My new shrink

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Like many of you: I have been through the marriage counselling, the pills from “Dr. Robert”, trying to drink myself to death and other forms of suicide. I cannot be the “Perfect Husband” and I admit I have my faults, which is one more reason I have gone MGTOW and took a solemn oath to do so. I now have a Love doll I am close to and one member said I would soon leave. He is wrong because the pain is still there. Even if he was correct, I need MGTOW for the support and companionship. You are my brothers. I don’t need to pay for a shrink to ask me how I feel, you KNOW how I feel because you have been down that road and it doesn’t cost me a cent to hear from others that know. Like Sam Kinison said: “Hell? Ha ha, I was MARRIED TWICE! The devil has nothing on me”. My Dachshund and MGTOW are the only reason I am still around to send this post. I wish you knew how much MGTOW means to me. You beautiful bastards, you wondrous forgotten stars that shine brighter than anything on a dark night! Your wisdom is my remaining Dreamlight! You are my only hope. I follow you like it was a cult but this cult tells me to think for myself. I cannot say MGTOW was worth the pain I have suffered but I can say that you have given me hope when I felt none. My keyboard cannot begin to express how much I thank MGTOW…

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

We are here brother Sparky… You are not alone in this pain. We have survived and you will become stronger because of this. Your eyes are now open and it is time to reclaim yourself…Rest and calm your mind, breath deep and embrace the pain because you will overcome it as we have…It is a long and painful journey of realization but you will find yourself again. Dont be ashamed to be MAN. It is your life now, and you have taken the steps to love and serve yourself. Thank you for sharing brother…I felt your pain and it reminded me of what I am going through..It also reminded me at how far I have come since my wife left and I have glimpses of hope and freedom….That is what MGTOW has done for me…Reclaiming our self…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[bladeParticipant]

Yep been there .

Stay well clear of psychologist . I would never sit in front of one of them again . F~~~ them . Humor is my medicine

There was no where that helped me more than been here . Glad ya found this place sparky . Another man saved

Wonder if km has ever thought how many men are alive because of creating this place . My hats of to him . Thanks km

Thanks to all of the members here to . Top shelf guys

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Astro wrote:

I cannot be the “Perfect Husband” and I admit I have my faults

Here’s the good news.

Not being “the perfect husband” –>> IS THE GOOD NEWS.

It’s not a fault.

If you ask any woman, the “ideal husband” is a docile , controlled , neutered little housepet, who apologizes for everything, never questions anything, quietly pays for everything and never pesters his queen for sex. It’s pathetic. Being “the perfect husband” for a woman who won’t even propose herself – or make you an offer you can’t refuse – is actually a silly aspiration in the first place.

Since you admit your faults, YOU CAN REMOVE AT LEAST THAT ONE FROM THE LIST and stop blaming yourself for not being “the perfect husband”. That is only a woman’s definition of you. That’s not your role in life anyway. You’re not REQUIRED to be “the man she wants”, it’s your responsibility to be the man you always wanted to be.

Take another careful look at that list of faults you carry around with you and strike of every single one that a woman would say is a “fault”.

You may just end up with a blank piece of paper after all.
How awesome would that be.

“Any woman who is displeased with you is insignificant”.
“Any woman who is displeased with you is insignificant”.
“Any woman who is displeased with you is insignificant”. . . . .

Now you’re your OWN shrink.

••••

I once sat in a mall food court out with my Mom shopping. We were having Chinese food. And she said “you know . . . . I don’t think you would make a very good husband”.

I said “What a nice compliment! THANKS!!”

She thought I was kidding / being sarcastic.
But I really wasn’t.

I would make a terrible husband. And I really LIKE that about myself.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 13]

Pay a shrink to read from a script?

A guy who doesn’t know YOU, who hasn’t been through what you have and doesn’t understand YOU.

Man, f~~~ that noise.

Save your money, best therapy is right here, right now.

Men who have been through what you have and understand you.

And it’s FREE!

[Anonymous 13]

News just in.

‘Woman finds the perfect husband.

He cooks, he cleans, he earns big money, he makes her laugh and he f~~~s her senseless every night.

She got bored, she wasn’t haaappy and so divorce rapes his ass!’

It doesn’t matter, perfect husband or rogue badass biker dude or anything inbetween.

You’re still dealing with Hypergamy and a Disloyal c~~~.

No matter who you are OR what you do, it WILL fail.

Marriage. Does. Not. Work.

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

Just wanted to voice my support. I’ve been there with everything you mentioned.
MGTOW’s been a savior for me too.

Not sure what your situation is with the drink, but I went to AA. I stick with men’s only meetings – too much BS drama in the coed ones. I made a lot of friends there, more normal and more successful than most think. Lawyers, Executives, business owners, etc. PM me if you want to know more about that.

Stay strong and take care of you. Someone once said to me: The only woman who ever cared about your feelings was your mom.

Powerful words.

Be well.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Anonymous wrote:

News just in.

‘Woman finds the perfect husband.

He cooks, he cleans, he earns big money, he makes her laugh and he f~~~s her senseless every night.

She got bored, she wasn’t haaappy and so divorce rapes his ass!’

It doesn’t matter, perfect husband or rogue badass biker dude or anything inbetween.

You’re still dealing with Hypergamy and a Disloyal c~~~.

No matter who you are OR what you do, it WILL fail.

Marriage. Does. Not. Work.

Good one. This should be required as a warning, like tobacco products have warnings, engagement rings should come with this one.

[joetechParticipant]

I believe that life is a test for the afterlife. Someone once said we all have our crosses to bear. Going through tribulations is a part of existing on this planet. I don’t know what the afterlife has in store for me, but sitting here listening to the birds in the trees I’m reminded that each bird can fall prey to a hawk or an eagle. We are prey and predator. Then, we move on. No one can define us. We are defined by our actions and our beliefs. I stand alone, and together with my brethren. Life is never fair or easy. We must all struggle. The journey IS the destination.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Spanky;

I like to think that I was a near “perfect” husband.

I cooked, cleaned, performed well in bed, gave the ex her space, pursued traditional manly pastimes (hunting/fishing/camping), am of average looks but athletic physique, was emotionally “available”, paid for near everything, and am a well paid professional that is extremely financially stable. I say this not to brag but to underscore the cognitive dissonance that is the female hamster brain. I am everything a female should “want”.

What did it get me? – The ex jumped on a alcoholic, sporadically employed Chad after nay 2 years of marriage. Why? – because she “loved me but was not in love with me”, and “did not like the consistency of marriage”.

Trying to please a women is an exercise in futility.

Please yourself.

Give yourself the permission to be selfish and look after your own best interests. Women made their bed – they can lie in it. Treat them as temporary dalliances; no more captain save a hoe syndrome. Paradoxically, they will love you for it. I keep a low profile, do not flaunt my profession or wealth, and I’m of average looks. Women have suddenly taken notice; but I reject most of them – sex is just sex.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Eyeswideopen wrote:

I like to think that I was a near “perfect” husband.
I cooked, cleaned, performed well in bed, gave the ex her space…..

Astro wrote:

I cannot be the “Perfect Husband”

Those are the thoughts of a slave. “How can I serve you Masser?”
No man can be happy thinking and acting like that. This is your hamster wheel running and running and going nowhere to please the un-pleaseable. Hamster wheels exhaust you emotionally, physically and spiritually. AND What if you did make her happy? Then you would stop trying and she doesn’t want that.

Here is some shrink advice-
In the relations~~~:: It’s not you, it never was you.
In MGTOW:: It’s about you, and only you.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

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