in a constructive way so she can see that it’s unfair for me to work so hard to save and pay for everything while she does not help me.

Michael in California

from – http://www.market~~~ch.com/story/my-wife-doesnt-work-splurged-10000-and-wants-her-name-on-my-home-2016-08-17?reflink=MW_GoogleNews&google_editors_picks=true

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Michael replied, “NO.”

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

The guy is paying a mortgage on the house; this means he took out a loan. Unless his wife signed a quit claim deed; under California law that house partially belongs to her since he is paying a mortgage.
California is a community property state; half of all earnings during the time of the marriage belong to the other spouse.
Have a million dollars that you acquired before you got married; but that million dollars earns 60K per year…30K belongs to wife is the money earned got put into a joint account.

A house is like a joint account in California unless it is completely paid for prior to the marriage or she signs a quit claim deed if there are still payments being made on it.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

I have seen a few guys chasing wives them spending money, easy to spend another money.

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

hey Reality Bites aka Michael in California. I have to ask one basic question and you know where I’m going with this.

Have you heard of Tom Leykis?

He’s had a show first one radio for close to 20 years or maybe over 20 years in California but he’s been on the radio for over 30 years. Now he has a internet radio show Monday to Friday.

If you’ve heard of Tom, what are you doing?

I don’t want to poke fun of you but what do you think Tom would say about your situation.

It’s funny. I’m not from California and I’ve been living the Leykis 101 lifestyle since 2004. I know enough to not get involved with the Canadian women up here. Plus I got a vasectomy in 2015. Never married, no kids.

Did you think you found a unicorn, exception to the rule, a needle in a haystack?

If you were living in a cave, ok I understand. If you knew about Tom, no excuse! He talks about this stuff on a regular basis.

I’m from Toronto, Canada which is the most pussified Canada and I know not to go finding a unicorn, exceptions to the rule or needles in a haystack.

They are all the same. Especially in your state where after 10 years you’re married you’re paying alimony for life.

Take it from me. I’d break it off now because everyday you stay you are paying either day or two days extra in alimony.

I hope you don’t have kids.

Also I would advise stop having sex with her. If she claims she is on the pill and don’t use a condom she will stop taking the pill. Also using condoms she will poke holes in the condoms when you are not looking

That’s my advice to you and I know I’m just a stranger on the internet behind a keyboard but this is not good.

You’re in a bad situation and it’s better to cut your loses now and get out while you still can.

[Anonymous 0]

A couple of points to consider:
If she is entitled to half of your stuff, you are entitled to half of hers. Has she ever shown you a credible net worth statement? No? Ask for one. See what her reaction is.
A huge red flag: she wants her name on your assets. What! For free.
Don’t let her pillow talk you into any more money. Next time she asks, ask her to use her own money or say you can’t afford it. Again watch her reaction. That will tell you that she is planning.
In summary, I agree with above poster. Get out now. It will be cheaper than later.

[BoarParticipant]

Michael,

Sorry for the pain you are about to experience. It is called shafting without lube. It happens when you cohabitate with whimyn. It ends with you being indentured, vilified, bankrupt and homeless. And that is the best case scenario.

Perhaps the only benefit from this situation is that your life will serve as a warning to other innocent men.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Anonymous 42]

Is her name Vanessa? About 5′ 7″, brown hair, hazel eyes?

THIS IS YOU and you’re not the one holding the whip!:
Here’s one that survived the “extraction” (You better hope the f~~~ you don’t have kids!)

Here’s you after supporting 18 years of payments (not the guy holding the rope).

THIS IS US (MGTOW):

I hope you can endure the truth and all the red pill realities, otherwise close out the page and never return to this place.

Reality Bites all right! You’re gonna look like a cogwheel!

Don’t even tell me you’re a Mumford Mc’Cogwheel? I don’t even want to know!

She’s carving you up like a BIG TURKEY.

Watch out for Judge Bigdick he’ll divorce rape your ass like a greasy rag!

You’re sitting in the middle of a minefield, only a MGTOW air extraction will work, provided you don’t move, don’t make a sound, plan your escape, and use the word NO from here on out if you want to spare your own life!

You need fireteam MGTOWs’ advice if you don’t want to get burned alive! It’s your life, you can let yourself get extreemly F~~~ED OVER or start planning your escape.

She will legally own any children and make you legally pay to watch her ruin them.

She will OWN half your life’s toil in a single slam of gynocentric’s gavel.

She will then jump to another man not yet extracted while leaving your corpse in her narcissistic wake. She’ll ride this culture’s hypergamous marry’go’round until the day she parts way from life itself.

Narsistic personality disorder cannot be cured, all you can do is fold your chair and walk away. She won’t even be thinking about you while she lovingly extracts her next victim. Sorry to say…

[Anonymous 11]

RealityBites wrote:

I never asked her about her finances

As for a woman’s finances, always assume Dresden, Germany after the Allies firebombed it as an analogy.

