G’day everyone on MGTOW.
My first post here, after joining up the other day, How did I find the site? that’s a story in itself really, but reading a bunch of forums regarding what the hell is up todays women, and the sheer amount of hoops you have to jump through, let alone before you can even be defined in a relationship these days is just astounding. Now while I’ll make a proper separate post on the dating section I do feel I should go over some points here too. I’ve always been in long term relationships. While I did have afew hook ups on the way, they were mearly relationships that didn’t pan out. in my 20’s I was with this army chick, some friends thought that was pretty cool, and it was since I was once looking to join too, I got to get a glimpse of that life without being in it. But the culture there especially on base might as well be a late night bar in the city where its all about hooking up with everyone, turns out after 4 good years she ended up cheating on me with someone there. As with being younger I dragged it out longer than I needed to and needlessly gave myself more grief than I should’ve allowed. Fast forward some years, and with another, who was my first, got back and spent 5 years in that. I left start of this year, and have been focusing more on myself since.
Probably should’ve seen the red flags, but with boobs right there sometimes its hard to see beyond that, she had a boy, who wasn’t mine, who’s 8. The real father typically was a total s~~~bag, Which did slightly make me feel good knowing I was always better than that, but I took on the father role all the same, At the end I was basically doing all the housework, cooking etc and looking for work, after doing some courses, including an online course. And I might add, once again I was letting myself feel like that was all I was there for, all I can is thank f~~~ it wasn’t marriage. I’ve been reinventing myself, spending time on my favourite video games, which really seems like some taboo these days especially with women, a guy can be a douche and get them but a guy who likes video games is a red flag? Once apon a time it did get a bit out of hand with the online MMO’s, but still, I do have life goals that i’m moving towards.
If you know my Profile picture.. yes I do like metal gear solid. I only wish they focused on story still instead of mainly the gameplay, as I dig the movie quality that games can possess. I have a bunch of tattoos, which I never get like random stuff of the tattoo shop wall, but whatever im into, if its a big thing for me, f~~~ the haters or whatever I get it done for myself, I even have a nice big Skyrim dragon tattoo that im quiet proud of. What really lead me from various forums etc to here though was the vast waste of time the dating sites have been for me. I’m average looking I guess, but not ugly by far. Getting work has been hard even though i’m always looking for it. I have college certificates, but it’s still hard, I do think that it’s like many have said here.. that they go straight to your “occupation” or “income” before even trying to know you at all. Ive had a lot of regections, but 90% of the time they at least don’t start conversation, which keeps it simple enough. But what gets up my nose is the ones more than happy to blah blah away just to they disappear, before a date can be set, or ones that have even stood me up after all of it.. Whew.. and lastly, I Did have a date the other week, that appeared as promising as hell, but we didn’t have chemistry “apparently” even though on the day you could’ve been mistaken.
It of course all falls back to my nature to and looking up about this “nice guy” syndrome online is what actually got me to find your website.. Now I shouldn’t have to become an asshole to get women, but if that’s the way it is, how is one meant to stamp out 33 years of just being themselves? which is exactly why I say to hell with it..
I’m going to be the best I can be for myself, and they can start to show me their worth too and what they can bring to the table. Prehaps even start conversation abit too, so its not just us doing all the risk for the reward, that’s why they’re able to take such a laidback approach to all of this.
This is really just the icing on the cake of what’s happened this far. But I’m making the future work more for me instead of against me.
Cheers for reading all of this! and I’m glad to be here and share my stories with you guys. Oh I’m in Australia too. š
Lets enjoy ourselves while we are here!
Frank V. 4 years, 3 months ago.
