So here’s my story for why I joined MGTOW after reading through the Forums over the past few weeks..
I’ve had a few relationships in my time over my 40-something years on this earth, but each one always ended with me ghosting them after a certain period of time due to the “signs” of bad behavior beginning to show after the “honeymoon phase” beginning wore off in the relationship. I always followed my Gutt with the motto of “3 major red flag strikes, your out” for a woman I was dating.
Luckily, I’ve never been married or had kids because I always took seriously in a relationship when a woman acted with entitlement or selfish behavior. I never fell for the “emotional” excuse since I feel that I would never talk to a woman I love with disrespect, so I expect the exact same high standard in return. If I treat you with utmost respect, I expect the exact same level of respect in return from any woman I’m committed to.
The Last Relationship i had was about 10 years ago when I went full Red Pill and didn’t have much interest in woman afterwards other than for just sex. She and I dated for about 2 years, she being a few years older than me. As the same ole story goes- our Chemistry and communication was excellent and everything you would have asked for during the first year- great conversation, sex, understanding and respect for each other. She was Classy, sexy, fun, funny, educated, financially well-off for herself and rose through the ranks over 20 years with the same Fortune 500 company. She looked like a Fox News anchor to boot, smokin hot. I thought I had the “real Deal” of a woman.
But, it never fails- woman begin changing their behavior as the relationship grows more comfortable for them. Usually after a year or so, their true emotions would show their ugly heads at one time or another.
After each fight and depending upon how angry I was, I would tell her I needed some space and ghost her for some duration of days, maybe a week
the 3 strikes…
1) went ballistic mad over the phone when I called ahead to say that I was going to be 15 minutes late picking her up for dinner one night, even after explaining it was because a customer walked into my office near closing time that kept me late at my office- not my fault, s~~~ happens… I hung up on her while she was screaming, we didn’t go out to dinner and I ghosted her for a few days after..
2) She lied about a party she had at her home that she called “girls night out”. I later found out that there were couples there and some dude she had dated in the past. I ghosted her for a week on this one, but I fell victim to her crap excuse thinking she was telling the truth. Needless to say, just lying about what the party was about should have made me leave her then.
3) after the Recession hit back in 2008 and I became “downsized” like many others who lost their jobs, I had a serious conversation with her about money. I explained that I needed to cut back wining/dining for us at fine restaurants until I find another job. We need to find cheaper entertainment for the time being. What was going through my mind is that I would have to change careers, take a pay cut and maybe not find a new job for months or years as bad as the economy was hemorrhaging jobs from the workforce. I wasn’t comfortable spending $$$/week on entertainment/dining-out that drained my savings unnecessarily for the simple fact of entertainment- it was time to overhaul spending like everyone else was doing. I never asked her to pay for anything, just understand the situation until I found another job… She says in a very cold, demeaning and callus voice that I will never forget ” Well, it’s the Man’s job to take care of things”…
I was really hurt by that conversation and that became my true Red Pill Moment when strike 3 happened. So, I said “I needed some space, I’ll call you next week”. I never called her again and sent her a “breakup” email instead about 2 weeks after. The email was short, only 3 sentences basically saying I’m breaking up with you and I don’t want to speak with you anymore. Although she blew up my phone after strike 3 with nice messages as if nothing ever happened. I found that extremely odd- sweet messages as if nothing happened and no apology? So, I ghosted her permanently, never called her again, changed my phone number and have deleted every stinking email and facebook messages over the years. She chased that relationship for 3 years after I ghosted her. How retarded is that?
How I found MGTOW was through my searching questions I asked over the internet about woman’s bad behaviors and tendencies..Then, I found real answers here.
Cheers,
BB
Meister 2 years, 5 months ago.