RealityBites wrote:

I feel that I’m being taken advantage of

You most certainly are being taken advantage of.

RealityBites wrote:

I just don’t know how to say it in a constructive way so she can see that it’s unfair for me to work so hard to save and pay for everything while she does not help me

She knows EXACTLY what she is doing. She will not be sympathetic to your concerns which are valid.

She monkey branched to you. She will extract resources from you and then monkey branch again. That’s just how they roll these days. I’m assuming you met her on the Interweb.

RealityBites wrote:

do not get an honest answer from her about her spending.

Very simple. She is hiding something from you.

I’d work on extracting myself from this situation with the help of an attorney. She will bleed you dry if you continue just before she branch swings on you. Focus on minimizing your damage for you’ve already been hit.

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

This man is asking if he is being taken advantage of when he clearly knows he is. He sounds broken already to me.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Ahh it’s so nice to take my Red Pill with morning coffee

RealityBites wrote:

about the $10,000 I had given her over the past three months for her expenses, and she does not even know what she spent it on.

Sure she does-on herself and the Chads she’s been with

RealityBites wrote:

Lately she has been talking to me about wanting her name on the title in our cars and my house, which I paid for. I feel that I’m being taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to tell her in a nice way that she is not contributing

There is no ‘nice way’ to tell this user and talking to a divorce lawyer would help too.

kbbroiler wrote:

I’m from Toronto, Canada which is the most pussified Canada

I can tell you’ve never visited Vancouver, LOL

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Buller100Participant 2189]

I was talking to a guy the other day 22 years his wife never worked one day ,,,

[pabsawakeParticipant 1761]

Unfortunately brother you are knee deep into this and at this point there is no painless solution. I would punt the c••t and take your loses cause this will only get worse. The good news is that you have no children (that is you didn’t mention any) based on your testimony it wouldn’t surprise me if she gets knocked up by a Chad.

I don’t take any pleasure unloading this heavy info on you, but right now you will only incur minor loses that you can recover from. Far too many men take this to complete annihilation. Good luck bro!

"You can either love women or understand them, you can't do both". Truth over everything

[HitmanParticipant]

You must get a lawyer and get rid of her.
Start with a 911 call stating that she is suicidal or homicidal.
File restraining order immediately after she gets taken to the hospital.
Change the locks and say a prayer.

[Anonymous 25]

Time to go see a local lawyer who knows the laws for your area and the loopholes so you can protect your assets. Usually putting everything into a trust works if you’re married but it could depend on the area, so you need to speak to a specialist lawyer.

Definitely don’t put her name on anything though.

You might want to pay a visit to your doctor and have it noted on your medical records that she is financially abusing you and that it is causing you stress and affecting your health. Then if down the road she tries to go after your assets, you have evidence to accuse her of domestic abuse.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

This is the perfect financial storm.

Michael, wake up man.

Most of us at MGTOW would probably run like hell.

Get legal help. If you remain married, at least get a post-nup agreement.
Keep records. Don’t sign over your house or cars.

Good luck

[Anonymous 42]

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

Don’t sign over your house or cars.

She wants her name on something so materialistic as car that’s doomed to decay within 15 or 20 years.

I know a black man who lives in the sticks not far from me. He has a classic car like I do, he pointed to the classic car and said they outlast women, I agreed and told him a mountain of marriages have failed in the time I owned mine.

I’ll set mine on fire before I let it slip into the grubby greedy fingers of a narcissistic woman.

You cannot shack up with women these days without being sued for some kind of fabricated woman abuse…

[BeerParticipant 11832]

RealityBites wrote:

Have a million dollars that you acquired before you got married; but that million dollars earns 60K per year…30K belongs to wife is the money earned got put into a joint account.

Marrying these days is always a bad idea…but this is why it becomes even worse the older you get and the more time you’ve had to accumulate assets. Amplify this effect if she has debt, which most of them do.

Take Michael from the article for example…he’s going to end up having to pay her out for some equity in the house that he had before he met her and paid for while together with her. She’ll also be entitled to part of whatever savings and capital gains he has while married to her…so if his 401k had a couple good years he’ll be taking a hit there as well. Basically she’ll be entitled to assets he would have had regardless of his marital status or relationship with her.

To top it off he also gave her spending money while married. Not only is she entitled to equity/savings/gains he would have had if he stayed single, but in fact, he would have had more money to save or spend on himself had he stayed single. This chick obviously had an increase in standard of living while with him, AND she’ll get to walk out the door with a lump sum when it ends. Its a win win for her and an epic fail for him.

[Anonymous 11]

You should also know that women actually brag about doing this to men to their Hives. It’s a mark of status to pillage a man down to nothing and then move on to the next one. Her entire Hive is in on the plot against you. It’s you against them.

Younger MGTOWs heed this man’s tragic tale of marital woe. MGTOW is the solution.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Sorry man, she is already moving for your money and position in divorce.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

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