My red pill dating so far…….

[TheWalkerParticipant 58]

I love sex but I’m under no illusions that I’ll find a decent woman. But dating when you’ve swallowed the red pill is quite entertaining because you give less of a s~~~. I’m seeing this woman at the moment and she said that she wanted to take things slow. That’s fine by me – everyone goes at their own speed. Then I had a fantastic idea – if she wants to take it slow, fine. But lets date in such a way that doesn’t put her under any pressure. So here were my two ideas:
1. I will not make any physical move on her whatsoever – so we never have that awkward moment when I’ve pushed too hard. So if she wants to get physical she has to make the running. This makes it incredibly relaxing for me and also tells her that I’m no longer controlled by my dick.
2. I won’t hassle by asking her out on dates. If she wants to see me then she can get in touch.
It’s almost like role reversal – and it’s great. I can just sit there and let her do all the work. And she can’t complain because she wants to take it slow.

What happens in the long run who knows but when you give less of a s~~~ and you’re not prepared to play the normal games it’s quite fun.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

TheWalker wrote:

she said that she wanted to take things slow.

That’s s~~~ test #1
If she wants to have sex with you, she will.

TheWalker wrote:

If she wants to see me then she can get in touch.

Perfect, if she wants to be with you, she will.

[narwhalParticipant]

Honestly, sounds kind of like a waste of time. If you actually like this girls personality and can enjoy just talking and hanging out with her, then fine. If you’re in it for the potential sex and such, then you’re playing her game.

Years ago I dated a rather religious girl, and although we never talked about it really, I was sure she wasn’t going to want to have sex for quite some time. Fine with me since I enjoyed her company. Its not like we did nothing, but we never got in a situation where we were alone and sex was a big temptation. Then about a month or so in, she told me she was feeling rather self conscious that I hadn’t tried to have sex with her yet, and felt like I didn’t desire her.

In contrast, the last girl I dated was really only fun if we got drunk and had sex. Since she said that wasn’t really what she wanted, there was no point in going any further.

Point is, don’t play games. I think you’re approach works, but don’t be surprised if she’s going to tell you she wants to wait for some unknown period of time, but she still wants you to make the first move, without you knowing when that right time is, because she needs to feel desired and such.

Ok. Then do it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

It obviously can’t be ‘exclusive’ if she doesn’t make a move or tell you she’s ready for you to move…… that just makes you … friends … people … buddies.

I can see the entertainment value … but it may become boring after a while with no action.

Pay for some while you wait ☺

[EntropyParticipant 902]

FACT: if “she” wants to date you AT ALL it means she wants to take something from you and give up the least (insert any noun/verb here) possible…

How any self respecting man gives a second of his precious time to some noisy f*ck hole is beyond me.

"Compare your lives to mine and then kill yourselves" -BBR

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I met a female recently… I told her I *would* ask for her number but she probably wouldn’t have the time since she works two jobs. She said she’d make time and gave me her number. We set a plan to meet for drinks this coming Saturday.

Since then, she’s texted me a few times and at one point, said she doesn’t want to rush into sex. I replied that I hadn’t really thought about it and that we should see if we can get through a drink or two first then let things proceed as they do.

Clearly this female wants to have sex with me,.. and if she’s not a total disaster, we probably will. I won’t be pushing for it… in fact, I’ll be looking for reasons to disqualify her. Barring any, I will let nature take its course, which it will.

My days of *trying* to get sex are behind me.

[NotMyProblemParticipant 965]

I open up youjizz.com and I typically date about 10 young hotties all at the same time, one right after another.

After I bust the date is over so I just close out the windows and next time I’m in the mood I’ll date 10 brand new ones.

Not my property... Not my problem

[OldBillParticipant]

She’s running a s~~~ test, TheWalker. A particularly subtle one and one that you’ve failed.

You yourself admit you’ve adopted a dating style that doesn’t put any pressure on her. Think about that for a moment.

She decided very early on whether or she’d f~~~ you. All she’s doing now is seeing how far she can push things by making you wait. You want to believe that your restraint is telling her that your dick doesn’t do your thinking. Woman don’t think that way however. She believes your just making up excuses rather than admit she’s in control.

There are a few things you can do here that will put you back in control of your life. First, tell her that you no longer want to take things slow with regards to sex. Instead, you aren’t interested in having sex with her at all. You’ll continue seeing her as a friend because you enjoy your time together, but you’ll be dating other women for sex. Believe me, once you convince her you don’t see her as a potential sexual partner, you’ll be surprised at how fast she’ll drop her panties and spread.

Your other option is to stop seeing her altogether. Tell her it’s been somewhat fun but you’ll be moving on to a more emotionally mature woman. Again, she’ll be trying to f~~~ you as soon as she’s convinced you’re being honest.

