My mother annoys me

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

I know she is my mother and I do love her, but she annoys the hell out of me. Its always her way or the highway. She criticizes me in front of her friends and other people. I always gotta do what she says or its drama jackpot. And I can only be around her for a short period of time before I start feeling tense and defensive. And she always has to be right, even though she is proven wrong. Trusting the saying “actions speak louder than words” she is $86000 in credit card debt, and still uses credit cards. I have no credit cards and actually have a lot $ saved up. And she still thinks she is number one. And like every other woman I encountered when I had enough that is when she nice, last minute. I dont know what to do folks. Any insights or info would be great.

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

I could say something about the inherent fallibility of women but………My old man was a real piece of work.

I once asked him (I’m the youngest of 4 children) which is more likely? You managed to raise 4 evil and distrustful children or are you just f~~~ed up? Is it that you not out of of step, but the whole f~~~ing world is?

Does the answer even matter?

Our parents manage to instill in us that what they have to say about us matters despite the fact that they couldn’t find their asses on a guided tour. Sort of like Cpt. Kirk commanding the Enterprise in to a black hole at warp 8, and the entire crew is asking themselves, is this f~~~er for real?

In so far as the gamesmanship that can be found in our parents, you are an adult that has the ability to reason. What do your senses, wisdom, and experience tell you?

She is still your mother. Honoring and respecting her does not necessarily require that you plunge headlong down the rabbit hole with her.

The bible states “Honor they father and thy mother”. This is not blind obedience nor debased worship. Go your own way.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[Anonymous 42]

Kaido wrote:

I have no credit cards and actually have a lot $ saved up.

Don’t let her know any of your financial business, keep everything out of sight, out of mind! A few months ago a guy from the Bahamas posted about how his entire life was fleeced away by his mother that favored his sister over him, his college fund he saved fore himself was spent on his sister, the guy was turned into a puddle of blue goo!
Guard everything as if your life depends on it! Cause it does!

[Anonymous 3]

It’s a difficult thing to do, but here it is. There’s this saying, “You can either love women, or you can understand them.” The same applies for your mother.

It’s probably near impossible for most mortals to cease loving their mother if the bond is strong, however, it doesn’t prevent you from understanding her. Operate on a higher level than her. Be above of her drama and demands. It’s all beneath you. You don’t have to try to prove her wrong, as long as YOU know what’s right. Let her keep her delusions, and accept the reality of how deluded she is, and be ironclad, don’t be affected by any of it. Don’t lose sight of where you’re headed, keep going your own way.

[HereticParticipant 151]

Most moms in general are annoying as s~~~ to be around for any long periods of time. Including my mom.

If she’s living in the same state as you are, I’d suggest moving out of state as well if you ever get the chance to. I’m planning on doing just that.

Thankfully, both of my parents are in their 50s, so if I move out of state, they won’t come and visit me every other weekend like they’re doing now.

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

To understand the problem is knowledge. Knowledge is strength. Strength makes you stronger. Stronger =

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

Anonymous wrote:

A few months ago a guy from the Bahamas posted about how his entire life was fleeced away by his mother that favored his sister over him, his college fund he saved fore himself was spent on his sister, the guy was turned into a puddle of blue goo!

Any guy with a sister should watch his back, it’s almost as bad as being married.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[WhackerGuy2030Participant 999]

She doesn’t even know she’s doing it. That’s the nature of being a woman. I don’t believe they all desire to be evil, they just are. Many don’t even know it.
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You gotta put her in her place. Because she’s your mother, you owe her a few considerations I wouldn’t afford anyone else. Write these down…
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“You’re my mother, and I love you, but stay out of it. I’m an adult now.”
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When that doesn’t work, use this one.
“Mom, I am warning you. I want you to be part of my life, but stay outta my s~~~, and quit talking s~~~ about me to your friends while I’m standing here.”
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If/when that doesn’t work, tell her to f~~~ off and leave. A timeout from you will help her gain some perspective. Skip the holidays, quit calling her, don’t take her calls, quit visiting. Cut her out.
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The bible is full of s~~~ about caring for others, loving them, etc. Sometimes that love means slapping the s~~~ outta them until they pull their heads outta their asses.

[AttonParticipant]

Surprised that no one hasn’t gone after her for that much debt.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Kaido, your mother seems to have many of the same fundamental flaws that mine does. Do not beat yourself up for feeling this way about her. My mother was so toxic to me that at age 35 I cut her out of my life. It has been much more peaceful since. I can’t say I’m happy about, because you always want to have a great relationship with your parents. However, it is 10x better this way, and I would never go back short of a miracle on her part. There are 330 million people in the US, why would I want to attach myself to one that makes me sick for a few days after a conversation? I also have no respect for her and how she lives. Zero.

Anyway, in many cultures the mere thought of not speaking to a parent is taboo. I have had people either shame me or project their own positive parent relationship onto mine and assume I’m harsh. You have to then reset people’s minds on how the view they world or truly not give a f~~~, which I don’t.

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