You need to take back control of you life and be more aware of the subtle passive aggressive games women play.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[MemberParticipant 323]

Make a point to date other women at the same time. At some point this gal who says she wants to take things slow will hear about it or figure it out. She will understand quickly that she isn’t the only fish on the hook and will either decide to screw you quickly or end the relationship. Success either way. But as others have said its probably a s~~~ test…..she is trying to set the pace on when you have sex instead of just letting things happen….first sign of control play.

[TheWalkerParticipant 58]

Oh I am out there dating don’t worry. Interesting comment about it being a s~~~ test. That’s interesting.
And if I get the change to bang a different women I will.

[TheWalkerParticipant 58]

Update. I mentioned that I might date other women and she said she was OK with that – as if she had a choice. She got in touch and wanted to meet after her Xmas meal at work. I said OK, why not come to my place. I’m looking forwards to seeing you she said so we can ‘talk’ without eavesdroppers.
She no longer wants to take it slow. Lesson learned – don’t always listen to what they say. And I just wonder if my slightly disinterested approach made her realise she wasn’t the only game in town?
Very interesting.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

What, is this the “how to screw that woman” thread now?
If you want to bang the chick, do so, What’s with all the f~~~ing drama? If she doesn’t want to bang you, bang someone else. Bang someone else anyway. This sounds like conversation from a junior high bathroom. Why play games? It’s simple. If she’s a normal “sane” woman, and she likes you but doesn’t want to f~~~ you right away, that means she wants to f~~~ someone else first, and is probably already f~~~ing someone else. If a woman actually wants to have sex with you, she does not wait beyond the minimum to make her not feel like a slut. Women don’t wait for things once they want them. That’s why they max out credit cards and are usually beyond broke.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[TheWalkerParticipant 58]

This sounds like conversation from a junior high bathroom

Listen man. I am going my own way in my own way and snide little criticisms aren’t really grown up are they? Kind of thing we might expect a woman to do? I thought it was worth talking about. Disagree by all means but disagree in a constructive way please. Otherwise this place becomes a bit too ‘yah, boo sucks’.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

TheWalker wrote:

Listen man. I am going my own way in my own way and snide little criticisms aren’t really grown up are they? Kind of thing we might expect a woman to do? I thought it was worth talking about. Disagree by all means but disagree in a constructive way please. Otherwise this place becomes a bit too ‘yah, boo sucks’.

Okay. It was late and I think I read too many posts at once. I didn’t mean that as snide as it sounded. It isn’t for me to tell anyone what to do. I was actually laughing because it sounded like guys conspiring to finally get a chick to put out by playing psych games, making her think you’re not really interested and such. I hadn’t thought that was a goal in these forums, just to close the pussy deal. She’s a woman. She knows that if you are hanging around, you damn well ARE interested. No mystery there, and you probably won’t fool anyone. That’s all I’m saying. If I was too harsh, sorry. I am not your enemy. Do what you think you should.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[TheWalkerParticipant 58]

Thanks. I was talking about it, I think, as a way of looking at the dynamic of dating and my approach was prompted partly because I’m not prepared to play the traditional dating games. I’m way too old for games. So I wanted to see what others thought. Discussion and debate and useful and sometimes the views of others see other things that I don’t.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

@The Walker, you and Theronius have patched up already. Since this comes up fairly often, he and others were trying to get at one thing. Next time, since this girl isn’t forever, a woman tells you she wants to take it slow reverse her s~~~ test.

Girl- I want to take it slow.
You- You decided in the first two minutes whether you were ever going to f~~~ me or not. Any time you keep me waiting now is just to make yourself feel better about eventually giving it up, or make me work for it. In which case I can’t vouch that you’re worth the effort, so why should I try?
Girl- Because vagina
You- Just like over half the population.

I think the majority of the guys that have any personal dealings with women here will tell you that that is really all the more effort to put into any one woman. The one’s who avoid women would mostly say you’ve already progressed too far with her. Almost 4 billion of the World’s population are women,and by saying you’re MGTOW you are basically saying that no one will ever get your all. You don’t have 4 billion seconds to live, so why deliberate on one for longer than it takes to take a p~~~?

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

narwhal wrote:

Honestly, sounds kind of like a waste of time.

I agree with this.

OldBill wrote:

There are a few things you can do here that will put you back in control of your life. First, tell her that you no longer want to take things slow with regards to sex. Instead, you aren’t interested in having sex with her at all. You’ll continue seeing her as a friend because you enjoy your time together, but you’ll be dating other women for sex. Believe me, once you convince her you don’t see her as a potential sexual partner, you’ll be surprised at how fast she’ll drop her panties and spread.

Your other option is to stop seeing her altogether. Tell her it’s been somewhat fun but you’ll be moving on to a more emotionally mature woman. Again, she’ll be trying to f~~~ you as soon as she’s convinced you’re being honest.

F~~~ing insanely insightful man! It made me laugh out loud. You’re exactly right.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. --Einstein

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